should i confront her or not? need some advice

[russpogi]

Chong, mejo mahirap yang situation mo.

1. Is it safe to assume that she’s coming clean now considering that the pic was dated during the 1st month of our relationship, which she’s not that into me yet, coz of the reason she gave about our age gap? Or should I consider more what she said few days after the 1st month that she decided to continue the relationship and not confront her about my findings? If she’s coming clean then why didn’t she remove their pic yet and status is "married"?

Don't assume anything yet. Talk to her first. If it's ok, may I know your age? Me and my girlfriend have a 5 year age gap kse. Maybe I can relate.

2. If I confront her about my findings, is there a chance that she would not want to continue the relationship anymore coz she might think that I may not trust her anymore instead of explaining her side to me?

This gives you more reason to talk to her about this. Remeber, a relationship without trust is worth nothing. Trust may be broken but it not meant to be given back. To get a person's trust (especially when lost) it must be EARNED.

3. Or should I wait further for any new pics to come up and go from there?

The longer you wait, the more painful it's gonna be.

4. Was it wrong on my part to open some of her emails in the sent folder? I don’t think I’m wrong coz I’m her boyfriend and she gave me authority to open her email account but I could be wrong. pwede ba niya akong hiritan ng i don't trust her kaya i checked her emails and use it against me to break up para lumabas ako ang may mali although mas malaki mali niya?

Para sa 'kin, it's not wrong since she was the one who told you to open her email. Maybe (MAYBE) she did this on purpose or what not. Kung may tinatago ang tao sa yo, gagawin nya lahat ng pwede to protect what the person is hiding.

5. If I decided to confront her about it, is it better to confront her or should I ask the ex instead about the real score between them, maybe the ex will be more honest about it?

Mahirap to ah. If it was me, I'd do a little research of my own then talk to her.


If you notice, I did not use the word "confront". Bago pa lang kayo sa relationship and "confront" does not sound right. Talk to her straight up, wag pasikot-sikot. Get the right info on your research before talking to your girl. Best to do it at a neutral place, not your place nor hers.

HTH