should i confront her or not? need some advice

[russpogi]

Chong, mejo mahirap yang situation mo.

1. Is it safe to assume that she’s coming clean now considering that the pic was dated during the 1st month of our relationship, which she’s not that into me yet, coz of the reason she gave about our age gap? Or should I consider more what she said few days after the 1st month that she decided to continue the relationship and not confront her about my findings? If she’s coming clean then why didn’t she remove their pic yet and status is "married"?

Don't assume anything yet. Talk to her first. If it's ok, may I know your age? Me and my girlfriend have a 5 year age gap kse. Maybe I can relate.

2. If I confront her about my findings, is there a chance that she would not want to continue the relationship anymore coz she might think that I may not trust her anymore instead of explaining her side to me?

This gives you more reason to talk to her about this. Remeber, a relationship without trust is worth nothing. Trust may be broken but it not meant to be given back. To get a person's trust (especially when lost) it must be EARNED.

3. Or should I wait further for any new pics to come up and go from there?

The longer you wait, the more painful it's gonna be.

4. Was it wrong on my part to open some of her emails in the sent folder? I don’t think I’m wrong coz I’m her boyfriend and she gave me authority to open her email account but I could be wrong. pwede ba niya akong hiritan ng i don't trust her kaya i checked her emails and use it against me to break up para lumabas ako ang may mali although mas malaki mali niya?

Para sa 'kin, it's not wrong since she was the one who told you to open her email. Maybe (MAYBE) she did this on purpose or what not. Kung may tinatago ang tao sa yo, gagawin nya lahat ng pwede to protect what the person is hiding.

5. If I decided to confront her about it, is it better to confront her or should I ask the ex instead about the real score between them, maybe the ex will be more honest about it?

Mahirap to ah. If it was me, I'd do a little research of my own then talk to her.


If you notice, I did not use the word "confront". Bago pa lang kayo sa relationship and "confront" does not sound right. Talk to her straight up, wag pasikot-sikot. Get the right info on your research before talking to your girl. Best to do it at a neutral place, not your place nor hers.

HTH

[scarab]

...old habits die hard.

[Negus]

you can ask the ex-bf casually via his friendster/email basta huwag mo haluan ng init ng ulo. baka hindi din alam ng ex na may relation kayo. basta huwag init ulo, tamang approach lang ang kailangan. kung matino naman yung ex, siguro naman sasabihin niya totoo...

yung age gap, ala naman sigurong problema dun basta hindi laging naghihingi yung girl ng kung anuano

[basti08]

yup, dont decide when you're still emotional. it's gonna be messy.

try not to lose your cool. think. decide. offer a talk to your girl. set her free if the situation calls for it. remember, be cool!

now if you can't....













.....just dump the b!tch!!! ;)

[nugundam93]

song for the thread...

tug-pshhh--tug-tug-pshhhh...

i just want bang! bang! bang!
i don't want relationship
i just want bang! bang! bang!
i don't want to know your name
i just want bang! bang! bang!
i don't want to meet your mom...

and the song goes on...sa mga nakakarelate. hehehehe! group X flash video. :lol:

BI ko 'no?

[russpogi]

Bilis ng replies sa thread ah! hehehe!

[oldblue]

yes. and stop picking gf's from chatrooms too. sa profile pa lang ng girls on chatrooms, di na dapat seryosohin. pero kung trip lang, by all means.

[empy]

give her a chance to explain herself. everyone deserves a chance to tell their side and be heard with an open mind.

if she lies, dump her.

if you're not satisfied with or trusting the explanation, dump her.

if she comes clean but promises not to do it again, it's your decision (and no one but you!) whether you feel you can trust her again. if not, dump her.

but before you dump her, get the buttseks first :banana3:

j/k about that last part

[nugundam93]

but before you dump her, get the buttseks first :banana3:

best advice evAr! :lol:

[tinky]

Do not keep it bottled up because the longer you wait, the more it's gonna eat you up inside. And believe me, just thinking about it would give you sleepless nights.

Confront her. You may not like what you're going to hear but suck it up. I'm a girl and just by reading your story , it's crystal clear that she's not over him yet.

[nugundam93]

you could confront her...

pero in the end, break up with her. no use continuing with this, talo ka lang bro.