respect: earned or impose?

[alwayz_yummy]

it actually depends on the situation or relationship.

in person-person relationships in western countries it is usually earned. in eastern societies it is given and it is up to the recipient to keep it or lose it. i follow the later.

between parent and child it is first taught, then expected by the parent from the child. then as the child grows older it is both kept and earned. when the child becomes an adult then it could change as in person-person above.

yes it should be thought nung bata pa, pero what if, di naturuan ng proper respect ang anak, nung tumanda at nagkaisip na, parang magdedemand ng respect ang magulang na yun sa anak nya...lumaki ung bata sa salita ng magulang na "wala kang respeto!bastos!walang galang!"

in a family, when will the respect be given and earned and when it should be imposed?

[roninblade]

tama si sir yebo, it depends on the situation and relationship.

[Sarsi]

respect is earned.
it should not be imposed . It happened to me once. A co-worker who's acting as if she know's everything(gen manager daw un dun sa company) once told me that she would appreciate if i respect her, but i told her, she should not asked for it, it should be earned, NOT ASKED. Her face turned red, she never talked to me again after that.

[alwayz_yummy]

simple word, pero malaki ang impact sa pakikisalamuha....hay...

just keep on posting nalang, check ko pagbalik ko..

*hahanapin ko muna kung anu pang klase ng "respeto" ang gusto pa ng nanay ko...di ko daw siya nirerespto at minamahal....

[scarab]

...earned unless you wana be respected out of fear.

[mazdamazda]

the topic is just TOO BROAD.

you should also try to define "respect".

in the office...

you give due respect people according to their ranks.

though that is different if you respect them as a person.

e.g. an SVP who is perceived to a be a good-for-nothing. out of respect for his position, you don't call him by just by his first name (applicable to pinoy office culture) or use "hoy" to call him. but that doesn't mean that you respect him for the work that he has done.

[roninblade]

...earned unless you wana be respected out of fear.

there's no such thing. its either you're respected or feared.

[russpogi]

Usually earned but at times, imposed. It really depends on the situation. Like what M2 said, the topic is too broad.

[yebo]

i think you confuse respect with discipline.

to teach a child "respect" is not the same as teaching the child to say "po" and "opo". it is something that is taught by example, like when the parent shows respect to the grandparents and to other people. it is also not the same as telling the child to follow what is told because obedience is not the same as respect either. rather it is showing the child first that what is told is right, rational and morally upright. only when the child learns that what the elder is doing is "respectful" will that child show respect to the elder.

[Asus700]

i think you confuse respect with discipline.

to teach a child "respect" is not the same as teaching the child to say "po" and "opo". it is something that is taught by example, like when the parent shows respect to the grandparents and to other people. it is also not the same as telling the child to follow what is told because obedience is not the same as respect either. rather it is showing the child first that what is told is right, rational and morally upright. only when the child learns that what the elder is doing is "respectful" will that child show respect to the elder.

so true, remember the story of the child being asked by her mother to sit down?

the mother said "sit down". the child said "I won't". the mother repeated "I said sit down!" with a louder tone. the child replied, "i will not". The mother finally said "sit down!" while holding her slipper and pointing it to the child. the child finally sat down but said "I may be sitting down but i'm standing up on the inside!"

hehehe

[GasJunkie]

Kind of hard to stand up with two broken legs......






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Edit I earn respect by using a big stick........ :hysterical:

[lolo pepe]

yes it should be thought nung bata pa, pero what if, di naturuan ng proper respect ang anak, nung tumanda at nagkaisip na, parang magdedemand ng respect ang magulang na yun sa anak nya...lumaki ung bata sa salita ng magulang na "wala kang respeto!bastos!walang galang!"

in a family, when will the respect be given and earned and when it should be imposed?

within a family, respect goes hand in hand with love. when you give your love to your parents, you also give them respect. respect therefore, in this case, is not earned or imposed, but given by you to your parents since the time na nagkaisip ka.

kung me tampuhan kayo paminsan minsan, syempre bukambibig ng matatanda yan. don't take it so hard. kahit saan ka pa makarating, mga magulang mo yan. pag ako ang nakarinig ng ganito ay pasok lang sa isang tenga at labas sa kabila. lambing lang sa nanay ang katapat nyan...alam mo naman ang matatanda lalo na pag nag asawa ka na...naghahanap ng pansin...hehehe

kaya bigyan mo ng konting lambing at TLC si nanay.