Question to all MEN..

[Innova_Boy]

Will you allow your wife or SOON TO BECOME WIFE to get a job in these hard times?? or you will just let them stay at home (HOUSEWIFE) and watch the kids/baby?? and why pls??
Thanks for sharing your opinions...

WBR,

[bilog]

ganito din ang pinagiisipan namin ni misis dati.

Why not... I think it will help your family financially.

When my wife got pregnant i asked her to quit her job and rest until her delivery date. She used to work in a hotel and sometimes her schedule requires her to take the graveyard shift. After delivery, she opted to stay and take care of the baby for a year. Gusto nya daw maganda ang bonding nila. In the end nainip din sya sa bahay and is now working again for a bank. Up to this day nalulungkot pa din sya when she leave our baby with the yaya.

[BlackPrince]

hi, IMO i would say,
#1. let your wife work if she likes it. you may want to consider who will look after your kids while both of you are at work? If you have your mom or your mother-in-law with yayas i think this would be ok. BUT,
#2. if you have sufficient income to provide for the needs of your family then it would be better if your wife stays at home.

Personally, I choose #1. I'm on it right now.

good luck.

[mazdamazda]

IMO - Let her do whatever she wants. Work if she gets bored at home - quit from work if she gets burned out.

[Altis6453]

Depends dude. If you're just starting out, you may or may not have the financial stability just yet so your wife should work to help out. Then again, if you make more than enough, you can just let your wife watch over the kids at home.

[Innova_Boy]

tHANKS for those who replied already..

I'm asking these coz my sis in law has a BF who wants her to quit her job in a well paying job in Makati earning a 2XXXX.00 a month (after they got married)..

Now they are on their own coz my sis-in-law doesn't want to leave her job.. Oh well that's big decision alright considering their been close for almost 2 years na..

WBR,

[stinkaboy]

My gf always tells me that she wants to work even if we have kids na. So let she do the things she wants/likes, be supportive as long as its constructive to the relationship.

[nitrox]

I would allow her to work if :
- her job is worthy enough to significantly increase our household income
- her job would give her enough time to take care of the family
- we can have someone trusted to watch the kids, manage the house while we are away.
- we can afford to cover the expenses for the previous item (baka kasi in the end, maging quits lang pag ni-netto mo yung additional income nya against the increase expenditures).

Otherwise, probably she can pursue a part-time/consultancy job which would keep her occupied and still have time to manage the household.

[empy]

my philosophy is that it's not my place to allow or deny her anything. she controls her own life and it's her right to work for any goals that she sees fit. of course, i can request that she make sacrifices for the good of the family and i know that if the request makes sense, she'll say yes.

biggest example is when i wanted to quit my job to follow my dreams of grad school, she agreed to move with me and make me her palamunin for 2 years :lol: now i make more than twice as much as her and i'm encouraging her to follow her own dreams of changing jobs and working towards a management position kasi may security naman siya sa akin. so give and take yan.

medyo malaki na yung son namin so we can become more flexible with hours, travel, etc. also.

finally, as far as managing the household, hindi por que babae, siya ang automatic na may responsibility sa bahay. if she chooses to work, we husbands need to do our fair share around the house (and the kids too!)

[stinkaboy]

My gf always tells me that she wants to work even if we have kids na. So let her do the things she wants/likes, be supportive as long as its constructive to the relationship.

[johnart]

I let her decide what she wants. I only step in when work affects her health

[BlueBimmer]

let her do what she wants, para walang sisihan sa huli. pangit ung sumbatan ka ng 'e ikaw nagsabi dati ganyan blah blah blah'

[zero]

my wife has been employed for 12 years na sa bpi.
she told me a month ago that she wants quit na rin and it's ok with me naman.
i told her that we will have to give up the nanny if she quits.
ewan ko na ngayon...
i think she's having second thoughts na yata mag-early retirement??

[ranod55]

well for me,its up to her! if she like to work,find for me-if she doesnt like,good for me co'z she can look after our kids.but now a days everything is difficult the life in livinghood all are high.wika nga eh "Mas maganda buhatin at magaan ang isang bagay kung may katulong ka" mahirap din kasi ang isang kamay lang ang gumagawa,iba yung nagtutulungan kayong dalawa,anyway this for the family not for others and future...

[mrpink]

i let my wife work .. mas mataas yung sweldo niya sa akin eh ..

[Mguy]

Its not for the guys to decide if she wants to work or not. Let her decide for herself. Whatever she does decide and has a reason for it, we must support her for that.

The kids will turn out fine if both parents give them attention always.

[theveed]

Kami baligtad, nagsemi-retire asawa ko sa Citibank after 7 years of agony and disappointment hehe. Right now, alaga nya si anak. Ako lang nagwowork.

Funny thing is, mas nakakaipon kami right now since budget is more controlled and planned, unlike dati mas may extra money di napupuna san pumupunta yung pera.

Main advantage talaga for our son, sobra syang happy with the mom being there all the time (wala kaming yaya). He's learning a lot of new things and my wife is enjoying her time with our son as well.

Unlike dati napapaiyak sya kasi pag uwi nya sa work, pagod na sya and tulog na anak namin, sa umaga sandali lang nya nakakasama.

Negatives naman the fact that wala kaming helper, mas pagod sya sa chores and taking care of our kid full time.

She still has this guilt feeling of hindi fair dahil ako lang nagwowork, feeling nya nahihirapan ako which isn't true.

While it may seem nice for us to "think" mas ok financially if she can again have a regular income, I told her naman na hanggat kaya namin and nakakaipon pa kami, ok lang kami sa current setup.

If nahihirapan sya sa chores, we can get a temp helper 2x a week or something.

We both dont like the idea of leaving our child sa maid/lola/relatives nalang lagi.

While it's true na decision nya yun, honestly, if you have obligations to a child/children, it's a family decision and not just one person.

[RedHotBlood]

i let my wife work .. mas mataas yung sweldo niya sa akin eh ..

hahaha... Pareho tayo mas laki kita nya kesa sa akin! sya pa nagbibigay na allowance ko hehehe. Pero if given a choice she would prefer to take care of our son na lang. Sa panahon ngayon dapat pareho kayo work para mas magaan, lalo na kung may babayarin. If you have a good salary income which i mean is very good to cover all your expenses, then it's better na plain housewife na lang sya, if not trabaho na lang and get a yaya but that's another 3k pa din added to your monthly bills.

[RedHotBlood]

hehehe pareho kami ni Mrpink, misis ko pa nagbibigay allowance sa akin! Pero sa misis ko, she would prefer sa house na lang para mag-alaga. Maganda lang talaga benefits nla sa company kaya hinayang din sya. If you're earning a very good income which i mean is very good to cover all your expenses then it would be better plain housewife na lang sla but if not, kuha ka na lang ng yaya but that's another 3k added to your monthly bill...

[roninblade]

i let her decide what she wants to do in almost anything including the the topic at hand.