How do you handle kids na ayaw paiwan sa school?

**kapitan88** · July 26th, 2005 01:26 PM

its been over a month already, ayaw pa din mag paiwan ng daughter ko sa school. Sya na lang sa class nila ang nagpapabantay. I dont know what else to do. I tried to convince her na, i've tried rewards na din. Napalo ko na din, pero everytime, sasabihin nya na papaiwan na sya, but when d morning comes, dami na alibis tapos eventually, di na rin papaiwan.

Ano kaya ang best approach sa ganitong situation? Wala naman sya kinatatakutan sa school, (not that i know of) Even her teacher say that she performs very well in class.

**cutedoc** · July 26th, 2005 02:09 PM

you cant leave your kid at that instant kasi attach pa siya sa parents or sa yaya, parang the kid would feel alone pag iniwan siya, or the kid will feel na ayaw sa kanya kaya iiyak siya agad pag ala yung parent of yaya sa tabi niya, what i could suggest is try to leave them at home muna, like if they watch TV(barney is good) he will start to sing and dance with barney, then at school when the kids starts playing he will start to play with them kasi familiar siya sa barney(its a barney world now) but if you plan to leave them in the TV make sure that theres a yaya that would look over the kid, even from afar, basta naklikita siya. the kid is still uncomfortable with the new environment thats why he is still apprehensive in mingling with other kids, but dont beat or hit them, try to talk with the kid firt, ok yun me reward yung bata

**CtrlAltDel** · July 26th, 2005 02:09 PM

Originally Posted by kapitan88

its been over a month already, ayaw pa din mag paiwan ng daughter ko sa school. Sya na lang sa class nila ang nagpapabantay. I dont know what else to do. I tried to convince her na, i've tried rewards na din. Napalo ko na din, pero everytime, sasabihin nya na papaiwan na sya, but when d morning comes, dami na alibis tapos eventually, di na rin papaiwan.

Ano kaya ang best approach sa ganitong situation? Wala naman sya kinatatakutan sa school, (not that i know of) Even her teacher say that she performs very well in class.

Ganyan din dati ang anak ko nung Prep and Kinder. Wala kaming magawa kundi hintayin hanggang uwian. Buti nalang matiyaga si misis, heheh. Nung Grade 1 pwede na iwanan at meron na ring school service vehicle.

Baka kailangang kayo na muna mag-adjust sa kanya. Your problem would be kung sino ang maghihintay dun.

**1D4LV** · July 26th, 2005 02:13 PM

ilang taon na yung anak mo?
i think ang pagiwan sa kanya sa school is a gradual process. first, you have to psyche her up, na kunwari, big girls go to school alone, etc, etc.
tapos try mo na for the first to the second week, andyan yung yaya. but on the third week, kunwari, puro sundo na lang o puro hatid na lang ang gagawin. that way, medyo nakatanim na sa isip nya na kaya pala nyang magisa sa school. tapos by then, after you determine as such, pwede mo ng iwan yan.

ako kasi yung anak ko, buong kinder year nya, ganyan. may nakatutok na yaya. tapos ngayon prep na, sinusundo na lang (kailangan kasing tutukan yung likod eh...). at first, ayaw nyang pumayag, pero konti uto lang, ok na.

**theveed** · July 26th, 2005 02:55 PM

dalhin mo sya na tulog, tapos iwan sa classroom hehe... joke...

hmm come to think of it, i wouldn't know what to do either pag schooling age na anak ko.

**mantoy** · July 26th, 2005 03:02 PM

ako first few weeks pinapasama ko yaya. nung comfortable na sya sa mga classmates at teacher nya eventually napapayag ko na sunduin na lang sya pag uwian. tama yung ibang posters, gradual process yung pag-iwan sa kanya. a little more than a month pa lang naman eh so pagtyagaan nyo muna. :D

**RedHorse** · July 26th, 2005 05:20 PM

nasa big school na ba? or some sort of learning center pa lang? sa learning center dati na pinasukan ng kids ko, dami ganyan na kids, girls mostly, they will cry and the teachers just let them cry then sleep he he he, matagal na ang two weeks adjusted na yan. That, of course kung magaling sa psych ng kids ang pinasukan ... pag present kasi any of the parent sa school, lalo tatagal adjustment period.

here's what to do: tell her, assure her that her mom or yaya is waiting for her right after the class, NEVER ever miss sa sunduan time, at madadala talaga ang bata.

**yebo** · July 26th, 2005 05:31 PM

hindi ako maka-relate!

yung 3 yr old namin nasa nursery ngayon. hindi marunong mahiya o matakot na mag-isa. 2 times na sya nawala sa SM North and 1 time sa Megamall. Sa manila zoo nga nawala ng 2 hours (pero alam namin kung nasan sya, sinisilip namin nakatago kami) bale wala sa kanya, enjoy na enjoy ang loka. pag nagpunta kami sa SM sa playhouse ang laging punta nya, at dun siya ng walang kasama (yaya nasa labas sinisilip lang siya). so 1st day of school, binilin lang namin na makinig siya sa sasabihin ng teachers nya. ayun, pagpasok sa school room upo siya sa harap then nag-bye-bye kay misis. uwi na sila ng yaya, binalikan na lang after class. sa awa ni Lord 1st PTA meeting ang comment sa kanya ng teacher, "most active". in other words, makulit!

1 year old namin nagmana din. pag nasa mall hahayaan lang namin maglakad ng mag-isa. di man lang kami hinahanap kahit 1 hour na di kami nakikita .op kors nakatago kami behind counters, clothes racks, etc. sinusundan ko lang siya mag-explore ng mag-isa nya na hindi niya ako nakikita.

sanayin mo lang na mag-isa pards. dala mo sa play ground or sa playhouse sa SM, then leave mo siya dun na mag-enjoy. later on masanay din yan.

umiiyak lang yung 2 kulit namin pag nakabihis kami tapos nakita na ni-ready ko ang car at alam nila house clothes ang suot nila. tatakbo na 2 kulit sa taas kukuha ng damit hahabol sa amin.

**silhouette** · July 26th, 2005 05:33 PM

i agree with HG. gradual yan bro. tyaga lang muna kayo. though i strongly suggest na makakuha sya ng kaibigan sa class nya. ipakilala mo sa medyo strong personality, pero hindi naman makulit. time will come na hindi ka na papansinin nyan dahil looking forward na sya sa classmate/friend nya.

good luck bro. ganyan talaga ang parents. sacrifice.

**Hayward** · July 26th, 2005 05:39 PM

I have two kids that have gone through that phase lalo na pag start ng klase but eventually they got used to being left in class. Sa tingin ko its a combination of the home and school environment but more at home. When you leave your kid at home dahil me lakad kayong mag-asawa and your kid always cries, take time to explain why you are leaving her. huwag tatakasan kasi it will just make matters worse. Nadadala nya yun hanggang sa school. It will also help if you talk to her teacher to psyche her up. Tinuturo naman sa mga teachers yun e. These are my experiences with my kids. Hope it helps.