ALERT: Tragic Story

[moejun2]

tanatej,

as i see it, there is a need to be sarcastic. as you said, we all have the right to express our opinions so there. i can be sarcastic without being TOO demeaning. if you want to leave it at that then so be it, but if you say something else HILARIOUS like you two are a DIFFERENT BREED of men then that there could lead to more comments and possibly ridicule. open your eyes and see the bigger picture instead of focusing on the guy's fault (which apparently is nonexistent, to my eyes)

[moejun2]

The least he could do is check up on her once in a while to know where she is. Thus my belief that he could have done more to avoid any untoward incidents (thus helping her escape her parent's/guardian's notice) by proactively fetching her at Encore.

So you're saying that the boyfriend should have helped cover the girl's apparent sneaking out of the house? As a parent how would you feel if you found out your daughter's boyfriend was helping her leave the house for parts unknown late at night and endangering her life in the process? The guy did an admirable thing by not encouraging her to do something which he felt was not right - going out without the parents' permission. And here you are telling me that it would've been better if the guy covered for the girl.

As the others have said earlier, this is the age of gender equality, a time to act responsibly and a time to fess up when we make mistakes. yes, the girl was beaten up pretty bad and of course the taxi driver should be put in jail but to implicate the boyfriend and to identify his absence as the main point is kinda laughable TO ME and apparently to many others as well. you hold on to your beliefs if they help you sleep better at night.

btw and i hope this never happens: when your daughter grows up, i hope her boyfriend doesn't cover for her when she leaves the house without your permission. further, if anything bad happens to your daughter for any reason, i know for certain whom you're going to blame.

[frake]

Totoo naman ang gender equality sa panahon ngayon pero andun pa din ang katotohanan na walang laban ang babae sa lalake lalo't sa karahasan. Kaya nga kinukwestyon ang responsibilidad ng lalake na kung naisip nya yun, maaaring naiwasan sana.

*tanatej - salamat, sir. Kaya ko din pinangarap magkaron ng auto eh dahil sa pamilya ko. Natutunan ko lang din kasi na bilang lalake dapat maging leader tayo sa pamilya natin. Responsable ako kahihinatnan ng pamilya ko at handa akong harapin ang sisi sa akin. Sa lagpas dekadang pagsasama namin ng misis ko, may mga pagkakataon na hinahatiran ko pa sya ng almusal sa kama. Pero syempre this time kasabay na namin dalawang anak namin sa pag-kain...hehehe! gusto ko kasing mamulat din ang mga anak ko sa ganung dedikasyon sa pamiya.

Back to topic: Nakikita ko na din 'tong topic na 'to sa ibang sites. Nakakaawa ang na-experience ni GF. I just hope hwag nya ng maliitin ang masasamang loob sa panahon ngayon.

[moejun2]

the problem with some people is they miss the real issue. or maybe they just don't want to see it. the girl could and should have acted properly to avoid such situation. first, she could have informed her parents that she was going out, or she could have chosen not to go out at all. second, the way she acted on the way home was a bit questionable, and she had the gall to say that she wasn't drunk. IF THE GIRL WANTED TO AVOID PROBLEMS, SHE SHOULD HAVE DONE THE RIGHT THING IN THE FIRST PLACE.

again, the goon was at fault, the lady was at fault, but the boyfriend? seriously? he was home studying for his exam and the girl was out partying yet it's still his fault that the whole thing happened?

i've gone on long enough and it's time to move on. back to the topic.

[kame]

tanatej,

as i see it, there is a need to be sarcastic. as you said, we all have the right to express our opinions so there. i can be sarcastic without being TOO demeaning. if you want to leave it at that then so be it, but if you say something else HILARIOUS like you two are a DIFFERENT BREED of men then that there could lead to more comments and possibly ridicule. open your eyes and see the bigger picture instead of focusing on the guy's fault (which apparently is nonexistent, to my eyes)

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oo nga naman...

[roninblade]

rare breed of men? :lol: sorry but i just have to laugh at this.

i can understand your point of view pero it's obvious that the bf doesn't believe like you do. you say to each his own di ba?

the problem we have with you is that you're too focused on your 'belief' that men should have a shepherd role, thereby putting the blame on the bf, instead of just admitting the immaturity and wrong decision making of the girl.

[frenchtower]

The boyfriend is not at fault... period

[n2knee]

so kasalanan ng BF niya yun nangyari sa kanya?

saan nakasulat na responsibility ng BF niya na sunduin siya?

i'm with you on that Bro Shadow...hindi kasalanan ng boyfriend ng babae ang nangyari. siguro pwede nating ilagay ang blame sa mga kasama nya at saka sa sarili nya. unang una, kung responsible kang kasama tignan mo kung nasa tamang kalagayan ang kasama mo bago mo pauwiin na mag isa. pangalawa, bakit mo ipagpipilitan na umuwing mag isa ng madaling araw lalo na't alam mong delikado?

[n2knee]

rare breed of men? :lol: Sorry but i just have to laugh at this.

I can understand your point of view pero it's obvious that the bf doesn't believe like you do. You say to each his own di ba?

The problem we have with you is that you're too focused on your 'belief' that men should have a shepherd role, thereby putting the blame on the bf, instead of just admitting the immaturity and wrong decision making of the girl.

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[n2knee]

Gaya nga ng sabi ko may sarili tayong mga opinyon. Opinyon ko na dapat naging responsable ang lalake DAHIL SINABI SA KANYA KUNG SAAN SIYA PUMUNTA. The least he could do is check up on her once in a while to know where she is. Thus my belief that he could have done more to avoid any untoward incidents (thus helping her escape her parent's/guardian's notice) by proactively fetching her at Encore.

Again, this is my opinion and to my belief the main point, if you have a different main point then believe in that, it's a free country and you can believe in what you want. But let's respect each other's opinion without being sarcastic, because there's really no need to and it doesn't prove anything. I have my beliefs, you have your beliefs, let's leave it at that.

i guess most of us grew up in different places/countries, hence our beliefs are different. when my gf/or wife tells me she's going out with her friends and as long as she tells me where they are going then there should be no need to be checking up on her. that kind of attitude would do more harm than good in the relationship. let her have fun with her friends.