Are you single or married?

[dr. d]

Maybe among pinoy couples na nurse or medical field yung wife, pero I think that is rare sa Caucasians.

Ang hirap respetuhin ng houseband. That's so against nature/biology. Role reversal, that can't be good for the children.

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google "actresses or celebrities who married nobodies".

[uls]

Uso na din yan sa America. Kung mas malaki talaga kita ng babae eh di househusband na lang meron pa magbantay sa anak


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in the long run baka mag hiwalay mga yan

mawawalan ng respeto ang misis sa mister

ang mister naman magiging insecure

pagdududahan ang misis, magseselos

dun mag uumpisa ang away

[_Cathy_]

google "actresses or celebrities who married nobodies".

They may be nobodies but doesn't mean they are housebands or jobless. Also, exception na yan.

in the long run baka mag hiwalay mga yan

mawawalan ng respeto ang misis sa mister

ang mister naman magiging insecure

pagdududahan ang misis, magseselos

dun mag uumpisa ang away

Yup that's true. Nature/biology na yan e. And it is regardless of social status, from poor to rich.

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[dr. d]

They may be nobodies but doesn't mean they are housebands or jobless. Also, exception na yan.

doesn't mean, they ain't, either.
we simply do not know.
and just because we do not know, don't mean it's the exception.

and as househelp there isn't probably as commonplace as househelp here,
i imagine,
it's probably more common there than we think.

i have a doctor classmate there, she had a literal houseband.
and no, the relationship didn't last.

[_Cathy_]

doesn't mean, they ain't, either.
we simply do not know.
and just because we do not know, don't mean it's the exception.

and as househelp there isn't probably as commonplace as househelp here,
i imagine,
it's probably more common there than we think.

i have a doctor classmate there, she had a literal houseband.
and no, the relationship didn't last.

Like I said housebands are common in the medical field among Filipinos in the US. We personally know a lot at marami din nga naghiwalay. No matter how people defend it, against tha nature at emasculating for a guy to be a houseband. Unless he is a feminine man? Lol

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[dr. d]

Like I said housebands are common in the medical field among Filipinos in the US. We personally know a lot at marami din nga naghiwalay. No matter how people defend it, against tha nature at emasculating for a guy to be a houseband. Unless he is a feminine man? Lol

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in my kakilala's case,
emasculation wasn't the reason for non-lastingness.

[uls]

i can imagine pag ang lalake nasa bahay tapos ung misis nasa corporate world

sooner of later the husband's imagination will cause problems

he'll start thinking may ibang lalake misis niya

he'll become suspicious... start asking his wife who texted, who called...

"bakit ngayon ka lang umuwi?"

[dr. d]

i can imagine pag ang lalake nasa bahay tapos ung misis nasa corporate world

sooner of later the husband's imagination will cause problems

he'll start thinking may ibang lalake misis niya

he'll become suspicious... start asking his wife who texted, who called...

"bakit ngayon ka lang umuwi?"

... sounds what i hear from the noontime soap operas in the AM radio..

[uls]

... sounds what i hear from the noontime soap operas in the AM radio..

haha script writer kasi ako

pero nakakababa sa self esteem ng lalake pag misis ang breadwinner

unless sobra kapal ng mukha ng lalake

haha

[uls]

pero kahit makapal mukha ng lalake he'll start imagining things parin

kasi dependent siya sa pera ng wife, pano pag iwan siya ng wife

so he will become suspicious

[_Cathy_]

... sounds what i hear from the noontime soap operas in the AM radio..

Life imitating art. Common story ng hiwalayan sa Tulfo. OFW wife, houseband. Either the wife or husband cheats at issue ang pera/work

pero nakakababa sa self esteem ng lalake pag misis ang breadwinner

unless sobra kapal ng mukha ng lalake

EXACTLY. Hindi ko mare respeto houseband.



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[uls]

pag malala na ang insecurity ng lalake mapapadalas ang away

the husband will use violence to assert his pagkalalake

kawawa ung misis

siya na nga nagtatrabaho tapos pag uwi niya aawayin pa

baka saktan pa physical

[Tha_Mann]

ang mabait na mister binibigay buong sweldo sa misis tapos ung misis ang nagbibigay ng allowance sa mister

thanks bro, ako ito haha. since nung mag plan pa lang kami magpa kasal, binigay ko na ATM ko sa then-gf, now wife ko hehe.

[dr. d]

thanks bro, ako ito haha. since nung mag plan pa lang kami magpa kasal, binigay ko na ATM ko sa then-gf, now wife ko hehe.

ahem,
i never surrendered my ATM card to wifey.
she simply advises me how much to withdraw and hand over to her...

[Tha_Mann]

ahem,
i never surrendered my ATM card to wifey.
she simply advises me how much to withdraw and hand over to her...

doc, tamad kasi ako mag withdraw haha. my wife knows my online bank account too, then transfer na lang nya sa account nya for the bills payments. kung need lang ng cash, then duon sya mag withdraw.

bihira na din sa mga friends, officemates ko (lalo na yung mga millennials and gen zs) na binibigay lahat sa wife nila ang buong sweldo. usually, may kanya kanya silang money then hati na lang sila sa bills.

[uls]

thanks bro, ako ito haha. since nung mag plan pa lang kami magpa kasal, binigay ko na ATM ko sa then-gf, now wife ko hehe.

may nag correct sakin bro

di daw mabait ang ganun

dapat lang yan hehe

that's bare minimum

pag kinulang ang sweldo, gagawa ka ng paraan para dagdagan

para umangat sa bare minimum

[_Cathy_]

doc, tamad kasi ako mag withdraw haha. my wife knows my online bank account too, then transfer na lang nya sa account nya for the bills payments. kung need lang ng cash, then duon sya mag withdraw.

bihira na din sa mga friends, officemates ko (lalo na yung mga millennials and gen zs) na binibigay lahat sa wife nila ang buong sweldo. usually, may kanya kanya silang money then hati na lang sila sa bills.

Yup. Older Millenial ako and among my married friends ang usual set up, may joint bank acct where they both put in a % of their salary for the expenses/bills etc then separate personal accounts na wala sila pakialamanan.

Sobrang concerned ng friends ko sakin that they go the extent of telling me how money set up is pag married. May iba naman ako perspective aside from my parents. Hehe.

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[Tha_Mann]

may nag correct sakin bro

di daw mabait ang ganun

dapat lang yan hehe

that's bare minimum

pag kinulang ang sweldo, gagawa ka ng paraan para dagdagan

para umangat sa bare minimum

hahaha. kaya ako pag kinulang sweldo, lipat na agad ng company

Yup. Older Millenial ako and among my married friends ang usual set up, may joint bank acct where they both put in a % of their salary for the expenses/bills etc then separate personal accounts na wala sila pakialamanan.

Sobrang concerned ng friends ko sakin that they go the extent of telling me how money set up is pag married. May iba naman ako perspective aside from my parents. Hehe.

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kami ng wife ko kasi naniniwala pa din na dapat iisa lang ang money namin (although nag stop na sya mag work 2010 para mag fulltime mom na sya), and dapat may common goals kami. any big purchases, need namin pag isipan and dapat both mag agree kami. kaya kontrolado nya luho ko, pati nga pag buy ng mags eh need din namin pag usapan, kahit color hehe. minsan kahit yung sariling ipon from my allowance eh pag may bibilhin ako eh sasabihin ko pa din sa kanya as fyi lang para nde din naman mabigla, baka isipin eh na by-pass ko sya hehe.

swerte ko na lang din, magaling sya mag budget and kung sa tingin nya ay minsan eh kulang, may need kami i-sacrifice like nde muna kami mag eat-out pag weekends. ang pera naman, you will never have enough kahit gaano pa kalaki kinikita mo, kaya learn to live within your means.

[_Cathy_]

With what is happening lately, lalo na reinforce ang values ko from my Dad's side of the family na parents/blood over spouse. Although we were told na asawa na ang priority, but a spouse can betray you. Your parents, NEVER. Parati issue ng in laws/SOs samin na masyado kami dikit sa parents/grandparents. Can't blame us.

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[uls]

if men can get s3x without marriage why is there need for marriage?

ganyan sa pinas eh

pinays allow it

kaya madami single mom, live-in

if pinays make it more difficult, men will work harder for it