[Split:] When is the right time to get married?

[the_wildthing]

Mahirap talagang i-gauge ang maturity. Physical. Emotional. Intellectual. Spiritual. Financial, maybe, or at the very least, stable, for practical reasons.

[BlueBimmer]

Originally posted by RafRaf
Are you willing to detache yourself from everything else that you have right now (gimmicks, toys, friends, family, hobbies - yung talagang attached na attached ka ngayon) for her and your future together (kids!)? Are you willing to feel the bonds of commitment tighten up sometimes during your married life (it will feel that way sometimes)? Are you willing to accept her family and friends as your own (you will have to do so mostly)? Are you willing to look beyond your wife-to-be's errs and flaws? Are you willing to impose the same discipline on yourself as you would for your children?
Are you willing to push yourself to the limit of commitment (those moments that feels like you doubt yourself for choosing to get married but resolve to stand firm on your commitment NO MATTER WHAT)? Even to the point that you may physically separate but you will stay true to your commitment to support her/your family (rear your children) and not get involved with someone else.

Lastly... but just as important... IS SHE READY TO GET MARRIED AND WANTS TO DO SO FOR THE RIGHT REASONS LIKE YOU? Both of you should have the right desire and purpose, kasi isa lang sa inyo ang hindi sure... well good luck... it is going to be a rocky road for both of you.

well she sometimes jokes around that friends n relatives always asks when we'll get married so i assume that she's giving me a hint..

kaya napapaicp ako to marry her is because she is very different to other gals ive been with before..hindi sya ung demanding na babae..she would not complain if i go to gimmicks without her and she would not keep on calling or txting to ask where i am or what im doing (which is the primary reason y i broke up w/ my ex) and she would not go out with her friends just so she could spend time w/ me..so im assuming if i marry her she wouldn't be a demanding wife...a nagger or makulit na palaging nakadikit..parang hulog ng langit ugali nya hehe financially and emotionally im ready to marry..im just making sure i dont make a mistake..

hmm i guess wat im trying to say is nagbabago ba ang babae when she is ur gf then became ur wife? any of u guys have a wife like that?

btw tnx for all ur great advices guys!

[FrankDrebin]

Got a family at 22. Not married nga lang kasi may US petition kasi but we treat each other as a married couple. Yes, I admit na masyado pa akong bata nung nagkaasawa ako. Eh wala eh. In-love na in-love ka eh. Alam mo naman kapag in-love, hahamakin ang lahat....laging nagkikita....nagyayakapan.....nag....hehehe. So ayun! 1 + 1 = 1 hehehe. Sabi nga nila ...multiply life by the power of two.....

Never regret any single moment of it. Well kung iisipin mo lagi yung gagastusin sa future eh talagang mawawalan ka ng gana ar baka matakot ka pa.

[Karding]

HEF HEF HEF!!!!

BAKIT NASALI ANG GF KO DITO!?!?!?

ops, sori po ser

Cno ba si Manny na yan? fafa ba? bwahahaha

it can come with age, but there are 45 year olds with a "maturity" (err...immaturity) of an 18 year old.

I concur

[5Speed]

hmmmm ganda discussion dito....hehehehehe

I am also married....and in our case, (me and my wife) we got married because we just cant let go of each other, we will make a lot of sacrifices, fathom those obstacles just to be with each other, irregardless of matters thats been thrown to us...we are very happy and content of what we have when we are together..... and I dont know if its maturity, financial stability, of just getting bored being a single, loneliness etc... maybe for you guys, there is some gauge or factors when to get married...but I do think it should not be always the case....there should be no barometer as when to get married, of course it helps but its not a guarantee that you will have a happy married life...... Dont be pressured to get married, dont say that we are very compatible in everything that we should get married, dont say that I've got tons of money already so I think I should get married now...those kind of things are just one of the ingredients of tasty married life but it is not a guarantee that your partnership will be a culinary cuisine that will last forever.... ask your inner self, how well do you love your present partner? can you let him/her go and be the same self all over again w/out bitterness on your part? can you sacrifice a lot of things for him/her? Does your partner feel the same as you do?....

teka, haba na yata....hehehee nagiging senti na naman ako nito....hehehee

[theveed]

hmm i guess wat im trying to say is nagbabago ba ang babae when she is ur gf then became ur wife? any of u guys have a wife like that?

Pre, as long as tao ang pinakasalan mo, magbabago yan, araw araw nagbabago yan... importante sa kasal ay tanggap mo sya kahit magbago sya (basta wag syang maging lalake or nambubugbog o adok hehe)...

Kung habol mo asawa di na magbabago, di na po tao yun... robot na yun...

[ian_rex]

opinion lang po. tama ang sinabi ni sir theveed. iba talaga ang pag-ibig pa tinamaan ka nito. kaya nga it is possible to fall in love but impossible to fall out. you only move on. :D

well for the right age? ako 24 na, kahit gusto ko na, marami pa akong gustong marating sa buhay. kaya konting tiis lang dahil true love waits. actually, i did have somebody special, pero hindi pa time talaga.

sabi nga sa italian connection "find the woman that you will love and hold her forever..." sorry nakalimutan ko yung pangalan ng character.

:D

[ian_rex]

ooops sorry. italian job pala yun.

[yebo]

Q: nagbabago ba ang babae after marriage?

a: YES. in fact you will also change. right about after 1 week from the wedding nagbabago na yan. you know why? kasi ngayon na gf/bf pa lang kayo e hindi nyo naman nakikita ang talagang 100% ng partner nyo. pag kasal na kayo at 24 hours kayo magkasama (during the honeymoon) e makikita mo na whole personality nya. then later on pag nawala na yung "smoke screen" effect ng love, lalo nyo pa makikita ang true personalities ng isa't-isa. but don't worry pare, if you love each other then you will also get to love the changes that you will see.

besides, sabi nga "change is the only constant thing". as people grow older (and hopefully wiser) people change. you and her included.

[superpinay13]

dapat kasi para di ako magsisi sa pakakasalan ninyo ehh iverify muna ninyo sa census para di ako maloko...sana may diciplinary action na ibigay sa member dito na niloko ang family niya...just bcoz gusto pumunta sa US nagpakasal sa iba...db nakakaloka ipinagpalit ang pamilya dahil sa ambisyon na di naman tama.....kilala ninyo tinutukoy ko.......

[badkuk]

me madaling solusyon sa problema mo BB...mag live-in! joke B).

i don't think it's a matter of age; di ganun kasimple. i believe it's more an issue of maturity -- emotional and psychological maturity.

[BlueBimmer]

niyaya ko live-in ayaw e, mdyo conservative kc hehe

[RafRaf]

tama si sir theveed at yebo... change is part of the equation... expect it after you get married, once the first child comes, if for example she decides to sacrifice her career for the family... with every event or decision that will come, expect a change...

have you both talked about marriage in one way or another... joked about it or discuss what you think it is like or talked about other married people?

[BlueBimmer]

we dont usually talk bout other married people..sumtyms..

im gettin married at the 2nd half of this year..woohoo?

[RafRaf]

That is great news! Enjoy the preparations... actually, pwede rin litmus test yan "marriage preparations" stage on what is to come... especially if you are both very much involved in the preparations... hehehe... my advice at this point, be open to her suggestions.

[jim]

we dont usually talk bout other married people..sumtyms..

im gettin married at the 2nd half of this year..woohoo?

we welcome you bro to the most challenging level of life.......... BEING MARRIED AND HAVING KIDS!!!!

[wowiesy]

if you are into retreats.. and pati gf mo e open sa ganitong idea... you might wana check this out www.discoveryweekend.org ... its a weekend retreat for serious couples who are thinking of going into marriage...

baka kami ng gf ko eh mag attend nito...

[bilog]

congrats! :cheers:

sabi nga sa old school one v#g#n# for the rest of your life!

[jiggs84]

we dont usually talk bout other married people..sumtyms..

im gettin married at the 2nd half of this year..woohoo?

good luck to the merry world of married couples. expect a lot of changes. though it has already been said here. you dont know your would-be spouse well enough. just at the first night/day of your married life, you'll get to learn new things about her which you thought you knew already. you'll always learn something new every day. sometimes, things you do not really like in a person, but since she is your spouse - you will learn to accept everything, all of her even her bad traits. and the beauty is, you'll turn it into positive without really changing her.

during your first year, you will need a lot of this - PATIENCE and ADOPTION TO CHANGE.

[RafRaf]

be open to her suggestions on the wedding preparations... usually, we guys tend to be "too practical" when it comes to this event... but to the girls this is a very BIG thing for them.

by the way, kwento naman ng proposal moment mo... hehehe...