Quote Originally Posted by _Cathy_ View Post
My officemate opened up to me and told me he is being treated unfairly at work because he is not good looking. His physical traits are short, dark, fat, hairy and practically bald (in his 20s) He has good teeth though. He compared himself to his cute teammate who he things is the favorite because of his good looks. He basically said life is difficult for him because he is ugly Di ko alam kung maiiyak ako o matatawa

I told him that it had NOTHING to do with looks but more on personality/character. Good looks are a bonus for men but it's not crucial. When it comes to men, looks isn't much of an issue because it can be cancelled out with traits that are more "valued" with men. Scientifically or biologically (?) females are valued for their looks (ability to reproduce and nurture) and males for their strength (ability to provide and protect). So I think looks are more of an issue for women not men.

But my officemate insists that he is being reprimanded at work because of his looks So he thinks good looking people can get away with a lot of things I can't convince him anymore that it's personality that is causing people to treat him badly or stay away from him. My friend thinks my officemate is so insecure which caused him to develop a bad personality. Seems like a catch 22 to me

It makes me wonder, does looks really cause a person to be discriminated or bullied? Have you encountered persons like that in your lifetime?
I think yung sentiments nya nag root pa way back sa childhood nya.

Oftentimes kasi pag mga bata naglalaro, meron talagang isang kinukutya na, ang pangit pangit mo etc. etc. mga nakaka degrade na remarks, though di naman alam nung nangungutya na nakaka-scar yung sinasabi nya.

Pero yung sinasabihan ng masama, madadala nya yun hanggang pagtanda.

I have a barkada (so-called friend), na ang hilig manlait. Kada lakad nalang ata namin, hindi matatapos yung araw na wala syang nilalait.

Kaya siguro medyo may point yung officemate mo na yung looks nya is may bearing sa mga unfair treatment sa kanya. Lalo na if yung mga tao sa paligid nya, is katulad nung so called friend ko.

Ayoko man-lait, pero hindi naman gwapo yung barkada ko, lalo nang hindi sya perpekto, pero hilig pumuna ng ibang tao, parang social-climber na ugali ba.

Madami naman pwedeng workaround or remedy sa mga less-attractive na tao. Sa pananamit, sa ayos ng buhok, sa galaw.

Pero dahil nga na de-grade na self confidence nila, mahihirapan sila mag adjust at mag exude ng confidence sa galaw nila.

Siguro yung mgagawa mo lang for now Ms. Cathy is, parang makinig nalang sa sentiments nya.