how do you get over a broken heart?

[benchph1]

I salute your ex for having good self control. I bet you he always had stomach cramps. Thats what happens to us if we try to control it.


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[_Cathy_]

Aww tsk. You've already described it the best way possible how much you truly want him..

Haven't you thought about what if Kung hindi ka nya ireject? Possibility of ending your misery.. And Why would you think he would reject you in the first place?

Just think about mas masakit pag nalaman mo may gf or committed na sya.. Kaya don't waste your time before it's too late.

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Kasi naniniwala ako na pag gusto talaga ng lalaki ang babae, they will make a move. May mga tampuhan na rin kami ni crush before but he would always initiate contact with me. Yung last, hindi na, kaya I interpret that as he is done with me. Pag ang lalaki umayaw, I believe that there is no fixing things.

In all my relationships, I really let the guy pursue and initiate, kung ayaw niya, hindi na ko hahabol. I made the mistake ONCE, yung heartbreak ko before crush and it did not turn out well. Si heartbreaker, told me "you can't handle having a normal relationship" pero ako pinilit ko pa rin to fix things, but things weren't as it used to be, he rarely initiated call or texts, stopped wanting to see me, didn't offer to help anymore when I was in trouble. This frustrated me more because he used to be so attentive and I wanted things the way it was before. I just ended up losing my dignity in the process. I almost suffered a nervous breakdown - I did not eat, sleep or take a bath for several days. I survived on water and a piece of apple. All I did was CRY. It was when my family was going to take me to the hospital, na nahimasmasan ako. I don't want to repeat that mistake anymore, kaya all I can do is wait and hope that crush will come back to me. That way, I know that he really wants me.

I guess ignorance is bliss, I won't be able to handle hearing from him na pinaltan na niya ko. Sobrang sakit nun.

I salute your ex for having good self control. I bet you he always had stomach cramps. Thats what happens to us if we try to control it.

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Not just self control but he is also very consistent and disciplined. He really has his sh1t together that's why my feelings for him goes beyond love - it's respect and great admiration as well.

Funny nga kasi, I was the aggressor between the two of us. LOL! I find it so hard to control myself around him, considering I used to be prude before I met him My exs would be shocked and probably won't believe if they knew of my "turn around"

[benchph1]

Maybe thats the reason he called it quits. Because he was very close to losing his self control [emoji16]

Maybe you do really need a change to forget about him. Just try to change a few things in your routine. Or maybe initiate a major one like a new job.


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[_Cathy_]

Maybe thats the reason he called it quits. Because he was very close to losing his self control [emoji16]

Maybe you do really need a change to forget about him. Just try to change a few things in your routine. Or maybe initiate a major one like a new job.


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I was the one who broke up with him but I did not expect him to just accept it. Also, what's wrong if he lost his self control? We're consenting adults. And I do want him to be my first and only, because like I said, I can't imagine myself being intimate with any other man but him.

I did try my best to forget about him but I always go back to him. I already told my SO that it's really crush that I want and now he is mad at me But I think it's unfair for him if I keep dating him but at the back of my mind it's crush I want to be with

[minicarph]

I did try my best to forget about him but I always go back to him. I already told my SO that it's really crush that I want and now he is mad at me But I think it's unfair for him if I keep dating him but at the back of my mind it's crush I want to be with

na crush siguro heart ni SO

[benchph1]

Losing his self control was meant to be a joke [emoji16]

Let me tell you something that may help. I have friend who’s wife came from a 10 Year relationship before she met him. Those are also her choice of words, she didn’t imagine herself getting intimate with someone else because of the length of her relationship with her ex.
Long story short, they are now happily married and they also have a 4 year old daughter. My point here is just keep trying. (Dating) Who knows, your hubby might just be around you.


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[_Cathy_]

Losing his self control was meant to be a joke [emoji16]

Let me tell you something that may help. I have friend who’s wife came from a 10 Year relationship before she met him. Those are also her choice of words, she didn’t imagine herself getting intimate with someone else because of the length of her relationship with her ex.
Long story short, they are now happily married and they also have a 4 year old daughter. My point here is just keep trying. (Dating) Who knows, your hubby might just be around you.


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So your friend doesn't mind being second?

I've been in several long term relationships and I managed to keep myself pure, but with crush, I just don't know that he is the right person. He has everything I want and more - good looks, toned body, deep voice, tall, in charge, knight in shining armour, alpha personality, skills, endurance. Even his position in the company turns me on! He's a wet dream come true

The day he comes back to me will be glorious and I promise NEVER to lose him again.

[benchph1]

So your friend doesn't mind being second?

I've been in several long term relationships and I managed to keep myself pure, but with crush, I just don't know that he is the right person. He has everything I want and more - good looks, toned body, deep voice, tall, in charge, knight in shining armour, alpha personality, skills, endurance. Even his position in the company turns me on! He's a wet dream come true

The day he comes back to me will be glorious and I promise NEVER to lose him again.

Nope not at all. And i can tell that he’s really happy with her.

Of all the guys you dated after him, was there anyone that came close? Problem is with your description of him, the other guys have HUGE shoes to fill. Maybe you can try to lower your expectations.


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[minicarph]

okey siguro sa babae pag syota nya. size 12 or 11, kasi sa payless lagi may stock yun kakarampot na magandang Dexter Memoryfoam Tm

[madball]

So your friend doesn't mind being second?

I've been in several long term relationships and I managed to keep myself pure, but with crush, I just don't know that he is the right person. He has everything I want and more - good looks, toned body, deep voice, tall, in charge, knight in shining armour, alpha personality, skills, endurance. Even his position in the company turns me on! He's a wet dream come true

The day he comes back to me will be glorious and I promise NEVER to lose him again.

I'm sorry if this may sound harsh but I'm going to say it anyway. If your crush is really that alpha as f*ck, there's a high chance that he won't chase again because he has a lot of options. You are also right that it's unfair to still keep your SO when he can never compare to your crush. He will probably be riddled with insecurities over time and it will only lead to more fighting. This is a pretty common scenario.

[_Cathy_]

Mam cath, i just want you to be happy, just by reading your posts, grabe ka magmahal. And you definitely deserve someone na makapagbibigay ng love and happiness na yun. Believe me when I say halos lahat ng tsikot members dito na Naka follow sa story mo, indeed want you to finally be really happy.

We are no love doctors here, pero tell us the real score para ma tulungan ka namin. Madami na kami info about how you love him and all, tell us more naman sa side naman ni crush. What the hell is happening with him now. By doing so, baka mas accurate ang magiging advice ng mga ka tsikot natin.

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Thanks. I fell really hard for crush talaga. I have no contact with him anymore. I don't know his thoughts on what happened between us

Of all the guys you dated after him, was there anyone that came close? Problem is with your description of him, the other guys have HUGE shoes to fill. Maybe you can try to lower your expectations.

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After him NONE. But back in my teens and early 20s, all of them were more or less the same "specs" as crush pero may isang quality na wala. Si crush kasi, he is everything I want and so much more.

Does that mean I have to settle Si SO, he is not that bad, I think other women would think he is a catch but character wise, ang laki ng difference nila ni crush. Crush makes me feel safe and protected, something only my Dad and Kuya can do.

I'm sorry if this may sound harsh but I'm going to say it anyway. If your crush is really that alpha as f*ck, there's a high chance that he won't chase again because he has a lot of options. You are also right that it's unfair to still keep your SO when he can never compare to your crush. He will probably be riddled with insecurities over time and it will only lead to more fighting. This is a pretty common scenario.

Yes, I know he has a lot of options. I may not be in my 20s anymore (ayaw din naman niya ng young enough to be his daughter), but I have a lot to offer him as well.

You're right kasi I can really feel SO's insecurity towards crush. He always brings him up nga.

[madball]

Thanks. I fell really hard for crush talaga. I have no contact with him anymore. I don't know his thoughts on what happened between us



After him NONE. But back in my teens and early 20s, all of them were more or less the same "specs" as crush pero may isang quality na wala. Si crush kasi, he is everything I want and so much more.

Does that mean I have to settle Si SO, he is not that bad, I think other women would think he is a catch but character wise, ang laki ng difference nila ni crush. Crush makes me feel safe and protected, something only my Dad and Kuya can do.



Yes, I know he has a lot of options. I may not be in my 20s anymore (ayaw din naman niya ng young enough to be his daughter), but I have a lot to offer him as well.

You're right kasi I can really feel SO's insecurity towards crush. He always brings him up nga.

Let's say your crush will take you back but you have to share him with another woman. Will you accept this or would you rather be alone again?

sa haya ng storya, nerd ang tingen ko kay thanos, kelangan maging balanced para lang mabuhay sya

ang totoo alpha doesnt care if may chaos or imbalance, in fact a true alpha thrives on chaos and emerge as top

parang sa gym and facebook, I always preach or become a fitspiration to my friends and associates. be healthy balanced your life, change your life

pero sa totoo lang gusto ko matataba sila, kasi pag mataba sila I become a rare commodity hihi

when somebody buys an expensive phone or car, lalo ko ipraise kasi alam ko behind the scenes kelangan nila magtarbaho ng husto to pay for it, hence therefore the imbalance in their lives, so. mataba pa din sila sa next saturday meet. why kasi the stresses of paying for it yun ang nagpapa imbalance. I like people when they are greedy coz that means they are comitting maybe 2 or 3 of the seven deadly sins, pride, gluttony, greed, and whenever you are into those deadly sins, wala na imbalance na

Bruh.... that's quite dark. Do you have such thoughts even to your best friends and family?

[_Cathy_]

Let's say your crush will take you back but you have to share him with another woman. Will you accept this or would you rather be alone again?

Para naman wala akong self respect if I allow myself to be a mistress or side chick. Huwag na lang siyang papahuli sakin (ignorance is bliss) Seriously, crush is not the type of man who would do that.

These past few days, ang strong na naman ng feelings ko for crush. I want him back so bad.

[madball]

Para naman wala akong self respect if I allow myself to be a mistress or side chick. Huwag na lang siyang papahuli sakin (ignorance is bliss) Seriously, crush is not the type of man who would do that.

These past few days, ang strong na naman ng feelings ko for crush. I want him back so bad.

I was just trying to see how far you'll go to have him but I guess everything has boundaries.
I see 3 ways how it can happily end for you:
a. You and crush get back together and start anew.
b. A new man comes into your life, has the same or better specs than crush. He recreates that special feeling you had before and then you move on at last.
c. You suddenly have an epiphany one day and you're finally able to find happiness within yourself. Life still continues to be a bitch from time to time but you have already developed both mental and emotional fortitude.

You'll probably wish for the first one because it's all you think about right now but what are you going to do once he disappears from your life again? Let's say sumakabilang buhay o bahay. You can deny that possibility from happening but then we all know that nothing is permanent in this world and people can change. Lovers drift apart, best friends turn to strangers, etc. Is he really the endgame of your life? What if you both had kids and he's gone? Do you think you'll still be able to carry on?

well, i really dont know if its dark coz a lot of people are doing it.

take for example, sina erwan, anne curtis, solenn saka yun asawa niya patawa

diba their vlogs always feature food, good food good experiences etc.

but how come, ang gaganda ng katawan nila, whereas all their followers probably are fat because food ang product nila eh

try mo manood ng mga vlogs nila, yun mga PA nila, mga tiga-video nila ang mga matataba, kasi yun ang mga umuubos ng food na fini-feature nila


pero I ask you, how do I look at Erwan or Anne, or Solenn and Nico, diba they're like alphas. they are alphas because all followers can never ever be and look like them. hence their face value or somewhat they themselves are a rare gem. so they thrive and they continue to be on top year after year after year.. yun mga followers kakain ng kakain sa mga binibinta ng sponsors nila, tapos sila konting taste lang sa food pero more health conscious on to the next shoot

It's not their fault that some of their followers are fat people with no self control. Their vlogs are focused on such subject simply because it's a good niche and there's money to be made. They don't have any covert intention to keep their followers fat. I'm sure that they don't give a sh*t whether their viewers are fit or not.

Real alphas don't need to put down other people so they can feel superior. They just strive to be better that's why they stay on top.

[sean-archer]

Mam cath, i just want you to be happy, just by reading your posts, grabe ka magmahal. And you definitely deserve someone na makapagbibigay ng love and happiness na yun. Believe me when I say halos lahat ng tsikot members dito na Naka follow sa story mo, indeed want you to finally be really happy.

We are no love doctors here, pero tell us the real score para ma tulungan ka namin. Madami na kami info about how you love him and all, tell us more naman sa side naman ni crush. What the hell is happening with him now. By doing so, baka mas accurate ang magiging advice ng mga ka tsikot natin.

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[_Cathy_]

So I still can't get over the fact that my college ex has a GF that practically looks like me What's up with that? Only 2 or 3 batches lower than me sa school so almost my age.

This college ex had a barkada who wanted to date me but out of respect for him I didn't, though he was my shoulder to cry on. He was the one who told me nga when my college ex had a new GF na (wala pa 6 mos napaltan na ko though I broke up) He tried to go out with me for years but I always refused, esp when I started getting chubby lol. He used to say na he didn't care for my weight, sana naniwala na lang ako. Spoke to him today after almost a decade and it helped my self esteem na he prefers me with extra weight pala talaga. So he is like shadow na hindi fat = ugly



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[sean-archer]

So I still can't get over the fact that my college ex has a GF that practically looks like me What's up with that? Only 2 or 3 batches lower than me sa school so almost my age.

This college ex had a barkada who wanted to date me but out of respect for him I didn't, though he was my shoulder to cry on. He was the one who told me nga when my college ex had a new GF na (wala pa 6 mos napaltan na ko though I broke up) He tried to go out with me for years but I always refused, esp when I started getting chubby lol. He used to say na he didn't care for my weight, sana naniwala na lang ako. Spoke to him today after almost a decade and it helped my self esteem na he prefers me with extra weight pala talaga. So he is like shadow na hindi fat = ugly



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Ahh yeah, lines to get into a girl's pants

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[_Cathy_]

Ahh yeah, lines to get into a girl's pants

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Nah. We are just reminiscing about the past.

[_Cathy_]

My wild friend trying to reconnect with my exes made me realize some things. Loving crush made me forget who I was in the past. I was never the boy crazy type, I could be single for a long time and did not jump from one relationship to another. I was raised by my parents to be independent. But it seems like since I knew crush, I was acting so desperate, no self esteem and self respect

Thank you to shadow na parating pinapa realize sa akin that I am worth more than I think I am. EQ for supporting cathy + crush and helped me compose my text for him. ULS na narindi na kay Crush for 3 yrs but still listens to me talk and talk about my love for crush hahaha! And all the other tsikoteers that I won't name anymore na narinidi na sa mga posts ko at nag give up na sa tigas ng ulo ko. Missx, LM and night for not giving up din, it's nice to have girls supporting each other. Wow, parang eto yung star lovers post ko haha

I have one last post about crush explaining why I was so crazy over him pero bukas na because my headache is killing me. Ilang beses ko na sinabi na I will move on and forget about crush but I end up eating my words. But I think now it's really final kasi okay na ako with us just being friends, maybe it's for the best. It may sound baduy but as the song says "pinagtagpo pero di tinadhana"

Ang baba na kasi ng tingin ko sa sarili ko. I may think that crush is perfect, pero my friend made me realize that the guys I went out with in the past are good guys din. In fact my wild friend just admitted that she was crushing on my exes/dates. She only admitted to my college ex, but I did not know that she liked almost all.

Even UF told me na 2 of her friends only got married this year to their BFs na one or 2 years ago lang nakilala. Crush and I were together even BEFORE my UF dated her now husband And here I am, wasting what is left of my 30s. I don't blame crush naman, I did this to myself and now I need to love myself again.

Looking back at my history, if met crush in my teens I wouldn't dated him because of our age gap. If I met him in my early 20s, his profession pa lang, lalayo na ko. Sana I met him 15 yrs ago pero hindi talaga meant to be.

[EQAddict]

It was a long, winding, grueling, frustrating, heartbreaking road for you.

But in the end you found yourself yourself at last. Maybe that was the reason all along for this journey.



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