Loving the wrong person

[_Cathy_]

What if you're single and became friends with the girl/guy of your dreams (in all aspects) who happens to be married but without children. What would you do? Are you gonna continue with the friendship and be tortured knowing that you can't have that person or will you walk out of the friendship and forget about that person?

[mbeige]

Here we go again

Seriously though, if you befriend somebody, do so for friendship's sake and the right reasons, not for anything else. Otherwise, you're just asking for trouble.

That includes accepting them for who they are, not for what you want them to be.

[_Cathy_]

why here we go again? kulit ba ko?

What if your real intention is just to stay friends but cannot help yourself from being attracted to that person? Does that mean you have to stay away na from people that "fit" your dream guy/girl qualifications?

[mbeige]

Cathy, pabiro lang yun. I enjoy reading your posts on love and relationships, makes me understand what women are thinking most of the time

To answer your question, I personally don't think you have to stay away from them, just learn to accept the situation and realize it's just an attraction, and that your friendship is more important, because you can have them longer in your life, rather than reveal yourself to them, only to risk losing a friend.

But if you can't accept that fact, then you need to distance yourself, because you'll be torn every time you get close.

[_Cathy_]

But if you can't accept that fact, then you need to distance yourself, because you'll be torn every time you get close.

Yes. Sheer torture.

I feel like it's already a sin to be attracted to a guy that is married. I used to think I have strong values now I am beginning to doubt myself. Siguro kaya minamalas ako (can't get a job and always sick).

[mbeige]

Yes. Sheer torture.

I feel like it's already a sin to be attracted to a guy that is married. I used to think I have strong values now I am beginning to doubt myself. Siguro kaya minamalas ako (can't get a job and always sick).

If he's attractive, I can't blame you, even more so if the guy is successful. However, what you can be held accountable for, is when you befriend him for the wrong reasons. That's where your values are tested, not at the point of attraction.

Just my opinion...

[ghosthunter]

What if you're single and became friends with the girl/guy of your dreams (in all aspects) who happens to be married but without children. What would you do? Are you gonna continue with the friendship and be tortured knowing that you can't have that person or will you walk out of the friendship and forget about that person?

Well, you just mentioned friendship. If you would just let it stay as a friendship, then it would not be a bad thing. But if you let that friendship develop beyond and you start becoming intimate with the guy, then it is wrong... children or no children.

Although since there is no children, getting an annulment is possible and less messy than otherwise.

[uls]

friend? friendship?

Wording lang yan.

How come i get the impression there's ATTRACTION somewhere in the kwento.

[_Cathy_]

friend? friendship?

Wording lang yan.

How come i get the impression there's ATTRACTION somewhere in the kwento.

Actually there is strong attraction. Dream guy nga eh heheh

[uls]

hehe i went thru ur post too fast... di nag register sa utak ko ung "guy of your dreams"

[CVT]

What if you're single and became friends with the girl/guy of your dreams (in all aspects) who happens to be married but without children. What would you do? Are you gonna continue with the friendship and be tortured knowing that you can't have that person or will you walk out of the friendship and forget about that person?

Cathy_for_you,- ikaw na naman???

Anyway,- you need to drop him like a hot potato.... Ang isang kahoy, kahit nababad na sa tubig,- kung idadarang mo sa apoy,- magliliyab at masusunog ito... I hope you know what this means, Sis.

I am also a playful individual and I am always in the company of single, ***y beautiful and intelligent (well,- one or two are not really....) women in the office, because I chose to surround myself with them... However, I make sure that I do not have any special relationship with anyone of them. Treat them all as equals and I keep a 'safe distance'. Because I know it is dangerous. And for us guys, I should tell you that we are always 'physical', if we're given the opportunity.... :naughty2:

You are because of the choices you made. Make the right choice. A relationship with a married person in our society is a no-no-no....

It is your choice.

6220:foryou:

[_Cathy_]

Cathy_for_you,- ikaw na naman???

Bakit naiinis ka na ba sa mga dilemma ko?

I am also a playful individual and I am always in the company of single, ***y beautiful and intelligent (well,- one or two are not really....) women in the office, because I chose to surround myself with them... However, I make sure that I do not have any special relationship with anyone of them. Treat them all as equals and I keep a 'safe distance'. Because I know it is dangerous. And for us guys, I should tell you that we are always 'physical', if we're given the opportunity....

For all you know, you might be causing them dilemmas na rin

You are because of the choices you made. Make the right choice. A relationship with a married person in our society is a no-no-no....

It is your choice.

I really do not plan on having a relationship with a married guy. Malas yun. hehe. Besides, I don't believe in having *** before marriage eh meron bang mistress that doesn't want to have ***? hehehe. My issue really is how to deal with being attracted to a married guy.

[CVT]

Bakit naiinis ka na ba sa mga dilemma ko?

Hindi naman,- talaga lang makulay ang buhay mo, Sis! Whew!...

For all you know, you might be causing them dilemmas na rin

Come to think of it, that never entered my mind... As much as possible, I treat them all as my little sisters... Also, as I said earlier, I make sure that I keep a safe distance from them... Also, I do not treat someone as special...

I really do not plan on having a relationship with a married guy. Malas yun. hehe. Besides, I don't believe in having *** before marriage eh meron bang mistress that doesn't want to have ***? hehehe. My issue really is how to deal with being attracted to a married guy.

Keep that in mind, Sis. Do not forget who you are. You should be okay.

6303:fetch:

[ab_initio]

What if you're single and became friends with the girl/guy of your dreams (in all aspects) who happens to be married but without children. What would you do? Are you gonna continue with the friendship and be tortured knowing that you can't have that person or will you walk out of the friendship and forget about that person?

continue with the friendship...and accept that the relationship is best kept under platonic circumstances...and believe deep in your heart that one day you're gonna bump into someone who is a lot like him (even a better guy) but unmarried, that is, one who has no impediment to marry you when the right time comes....

it just feels so good to be in a relationship that lets you feel most tranquil...