Girl suddenly changes mind, nang-iwan sa ere ...

[isa1023]

Just late last year, there was this girl I met among a circle of friends with common interest (cars).

So we became friends, and started dating this January.

She said I was the only one she's looking forward to see everytime the group meets up.

On the car during our dates, we were holding hands, hugging, light kissing (hindi sa cheeks) and together on weekend nights, sometimes til the wee hours of morning.

Even doing PDA (without the kissing) on public commute.

Kolehiyala siya (not to mention the school) and we have some differences (ie religion, parent don't seem to like me coz of that ...)

Until last Tuesday, she said "stop na natin to" and just be back to being friends.

Biglaan eh.

Now what sucks is the fact that without even me asking, she said that those sweet moments that happened between us is just nothing ... like no deal.

At napilitan lang siya magustuhan ako.

Masyado daw ako mabilis. Nabigla lang din siya.

Ibig sabihin kahit nung siya yung unang nagpapakita ng motive to do sweet actions eh napipilitan lang siya nun?

What's with the girl?

[_Cathy_]

You probably did something that turned her off? Although I don't get why she'd get physically intimate with you and not like you. May PDA pa.

Give her a dose of her own medicine. kidding. Hingi ka payo kay Ghosthunter kung pano mo mapapaikot sa iyong mga daliri yang babae na yan I think he's an expert on how to handle women.

[uls]

Just late last year, there was this girl I met among a circle of friends with common interest (cars).

So we became friends, and started dating this January.

She said I was the only one she's looking forward to see everytime the group meets up.

On the car during our dates, we were holding hands, hugging, light kissing (hindi sa cheeks) and together on weekend nights, sometimes til the wee hours of morning.

Even doing PDA (without the kissing) on public commute.

Kolehiyala siya (not to mention the school) and we have some differences (ie religion, parent don't seem to like me coz of that ...)

Until last Tuesday, she said "stop na natin to" and just be back to being friends.

Biglaan eh.

Now what sucks is the fact that without even me asking, she said that those sweet moments that happened between us is just nothing ... like no deal.

At napilitan lang siya magustuhan ako.

Masyado daw ako mabilis. Nabigla lang din siya.

Ibig sabihin kahit nung siya yung unang nagpapakita ng motive to do sweet actions eh napipilitan lang siya nun?

What's with the girl?

you're probably wondering -- yung mga touch touch kiss kiss na yan wala lang ba doon sa girl?

yes, wala lang sa kanya yan

girls these days pati *** wala lang sa kanila

parang handshake lang

siguro at that time, she was just following her animal instincts

siguro attracted talaga siya sayo so she would do those physical things with you

then later on she realized you're not exactly what she wanted

[isa1023]

Cathy, that's one afternoon when she's requesting me to fetch her from school so she can "already" introduce me to her friends.

I declined because I have to go to work, besides it's not even a planned date.

That same night I phone her and was at call waiting, so I asked her about it and said "... kala ko may kausap ka sa kabilang line."

Which freaked her out, to my surprise. Nasasakal na daw siya. Damn too shallow and to think it was even the first instance that I asked.

For short, we settled things on the phone (talked til 3 am).

Sana daw walang magbago (duh, like how do we do that?)...

Although I don't get why she'd get physically intimate with you and not like you. May PDA pa.

Diba? I don't get it either.

[isa1023]

you're probably wondering -- yung mga touch touch kiss kiss na yan wala lang ba doon sa girl?

yes, wala lang sa kanya yan

girls these days pati *** wala lang sa kanila

parang handshake lang

siguro at that time, she was just following her animal instincts

siguro attracted talaga siya sayo so she would do those physical things with you

Yeah bro thanks for being straight to the point.

then later on she realized you're not exactly what she wanted

She said every after our date, she's resolving this very issue to herself. Maybe turned out you're right ...

so she moves on

She said: "Sana walang magbabago sa treatment mo sakin".

So how's that called moving on?

[uls]

Cathy, that's one afternoon when she's requesting me to fetch her from school so she can "already" introduce me to her friends.

I declined because I have to go to work, besides it's not even a planned date.

That same night I phone her and was at call waiting, so I asked her about it and said "... kala ko may kausap ka sa kabilang line."

Which freaked her out, to my surprise. Nasasakal na daw siya. Damn too shallow and to think it was even the first instance that I asked.

For short, we settled things on the phone (talked til 3 am).

Sana daw walang magbago (duh, like how do we do that?)...



Diba? I don't get it either.

baka naman may iba siya nameet

so she has to get rid of you muna so she can focus her attention on the new guy

then di pala niya gusto yung isang guy

so she goes back to you

[uls]

Yeah bro thanks for being straight to the point.



She said every after our date, she's resolving this very issue to herself. Maybe turned out you're right ...



She said: "Sana walang magbabago sa treatment mo sakin".

So how's that called moving on?

she's keeping you in reserve while she's butterflying around

sayang naman kung mawala ka pag gusto na niya bumalik sayo

[marg]

It is highly possible she met someone interesting and wants to keep herself available.

Some girls are like that. She wants her cake and eat it too. Call it Greedy, if you will.

Pag ganun yung situation, just take a step back. Don't get emotional.

Enjoy what you can with her (e.g. keep on kissing and touching when the situation warrants) and keep yourself open to meeting other girls.

Two can play at this game. T'is the difference between a Chicks Boy and a Dork. A lesser person will buckle under the emotional pressure.

[isa1023]

baka naman may iba siya nameet

so she has to get rid of you muna so she can focus her attention on the new guy

then di pala niya gusto yung isang guy

so she goes back to you

So do I deal with that? So to treat her next?

she keeping you in reserve while she's butterflying around

sayang naman kung mawala ka pag gusto na niya bumalik sayo

Exactly my thoughts.

The point of posting it here is actually to figure out what to do next:

1. Leave it be, stay as friends and stay the same?

(we can't avoid each other since we're in the same circle of friends)

2. Just ignore her

(ignore her text messages and don't comminucate anymore)

3. Bring a date in the next group meet-up and see her reaction

(i've already booked girls to go with me on this)

[isa1023]

It is highly possible she met someone interesting and wants to keep herself available.

It's more likely someone from the past is back. Just a hunch.

Enjoy what you can with her (e.g. keep on kissing and touching when the situation warrants)

I'll try this and if she resists, then maybe it won't work.

and keep yourself open to meeting other girls.

Am already on it ... although still feels awkward at this point