Dealing with my Anger after Wife Confessed Affair

[rlp1099]

tsikoteers,

sad to say been there done that for me

i'll spare you all the bithching and moaning only to add that my hell was even more special since my "friends" new about it and didn't tell me anything

that'll surely be a long discussion for another thread/day

in the spirit of sharing here's what I learned

from well known counselor ( a priest who's part of a very hard core marriage counseling group- sorry but his name escapes me but in my desperation I knocked in his seminary's door, located manila parallel to taft area PGH at 11pm) told me "son, I don't know what to tell you...BOTH of you have to seek counseling and it pains me to tell you that you have to be strong enough to help both of you move forward setting aside your pride and hurt that you are the wounded one"

from my lawyer friend- "do you know how much legal proceedings will cost you and her? both of your time's up- move on, you lost whatever it was that kept you together a long time ago"

from a psychotherapist (former nun with clinic in katipunan area)- "ala kang choice kundi itawid mo sarili mo bago isipin yung kayong dalawa.

finally from my ninang who was also guilty of a past indiscretion- "it was her choice to spread her legs"

from my in-laws it was diplomatic silence all around

'course there were more insightful nuggets but the above were the ones i remembered the most.

so, for us its a day to day thing, really can't say if we survived or healed...
there are days I fell like hacking her to death...some days I love her cooking

am sure she feels the same way...as Cris Rock said "ever catch your woman give you that look? the one that says "how the F...K did I end up with this loser...good Lord in heaven if you exist strike this MOFO down"

very obvious to all our son is what keeps us together and we're a shell of our former selves

so that's the cross I bear and I surely don't wish it on anyone