If you've got money to burn, I'm sure the RAV4 is not a bad choice.

But since you're considering the Santa Fe (gas or diesel?), I'd give this car a strong consideration. The RAV4 is overpriced, in my opinion.

You may also want to wait for the 2007 Honda CR-V before going with the Santa Fe. I read that the 2007 model has very female-friendly features.