Insensitive Churchgoers

[buriroy]

I know that when a person goes to Mass, its a sacred matter
between him and God and shouldn't let the behavior of other people
bother him. But I'm just human and I cant help but feel irritated
by this rude and insensitive behavior of some churchgoers.

Pag dating sa "peace be with you" portion ng Mass, ilang beses
ko na na-experience na yung katabi (after greeting them with a nod
and a smile) ko, hindi man lang ako pinansin and reciprocate the
greeting. Usually, they are quite busy kissing their wife and
children. OK lang naman ito pero after kissing your familymembers,
dapat naman you should turn to the person beside you and give them
a warm greeting. Para bang ang importante lang sa kanila ay
ang kanilang pamilya, yung iba hindi man lang bigyan pansin.

Meron naman dyan parang napilitan lang i-return yung greeting
mo. Hindi man lang mag eye-contact at medyo naka-simangot pa.

Ako naman during this portion of the Mass, I also give attention
to my family first by kissing the wife and kids. But from my
peripheral vision, I take note of the person beside me (also front
and back). Pag mag-greet na sila, I make it a point to reciprocate
right away para hindi naman sila mag mukhang tanga. And I always do
it by looking the person in the eye tapos by acknowledging the
greeting with a nod and a smile plus the words "Peace be with you".
Is that so hard to do?

Sorry for the rant but I just feel disappointed. I had hoped
that people would be more brotherly and friendly inside the Church.
It seems that rude and insensitive people are the same wherever they
may be.

[Galactus]

Actually, sometimes ganyan din ako, especially pag hindi ako regular sa simbahan na pinagmimisahan namin ni misis. Mainly kasi, baka deadmahin din ako nung binati ko, eh di pahiya pa ako. I don't mean to be rude, its just that, baka others like me don't want na mapahiya din sila pag may binati sila eh they won't return the gesture.

Medyo alangan lang akong bumati during the offering of peace when I'm in a different parish. Normally kasi, dito lang kami nagsisimba sa may malapit sa village namin. Eh sometimes, naabutan ng weekend sa Mall or other places, kaya napapadpad kami sa St. Ignatius Cathedral (Camp Aguinaldo), Our Lady of Perpetual Help (13th Avenue, Cubao) or Good Shepherd Cathedral (Fairview). Although nakailang beses na rin kami ni misis nakapagsimba sa mga parishes na yun, hindi namin masyado kakilala yung mga parishioners, unlike sa parish namin. But I do return the greeting of others.

Medyo mahiyain lang kasi ang Pinoy.

[impulzz]

but the priest says "Let us offer each other the sign of peace, Peace be with you" then we say peace be with you to each other, di naman sinabing to your family member only. well madalas din mangyari sa akn ganyan, either yung katabi ko kissing his/ her family member or gives me the poker face. ok lang i still say peace be with you, ala na tayo magagawa sa maling asal nila. pero minsan kakatawa din yung iba deadma ako ng immediate na katabi ko but the a manor woman 3 seats away smiles at me and say peace to me. i smile back and nod. hehehe

isa pa nakakainis sa simbahan, yung mga bata na naglalaro, then babies naiiyak, alam ko sinama nila asi para pagtapos simba deretso pasyal na, kaso minsan nagtatakbo lang sa loob ng simbahan, yung iba biglang sisigaw. nakakadistrak

[Linkk]

i attended a catholic charismatic before tagal na rin. During mass ang sasaya ng mga tao, pagdating na yung part ng peace be with you talagang nagkakamayan ang bawat isa at todo ngiti pa. Pati yung pari bumababa din sa stage at nakikipagkamayan sa tao, eto na yata pinakamahabang part ng misa. Ang saya ng pakiramdam pagkatapos ng misa, sana ganun sa lahat ng church.

[silhouette]

I noticed the same, though me and my wife always make sure that the person beside and in front of us are also greeted.

[chua_riwap]

but the priest says "Let us offer each other the sign of peace, Peace be with you" then we say peace be with you to each other, di naman sinabing to your family member only. well madalas din mangyari sa akn ganyan, either yung katabi ko kissing his/ her family member or gives me the poker face. ok lang i still say peace be with you, ala na tayo magagawa sa maling asal nila. pero minsan kakatawa din yung iba deadma ako ng immediate na katabi ko but the a manor woman 3 seats away smiles at me and say peace to me. i smile back and nod. hehehe

isa pa nakakainis sa simbahan, yung mga bata na naglalaro, then babies naiiyak, alam ko sinama nila asi para pagtapos simba deretso pasyal na, kaso minsan nagtatakbo lang sa loob ng simbahan, yung iba biglang sisigaw. nakakadistrak

It's about time kasi na yung mga churches sa atin, mag-provide ng separate room para sa mga church goers with kids. Usually glass enclosed ito, at airconditioned. Kahit na magpapalahaw pa ng iyak yung baby/bata, hindi maingay at nakaka-distract sa ibang mga church goers.

Sa Singapore naman, pag greetings na ng "peace be with you", usually handshake ang greetings. Sa US naman (Dallas, Texas), minsan sinubok kong magsimba, ang greetings nila roon, iye-embrace ka (yakapan). Kaya nagulat na lang ako, nu'ng bigla na lang akong "yakapin", sabay sabi "Peace be with you" (with a smile), nung katabi kong chick. Nasanay kasi ako sa atin, na gi-greet ka lang without body contact.

[buriroy]

Naaalala ko pa nung magmi-misa pa si Fr. Sonny (Ramirez) sa
Shoppesville tuwing Sunday (11AM).

Pag dating ng "Peace be with you", talagang rine-require niya
lahat na umikot sa buong Mass area at kamayan lahat ng tao.
Pag hindi ka gumalaw papahiyain ka talaga sabihin niya in his loud voice
"O ikaw masyado ka naman isnabero dyan!"

When its consecration time, pag hindi ka lumuhod, titigil siya
at titignan ka talaga sabay sabi - O ikaw dyan mataas ka pa ba sa Diyos
at hindi ka man lang makapagbigay galang dyan!"

Although I must admit na medyo extreme siya, but OK rin. We
need more priests with "personality" kasi marami na rin pasaway
na churchgoers.

[froshie1]

I know that when a person goes to Mass, its a sacred matter
between him and God and shouldn't let the behavior of other people
bother him. But I'm just human and I cant help but feel irritated
by this rude and insensitive behavior of some churchgoers.

Pag dating sa "peace be with you" portion ng Mass, ilang beses
ko na na-experience na yung katabi (after greeting them with a nod
and a smile) ko, hindi man lang ako pinansin and reciprocate the
greeting. Usually, they are quite busy kissing their wife and
children. OK lang naman ito pero after kissing your familymembers,
dapat naman you should turn to the person beside you and give them
a warm greeting. Para bang ang importante lang sa kanila ay
ang kanilang pamilya, yung iba hindi man lang bigyan pansin.

Meron naman dyan parang napilitan lang i-return yung greeting
mo. Hindi man lang mag eye-contact at medyo naka-simangot pa.

Ako naman during this portion of the Mass, I also give attention
to my family first by kissing the wife and kids. But from my
peripheral vision, I take note of the person beside me (also front
and back). Pag mag-greet na sila, I make it a point to reciprocate
right away para hindi naman sila mag mukhang tanga. And I always do
it by looking the person in the eye tapos by acknowledging the
greeting with a nod and a smile plus the words "Peace be with you".
Is that so hard to do?

Sorry for the rant but I just feel disappointed. I had hoped
that people would be more brotherly and friendly inside the Church.
It seems that rude and insensitive people are the same wherever they
may be.

Dude iba ang culture dito ganyan talaga. Ang mga tao sa manila most of us hindi naman talaga friendly compared sa mga tao sa Bayarea. Sa Bayarea pre at sa Florida isheshake hands ka pa pag peace be with you.

Di lang sa mass, pag naglalakad ka igegreet ka pa ng good morning ng mga strangers..

It's a culture thing.

[edtf]

but the priest says "Let us offer each other the sign

isa pa nakakainis sa simbahan, yung mga bata na naglalaro, then babies naiiyak, alam ko sinama nila asi para pagtapos simba deretso pasyal na, kaso minsan nagtatakbo lang sa loob ng simbahan, yung iba biglang sisigaw. nakakadistrak

Boss, Ako rin naiinis din pero naisip mo na ba na baka wala kasing puwede mapagiwanan sila ng mga anak nila? They might not be fortunate enough to have a maid or yaya to take care of the kids while they go to mass? These are somethings that we take for granted.

[Lucius]

Naaalala ko pa nung magmi-misa pa si Fr. Sonny (Ramirez) sa
Shoppesville tuwing Sunday (11AM).

Pag dating ng "Peace be with you", talagang rine-require niya
lahat na umikot sa buong Mass area at kamayan lahat ng tao.
Pag hindi ka gumalaw papahiyain ka talaga sabihin niya in his loud voice
"O ikaw masyado ka naman isnabero dyan!"

When its consecration time, pag hindi ka lumuhod, titigil siya
at titignan ka talaga sabay sabi - O ikaw dyan mataas ka pa ba sa Diyos
at hindi ka man lang makapagbigay galang dyan!"

Although I must admit na medyo extreme siya, but OK rin. We
need more priests with "personality" kasi marami na rin pasaway
na churchgoers.

Kawawa naman ang mga lolo't lola :D