Quote Originally Posted by draiman View Post
I like your stand on this. We have the same mindset. Sabi ko nga sa immediate family, when it's my time na at andyan pa sila, cremate me immediately, walang lamay, I want to go quietly, I don't care kung malaman ng kamag anak or hindi. I'm sure I've served my purpose and have done all I can to serve my parents.
Tinanong ko na nga parents ko about this, ano gusto nila. Dad ko lang ang gusto may lamay pa, nakamulatan na kasi sa family side nila.
What I didn't like was the way they treated the remains of our eldest ate where due to financial difficulties that time when I was young, they've merged her remaining bones with 2 of my dad's relatives. Now, I really wanted to put her remains separately under my care but it would be too difficult I was told, excavation, identification and isolation, so we've decided na hayaan na lang at dalawin na lang at i-maintain puntod na 3 tao ang nakalibing. What will happen sa future generations sa father's side kung hindi na kayang kumuha ng memorial lot, pagsa-sama-samahin na lang ang mga buto sa puntod na yun? I can only imagine...

I'm just in my 40s and really healthy, but this preparation is always on my mind. Tulad ng karamihan dito, ayaw ko ding pahirapan pa at abalahin ang pamilya sa dami ng dapat ayusin at asikasuhin sa lamay at kung ano ano pang proseso, make it short and simple and cremation will do that.
i think the lamay is not for the dead.
it's for those still alive... those whom the deceased left behind.. for whatever good it will give them.