Quote Originally Posted by 1D4LV View Post
ok lang yan, if madami kayong magkakapatid.
pero kung nagiisang anak o even dalawa lang kayong magkapatid, sobrang nakakapagod
when my pop died, tuliro si ermats.... walang silbi si utol dahil emotional.
walang gumalaw, kami lang ni misis, from the hospital, to the time ng cremation. isang gabi lang ang wake. ang tulog ko ata nun is mga 30 minutes lang..

yes, merong memorial plan, but kailangan pa ring kumilos dahil magiintindi ka ng papeles, bayad sa ospital, coordination sa punenarya, chibog sa funeral parlor, pati design ng urn.

in two days, i lost 8 pounds... walang kain, walang tulog, walang ligo.

this is the reason why i also told my kid, cremate, after mamatay, wala ng burol. tapos ready na din ang memorial plan, para pick-up na lang ang bangkay sabay sunog na...
I like your stand on this. We have the same mindset. Sabi ko nga sa immediate family, when it's my time na at andyan pa sila, cremate me immediately, walang lamay, I want to go quietly, I don't care kung malaman ng kamag anak or hindi. I'm sure I've served my purpose and have done all I can to serve my parents.
Tinanong ko na nga parents ko about this, ano gusto nila. Dad ko lang ang gusto may lamay pa, nakamulatan na kasi sa family side nila.
What I didn't like was the way they treated the remains of our eldest ate where due to financial difficulties that time when I was young, they've merged her remaining bones with 2 of my dad's relatives. Now, I really wanted to put her remains separately under my care but it would be too difficult I was told, excavation, identification and isolation, so we've decided na hayaan na lang at dalawin na lang at i-maintain puntod na 3 tao ang nakalibing. What will happen sa future generations sa father's side kung hindi na kayang kumuha ng memorial lot, pagsa-sama-samahin na lang ang mga buto sa puntod na yun? I can only imagine...

I'm just in my 40s and really healthy, but this preparation is always on my mind. Tulad ng karamihan dito, ayaw ko ding pahirapan pa at abalahin ang pamilya sa dami ng dapat ayusin at asikasuhin sa lamay at kung ano ano pang proseso, make it short and simple and cremation will do that.