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[ninjababez]

parang ang hirap din ng situation ni cathy. mukhang kailangan nya ng tulong, pero ayaw nya tumanggap ng tulong, or wala ba talaga gusto tumulong?
barkada ko dati, sinamahan namin sa ospital dahil yung mom nya di kaya bantayan yung lolo; salitan kami sa pagbantay. maganda pa mga nurse

[dr. d]

some hospitals have a "caregivers club" , made up of workers (nurses, midwives, therapists and the like) who are not on duty.
contact them thru the nurses.

[_Cathy_]

mother in law ko ganyan din.. may wound na hindi gumagaling because of varicose veins..

Wala naman varicose second Mom ko pero may issue din sa veins. 3 yrs na yung wound niya and it is getting worse. Buti hindi diabetic.

parang ang hirap din ng situation ni cathy. mukhang kailangan nya ng tulong, pero ayaw nya tumanggap ng tulong, or wala ba talaga gusto tumulong?
barkada ko dati, sinamahan namin sa ospital dahil yung mom nya di kaya bantayan yung lolo; salitan kami sa pagbantay. maganda pa mga nurse

Like I said, hanggang kaya ko ng hindi ako nang aabala, kakayanin ko. I understand that people have their own lives and problems to worry about. Kung may kapatid sana ako, yun ang okay na tumulong, mga ganyan klaseng problema should be kept within the nuclear family as much as possible.

[dr. d]

stasis dermatitis.

[_Cathy_]

some hospitals have a "caregivers club" , made up of workers (nurses, midwives, therapists and the like) who are not on duty.
contact them thru the nurses.

but she does not need a caregiver. She is just hard headed na kailangan bantayan lahat ng ginagawa. I am spending SO MUCH money already and a caregiver will cost me at least P1k per day. For what? To tell her to drink her medicine and take temperature at 8 am and 8 pm? Make sure her wounds are clean and bandage is tight?

Like I said she is 100% functional. May sugat lang sa paa na non-healing kaya hirap maglakad.

[dr. d]

but she does not need a caregiver. She is just hard headed na kailangan bantayan lahat ng ginagawa. I am spending SO MUCH money already and a caregiver will cost me at least P1k per day. For what? To tell her to drink her medicine and take temperature at 8 am and 8 pm? Make sure her wounds are clean and bandage is tight?

Like I said she is 100% functional. May sugat lang sa paa na non-healing kaya hirap maglakad.

hija, she does not seem to need a caregiver, because you are already filling in, that need.

caregivers' job descriptions vary.
you-the-master, can describe the caregiver's job as "...to make bantay the person... ensure she takes her medicine on time.. clean dress wound.. take thermometer reading.. etc.."

for what? so that you-the-master can breathe more easily.

in tagalog, para sa inyo po ang caregiver.
so that you can hang up your caregiver duties at night, and get a good nights' sleep.

[_Cathy_]

caregivers' job descriptions vary.
you-the-master, can describe the caregiver's job as "...to make bantay the person... ensure she takes her medicine on time.. clean dress wound.. take thermometer reading.. etc.."

for what? so that you-the-master can breathe more easily.

in tagalog, para sa inyo po ang caregiver.
so that you can hang up your caregiver duties at night, and get a good nights' sleep.

But the thing is those are things my second mom can do for herself. Why would she make me spend P30k for that? Is it too much to ask na TULUNGAN NIYA SARILI NIYA?

My Mom will not agree to a caregiver because my second Mom does not need care giving. What she needs is discipline.

[dr. d]

But the thing is those are things my second mom can do for herself. Why would she make me spend P30k for that? Is it too much to ask na TULUNGAN NIYA SARILI NIYA?

My Mom will not agree to a caregiver because my second Mom does not need care giving. What she needs is discipline.

so why didn't you get more than 3 hours of sleep?

"discipline an elderly person?"
hija, "were you born last night?" (apologies for the idiom.)
you don't discipline them. you adjust with them.

[_Cathy_]

so why didn't you get more than 3 hours of sleep?

We will just go in circles.

The fact is my second Mom has no discipline kaya kailangan bantayan pa lahat. IF she had discipline, I would be less stressed out.

Like I said before my 91 yr old Lola can take care of herself - takes her BP herself, drinks her medicine on time, follows the doctors orders. And she does that on her own.

WHY can't my second mom do that ?? Why can't she help herself? Naiiyak lang ako sa conversation na eto. You guys will never understand dahil wala kayo sa situation ko na walang kapatid, walang asawa at puro matanda kasama sa bahay.

It's so funny, growing up people would always tell me, swerte unica hija. Siguro nga when I was younger, I like being an only child. But now that I am older, how I wish I had a lot of siblings.

[uls]

so why didn't you get more than 3 hours of sleep?

"discipline an elderly person?"
hija, "were you born last night?" (apologies for the idiom.)
you don't discipline them. you adjust with them.

doc, Cathy already said she doesn't get enough sleep coz she has to make her 2nd mom take her medicine

so 8am and 8pm she has to be awake and at home to do that

Cathy usually isn't awake at 8am (coz she sleeps late and wakes up late) and isn't home at 8pm (coz she's still at the office during that time)

eh pwede naman gawin dapat yan ng 2nd mom niya

how hard can it be to take meds at 8am and 8pm?

yun lang ayaw gawin ng 2nd mom niya so Cathy has to modify her routine

now she has to wake up early and work from home or go to the office and be home by 8pm