How much time do you spend with your kids?

[dr. d]

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All your children are married na?

not really.. not in the usual manner....
they're married to their school activities..

can't blame them. i was also married to my school activities when i was their age..
but i do see more of them in the weekends..

[XTO]

My monday work sched is 12-8pm and i can reach home by 8:20pm - cruising / pasyal mode with my scoot but can take it in 10 mins if i wish to be a kamote rider. Tue to Fri is from 7 to 4pm and same 15-20 mins ride going home. Wife's branch follows mall hours so 11 to 7 and sometimes till closing at 9pm or 10pm on weekends - she can choose her rest days though.

My eldest is in college (V. Cruz Taft) so hatid sundo ko sa LRT Roosevelt whenever i'm available - commute siya if not. The 2 younger ones have school service back and forth pa so pagdating kanya kanyang aral na sila with my pasingit singit questions about the day while preparing dinner and while having pale pilsens hahaha. On weekends, minsan mga di mo rin ma istorbo sa dami ng assignments nila - have to ask them pa kung pwede sila lumabas or umalis... Basta as long as libre lahat (work or school) sige lang.

Time is precious, years back mga babies, nursery, prep sila ngayon college, grade 10 and 4 na....

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My monday work sched is 12-8pm and i can reach home by 8:20pm - cruising / pasyal mode with my scoot but can take it in 10 mins if i wish to be a kamote rider. Tue to Fri is from 7 to 4pm and same 15-20 mins ride going home. Wife's branch follows mall hours so 11 to 7 and sometimes till closing at 9pm or 10pm on weekends - she can choose her rest days though.

My eldest is in college (V. Cruz Taft) so hatid sundo ko sa LRT Roosevelt whenever i'm available - commute siya if not. The 2 younger ones have school service back and forth pa so pagdating kanya kanyang aral na sila with my pasingit singit questions about the day while preparing dinner and while having pale pilsens hahaha. On weekends, minsan mga di mo rin ma istorbo sa dami ng assignments nila - have to ask them pa kung pwede sila lumabas or umalis... Basta as long as libre lahat (work or school) sige lang.

Time is precious, years back mga babies, nursery, prep sila ngayon college, grade 10 and 4 na....

[1D4LV]

kiddo is in 4 year HS na, so pag dating ko sa bahay, nagawa na nya ang dapat gawin. all i have to do is to ask him how his day was.
tapos medyo detailed na kwentuhan pag dating ng dinner. tapos kanya kanya na ulit.

one thing that we have managed to do since my kid was still small:

a. kwentuhan sa dinner.
b. one bonding session during weekends. be it dinner, lunch, a trip to the golf driving range, walking our dog, etc.... basta merong isa every week.

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kiddo is in 4 year HS na, so pag dating ko sa bahay, nagawa na nya ang dapat gawin. all i have to do is to ask him how his day was.
tapos medyo detailed na kwentuhan pag dating ng dinner. tapos kanya kanya na ulit.

one thing that we have managed to do since my kid was still small:

a. kwentuhan sa dinner.
b. one bonding session during weekends. be it dinner, lunch, a trip to the golf driving range, walking our dog, etc.... basta merong isa every week.

[jick.cejoco]

Regrets come later. I should have spent more time with them but I had to work harder. Now, I have more time but they have grown. Soon I will have an empty nest and no grand kids yet in sight.

[CLAVEL3699]

Tapos na ako sa sobrang pagtratrabaho.

I make sure na uuwi ako sa office nang 5pm... walang schedule anything kahit president pa namin magpatawag dahil before I signed the contract na specify no work beyond 5pm pero kung nasa ibang bansa ako ibang usapan na yun.

Kailangan by 7pm nasa house na ako para sa Dinner Time namin nang 12yrs old na boy ko... walang cellphone at computer pagnasa house ako "only emergency call from the office lang pwede ko tanggapin".

Nood lang kami nang TV hanggang 9:30PM then matutulog na kami... kahit ganun na katanda anak ko gusto nya tabihan ko muna sya bago matulog, hayyyy hanggang kailan kaya ang kalambingan nya.

Every week end my son decide kung saan nya gusto magpunta wala kaming say ni misis dun depende na lang kung tinatamad ako lumayo.

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Tapos na ako sa sobrang pagtratrabaho.

I make sure na uuwi ako sa office nang 5pm... walang schedule anything kahit president pa namin magpatawag dahil before I signed the contract na specify no work beyond 5pm pero kung nasa ibang bansa ako ibang usapan na yun.

Kailangan by 7pm nasa house na ako para sa Dinner Time namin nang 12yrs old na boy ko... walang cellphone at computer pagnasa house ako "only emergency call from the office lang pwede ko tanggapin".

Nood lang kami nang TV hanggang 9:30PM then matutulog na kami... kahit ganun na katanda anak ko gusto nya tabihan ko muna sya bago matulog, hayyyy hanggang kailan kaya ang kalambingan nya.

Every week end my son decide kung saan nya gusto magpunta wala kaming say ni misis dun depende na lang kung tinatamad ako lumayo.

[vinj]

Lol bro. I have the same philosophy. In fact, Im into investing in a much smaller space for our retirement home where everything is within reach - mall, hospital, parks, movie house - as my wife and I are more into urban life. I dont expect to drive anymore when I grow old as I need to do a lot of walking. Well, maybe a bike would be an option. I bet traffic would be worse by then. The current condo? The kids (errr adults) will worry about it.

At the rate we're all going, in due time we'll be posting "what car should i buy na best for a Senior Citizen"?

Regrets come later. I should have spent more time with them but I had to work harder. Now, I have more time but they have grown. Soon I will have an empty nest and no grand kids yet in sight.

Cue: Cats in the Cradle

[Morz]

My weekday mid shift sched means i wake up after they left for school and come home to find them past asleep. Bawi na lang pag weekends but i still have to compete with their tablets and computer. So madalas i plan for family day out pag sat or sun

[macsd]

Regrets come later. I should have spent more time with them but I had to work harder. Now, I have more time but they have grown. Soon I will have an empty nest and no grand kids yet in sight.

No regrets sir, gawa ka bago thread title, "How much time you spent making another kid?"

[CVT]

Bros.,- I am posting this again in this website....

Please take time out to read and reflect....

It could be life-changing....

"I guess

It's just

The way

It used

To be......."

For many people , work now is the emotional and spiritual
center of life. Writer John Updike was right when he said , "We may
live well, but that cannot ease the suspicion that we no longer live
nobly." I hear this from other people . I meet many who are burned
out from work , who are disillusioned with their professions. We seem
spiritually damaged by the pernicious cycle of working, wanting and
having as ends in themselves.

Workaholism and its handmaidens, careerism and materialism,
aren't only social issues - they are religious issues. As Dianne Fassel
wrote in Working Ourselves to Death, "Work is a god for the compulsive
worker, and nothing gets in the way of this god." Work becomes an end in
itself, a way to escape from family, the inner life, the world.

All genuine religions are concerned with the shattering of false
gods. How can we break the false gods of career?

** First, remember the most profound revolution in religious
thinking: the Sabbath. Whether one celebrates it on Friday, Saturday or
Sunday, its spiritual reality goes beyond ritual. It is the ultimate
statement that the world does not own us, that we are made for rest and
holiness as surely as we are made for ambition.

** Second, don't sacrifice your family on the altar of career.
The journey up the ladder to success has brought us much wealth. But it
has also devalued the traditional role of the parent as nurturer and
teacher.

In the Yiddish song " Mayn Yingele" ("My Little One"), a father
sings to his sleeping child:


I have a son, a little son
A boy completely fine.
Whenever I see him, it seems to me
That all the world is mine .

But seldom, seldom do I see
My child awake and bright.
I only see him when he sleeps;
I'm only home at night.

It's early when I leave for work;
When I return, it's late.
Unknown to me is my own flesh,
Unknown is my child's face.

When I come home so wearily
In the darkness after day
My pale wife exclaims to me;
"You should have seen our child play."

I stand beside his little bed;
I look and try to hear.
In his dream he moves his lips:
"Why isn't papa here?"

That song was written in 1887 , but the anguish of the parent
who has impalled himself on the sword of ambition has not changed.

** Third, don't judge yourself by what you do, but by the
meaning you bring to it. Many people have transformed dull work into a
true vocation- into a place where they hear the voice of something
deeper and higher.

We never know what we do in our work that will be remembered ,
that will be holy. It has nothing to do with our job titles. It has
everything to do with the faith , vision and love that we bring to it.


This article is condensed from " Being God's Partner : How to
Find Hidden Link Between Spirituality and Your Work,"
Copyright 1994 by Jeffrey K. Salkin, Published by Jewish Lights
Publishing, Woodstock, Vermont ,U.S.A.
This material also appeared in the Wall Street Journal (December
29, 1994)
Also published in Reader's Digest (October 1995)

"The measure of a man is what he does with power" LJIOHF!

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[jick.cejoco]

No regrets sir, gawa ka bago thread title, "How much time you spent making another kid?"

That would be nice thir, but I will be doing disservice to the kid/s. Won't be able to be an energetic dad to them and might not be there to witness their college graduation