
Originally Posted by
Jun aka Pekto
I can't really speak for too many people because they're not here to defend themselves. But, my mom is one such person. She fits in perfectly with Malu Fernandez' crowd. She seemed charitable enough whenever a beggar dropped by the house asking for food and she seems like a good woman who goes to Church regularly. But, she does have flashes of bigotry (same goes for the crowd she's with). The biggest one I've seen thus far is her hate for "Bisaya" and she will resort to drastic action just to show her hate.
To me, it's a big problem because my wife is from Leyte. My wife, daughter, and mother-in-law have not seen my mom face to face up to now. My dad and sister are fine with my wife. But, they're afraid of my mom.
So while I'm happy with my life right now, there's also sadness because a whole half of my life is missing.
My mom is also xenophobic. She looks down on African-Americans and calls them names behind their backs.
Am I proud of her being that way? Of course not. But, she's my mom. We're the same blood. She's as stubborn with her hate as I am in trying to get it out of her system. We're not likely to budge from our positions. That's why I carry the burden of self-exile from the family flock hoping someday she'll come to her senses and accept my wife and her family.
This is also why I'm not likely to resort to name-calling borne out of hate. I mean I do name-call. But, that's among friends and in jest. I do my best not to cross the line where name-calling becomes insulting.
Add: Even in this forum, I know there are such people. A slip of the tongue here and there can be very revealing.