[renamed] Need advise about Wrecked Car & Extra Marital Love Affair

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[SIZE=3]Need advice po.[/SIZE]
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[SIZE=3]My brother was recently involved (illicit) with a girl who was married. My brother too is married with 2 kids. My brother’s wife discovered the affair but they eventually settled their differences. My brother decided to stay away with the other girl for good which angered the other girl.[/SIZE]
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[SIZE=3]But the girl did not want to break up the relationship. She then told her estrange husband about her affair with my brother (just to get back at my brother). Her husband is a known street toughie, a drug addict, and a wife beater (that’s why the girl decided to leave him. They’ve been separated for more than two years already).[/SIZE]
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[SIZE=3]The husband confronted my brother one night two days ago. But they talked it out and they shook hands after they parted ways.[/SIZE]
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[SIZE=3]The next day at about 5 am, my brother woke up from the sound of the car alarm. When he went to check, he saw the guy (the estranged husband) wrecking the car (parked by the street) by repeatedly using his FX to bump and cause damage to the rear portion. Seated at the Fx was the girl. It was said that she was badly beaten up with blood and bruises all over her body. All the tail lights were broken, the compartment was totally damaged, and the rear windshield was totally damaged. In short, nagwala yung lalake. My brother did not react because he noticed a backup car with guys was just around the corner. Now, my brother does not want to file a case against the husband (because it would only escalate the situation) and he also does not want to have it in the police blotter. My brother fears for his life because the husband issued veiled threats against them. My brother felt remorseful about his past actions and accepted what had happened. Tutal, may kasalanan nga naman siya and he knows how the guy felt. By the way, the car is the car of my mother who does not yet know about the incident. I know you would all react against my brother but I also wanted to know how we can claim damages and how we can protect his family from the husband. TIA.[/SIZE]
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[v6dreamer]

Lets make this thing straight up. You must report this to the authority if you want to protect the family. If you want the other way around then armed yourselves.

[empy]

hehe...it looks like a wrecked car is the least of your brother's problems, after an angry husband who will eventually try to come after his person, an ex-lover who might become a domestic violence statistic any day now, and his own wronged wife good times.

i honestly sympathize with the husband (although i would have never raised my hand to my own wife that way), but your brother must take the proper steps to protect himself...next time he and his buddies get drunk they are coming after him.

[cablespy]

That's is one crazy predicament to get stuck in.

Bluff him that you'll file charges and have him arrested. Talk to a lawyer about this also.

[pitbullz]

confucius says:


"evil triumphs when good men do nothing"

[Memphis Raines]

Uh so this turns out to be ain't really about a wrecked car.

More of a wrecked life.

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[Altis6453]

Practical solutions:

1. End the relationship
2. Get a new car or claim damages from the insurer, if its insured. The insurance company will go after the party responsible.
3. Report the matter to the police or file a case against the party responsible in court
4. Get outta town

[uls]

baket uso ngayon ang married people hooking up with other married people?

[CVT]

Whew! What a situation to be in... Tell your brother to get his family out of that area for their own safety....

6610:secret:

[Galactus]

Pack your bags, withdraw all your savings, get out of town and never come back!

A wrecked car is nothing compared to being a nervous wreck. Imagine having to live your life everyday looking over your shoulder, hoping na hindi mo makita yung sumira sa kotse mo. Kasi, may balak siyang gripuhan ka...tsk tsk

[mbeige]

The offending party knows your address, so the only way for you to throw him off, is to leave and relocate to a safer place. Preferably a more secure area. Let your brother pay for the damages on your mother's car, it was his fault it happened.

That, or just let your brother relocate instead of everyone in your family. But that risks the offending party still knowing where you live and might take it against you instead.

Most important, tell your brother to cut all ties with the other woman. Change phone numbers if you must. It changes lives, but at least you've moved on, hopefully.

Good luck.

[puroy]

suggest ko to sell the house and buy somewhere else in which the other girl and her husband will never know your new place. :|

[fast lane]

mas maganda pa rin report sa barangay para if anything happens again, they know who's to blame

*mbeige

i like what you said sir

"Change phone numbers, It changes lives"

[Bogeyman]

One word: migrate.

[qman]

Report mo sa barangay and if moving out is not an option protect himself and his family. Wrecking his car is a start, eh pag nalasing yan at nakita utol mo baka saktan pa or magkasakitan ng pisiikal.

[_Cathy_]

Pack your bags, withdraw all your savings, get out of town and never come back!

A wrecked car is nothing compared to being a nervous wreck. Imagine having to live your life everyday looking over your shoulder, hoping na hindi mo makita yung sumira sa kotse mo. Kasi, may balak siyang gripuhan ka...tsk tsk

Exactly. There's no price for peace of mind. Move out as quickly as you can. The guy just did major damage to a car out of rage so it only shows that he is capable of doing more violent acts.

[cocoy]

Real men dont hit women.

[roninblade]

he needs to report to the authorities para meron official record if ever meron pa ulit attack yung piece-of-crap-wife-beater a yun.

... and i agree with the others - relocate nalang sya with his family. mahirap yung nag-aantay nalang na dumating yung gulo. better safe than sorry.

[hein]

confucius says:


"evil triumphs when good men do nothing"

Hahaha, Confucius didnt say that. It was some British guy named E. Burke.

[Gen. Miting]

obviously, the scary guy got so riled up when his ex-wife, your brother's fling, went back to him for help. hindi naman kaya gusto lang niya magkabalikan ang brother mo and ex-wife nya so that he wont get bothered anymore.

kasi mas parang hindi nya tanggap na hihiwalayan ng brother mo yun ex-wife nya.