Long Distance Relationships

[Jun aka Pekto]

It'll only work if both of you are willing to put in the effort. Proof? Me and my wife.

We corresponded for 3-4 years. She was in the Philippines while I was here in the US and trying to make something of myself. I eventually went to the Philippines, married her and got her paperwork squared away so she can join me here which she did 9 years ago. No regrets whatsoever....

[ckj289]

Worked for me and my wife.... I was in Sydney and she was in the Phils. We were apart for 18 months... Hirap grabe, I racked-up a whole heap of phone bills, etc. halos mi-goreng (parang lucky me pancit canton) na lang ang pagkain ko everyday para lang makapag-usap kami sa phone... during those days wala pa text... syet nga eh.... Tapos nung college naman kami ganun din sya asa cavite ako sa pasig. i guess we were just meant to be lang talaga . I just went back home to the phils last 2001 to marry her and sponsor her to come to australia rin. no regrets din ako... pero hirap talaga sobra... nag-break-up pa nga kami nang twice sa phone nung andito ako sa sydney at asa phils sya eh... pero eventually fate brought us together again and again...

So, i believe that if you're meant to be for each other no matter what you will end up together...

[empy]

you guys have some beautiful stories but they're the exception rather than the rule.

for every one of those stories i've heard 10 where they drifted apart or cheated. when i went away to school almost everybody in my class was leaving someone special behind and promised to make it work. but the phone calls started growing less and less frequent...after a few beers kung sino-sino ang nagiging katabi paggising sa umaga


if you're married or engaged and have a super-strong relationship i believe you can make it work for a year or two...but for young adults this kind of arrangement has all of the disadvantages with none of the advantages.

[ckj289]

if you're married or engaged and have a super-strong relationship i believe you can make it work for a year or two...but for young adults this kind of arrangement has all of the disadvantages with none of the advantages.

I just turned 20 when i came to australia. GF ko pa lang nun ung wife ko ngayon. Kaya nga ang sabi ko is talagang sobrang hirap... Pero worth it kung tama at mahal mo talaga ung person... haaay naku parang MMK na tuloy ang dating nitong thread na ito....hehehehehehehe...

[oldblue]

had that kind of a relationship back in college. first few months to a year, it's so painful at nakaka-miss. more than 2 years of that, pikang-pika na ako sa mga na-eencounter ko sa daan pag ginagabi ako umuuwi. yun tipong tulog na lahat, nasa daan pa din ako. how I hated that so much!

pero hindi yun "distance" na yun ang naging dahilan ng break-up. she went to Europe for 3 months with our university's choir, mga "songer" kasi eh hehehe
pagbalik nya hindi ko na sinundo sa airport at sobrang nagdahilan ako na kesyo na hindi ko nakuha message, sobrang busy sa work and all those alibis.

she called me one day again and threatened me for a break-up kapag hindi ako pumunta sa kanila. and so ayun na naman, pumunta na naman ako sa long distance na bahay nila hehehe. pagdating ko dun, galit sya umiiyak hindi na ko gano kinausap at tinalikuran na ko. tapos lumabas kuya niya na tinatakot ako na bumalik na lang daw ako dun pag ready na ako sa relationship namin, tapos bahagya pa ako tinulak palabas ng gate.

sabi ko sa kuya in a sad face: "bakit ganito nangyari samin? sige kuya babalik na ako pag-ready na ko". at kunwari nakayuko na lang ako pasakay ng tsikot. pagsakay ko sa tsikot, I had this sad face, looked into the mirror, then smiled, and shouted "yahoo!" and I was punching the wheel, the dash ! hehehe and that was the happiest late night travel pauwi sa bahay from their house of them all!


2 weeks later, tinawagan niya ako. bakit daw hindi man lang ako tumatawag. sabi ko as usual busy sa work. then galit na galit sya at inamin nya na nagka-relasyun daw sya sa isang choir member sa 3 month stay nila sa Europe. natigilan ako at sabi ko medyo sumama pakiramdam ko, I'll call you back sabi ko. 2 weeks hindi pa din ako call back, and she called, sabi nya magpapakasal na daw siya. a year later, nagpakasal nga.

labo nun pina-guilty pa ko ng husto eh sya din pala natukso while far far away ... niweys, i had the feeling na naman talaga even before sa school pa eh, may tinutukso na sa kanya habang nagkakantahan sila. d ko lang ma-pinpoint kung sino.

[margaux]

been there. he was from bacolod and i was in ilocos at that time. mahirap lang kasi yung malayo kayo sa isa't isa. e syempre you would need naman yung presence ng isa't isa.

[the_wildthing]

Physical and emotional presence will make a relationship grow. Without it, well...

Those who made it through are lucky.

Been down that road before...

[Jun aka Pekto]

if you're married or engaged and have a super-strong relationship i believe you can make it work for a year or two...but for young adults this kind of arrangement has all of the disadvantages with none of the advantages.

We all went through that phase. But when you're older and ready to settle down, you'll know if she's worthwhile enough to keep a long-distance relationship with. I never believed in long distance relationships until I met my wife and knew she was worth it.

[GlennSter]

i WAS the president of anti-long distance relationships =p

but then as i grow older and having several relationships, i also grew tired of just playing around then being hurt again and again. settling down is my main priority right now.it changed from having this car..having this bigger turbo...having this bigger exhaust diameter..having this bigger rims...to having this small house with a big garden.having 3 kids, 2 guys and a girl...having to give them the best education a child can have,....

right now,my gf is in the philippines, and i am in canada. It's not that bad really if both of us are busy. she has her business and ill be in school again soon. We talk about settling down and i believe that she's ready to do so. I, on the other hand, isnt ready financially yet since im just starting a new life here. but as soon as I have enough moolah to settle down here (people don't really need to be rich to be married here..just a stable income can support a family), i plan to marry her asap and bring her here.

i really dont wanna speak badly about ldr's that didnt work. but maybe, it didnt work because of immature perceptions of love...of relationships. When we were young, we think of how often we should talk on the phone...sweet text messages...a big hug everynight...physical intimacy...and all those mushy cooshy stuff.

But a relationship can widthstand everything if everything is geared towards attaining a future...a goal of having a family. having kids.having a life together. go to the bank together. buy furnitures for the house. talk about business and jobs.who should do the laundry. who should buy the groceries.going to parent-teachers association meetings. talk about taxes.

call me an optimistic fool. but hey, thats one thing that no one can take away from me. she wanting to break up with me?not my loss. i am doing everything i can to keep the relationship alive. but me breaking up with her? not in my mind right now.lalo na ibang iba ang ugali ng mga caucasian kesa sa mga filipino when it comes to relationships.

[city]

I had a long distance relationship for nine years.

Too bad it had to end... because I married her, and now we live together.

It was good during the time we were in College together, but it got hard when we were working. I lived in Biñan, Laguna, she lived in Quezon City. It's two hours by bus, and three hundred pesos plus (round trip) by car. (130 pesos in toll fees alone!). What's difficult to get used to now is actually living together, as in a long-distance relationship, you've got lots of space and "alone time" (important for a guy), while once you're living together, you've got more "together time" (important for a girl).

PS: Hayuf naman mag-resurrect ng threads si mazdamazda! :lol:

regretful?

OT..san ka sa binan niky