how do you keep your marriage intact?

[n2knee]

eto po ay question po sa mga matagal nang married. paano po ninyo pinatatagal ang marriage ninyo? i have only been married for a couple of months, so i'd like to know your secrets in keeping a successful marriage. sabi kasi ng dad ko at ng father in-law ko, marriage is not always a bed of roses, so in addition to sticking around by her/his side during rough times what else have you done to maintain your relationship? a healty ***ual life is another ingridient to maintaing a relationship... sabi din ng ibang lalake, treat her with respect..., so what else?

[1D4LV]

eto po ay question po sa mga matagal nang married. paano po ninyo pinatatagal ang marriage ninyo? i have only been married for a couple of months, so i'd like to know your secrets in keeping a successful marriage. sabi kasi ng dad ko at ng father in-law ko, marriage is not always a bed of roses, so in addition to sticking around by her/his side during rough times what else have you done to maintain your relationship? a healty ***ual life is another ingridient to maintaing a relationship... sabi din ng ibang lalake, treat her with respect..., so what else?

my secrets:

a) lots and lots of patience.
b) shut up when your wife is talking.
c) give her the respect she is due. work for her respect to you.
d) be a good provider
e) be a good team player. marriage is all about teamwork.
f) make your marriage a balance of everything... balance of play, of romance and of work. hwag kang masyadong hayok sa ***....di na balanced yun.
g) make GOD the center of your relationship.


not-so-good secret.

a) hwag papahuli.
b) pag nahuli, hwag aamin.

note: married for 14 years here..

[IIE]

galing ni pareng happy_gilmore a. hehehe!

additional na lang ako:
give and take lang dapat
respect each other

not-so-good:
wag ng magtxt pag nasa house na
office hours lang pede chickka heheheh!

[russpogi]

...
g) make GOD the center of your relationship.

This is the ultimate. This was the very same advise given by my friend to me.

[BoEinG_747]

This is the ultimate. This was the very same advise given by my friend to me.

ganyan ba payo sa iyo ng friend mo

a) hwag papahuli.
b) pag nahuli, hwag aamin.

sa akin naman ay ganito

[baiskee]

eto wag na wag mawawala - TRUST











di yan condom ha.

[n2knee]

with all kidding aside, there are some very excellent tips from you guys. keep them coming.

[zero]

also have respect in each other's privacy, learn to listen, admit mistakes, learn to forgive and be a good provider. learn to appreciate her jewelry maski siya ang nagbabayad para dito para hindi niya pansinin ang bago mong upgrades sa tsikot nyo. hehehe....

[1D4LV]

This is the ultimate. This was the very same advise given by my friend to me.

kidding aside, the middle part of our marriage almost went to the rocks. that time, pareho kaming confused din ni esmi. di namin alam priorities namin.

until we took time out, and eventually made a relationship with GOD.... and it eventually made a difference.

now we are really strong...

another "serious tip:"

work for a mutual and trustful relationship. mahirap ang relationship na puro duda on both sides. tanggalin ang selos, and ensure na wala kayong pagseselosan sa isa't-isa.

[yebo]

1. forget all your ex's. no matter if you're just friends now your spouse will always suspect something with an ex. in fact wives tend to get jealous more of the ex than with other women.
2. never give any reason for your spouse to doubt your loyalty. activities of "for d boys" type are only for single men and not for married men. you are now a family man. stop playing around, grow up.
3. never let the in-laws interfere with your married life. in-laws here mean YOURS and HERS. so no matter how much you love your parents, anything they say are advice and not gospel.
4. additional to #3, live separately from the in-laws, yours or hers. it is always better to live in a small apartment than to live with a byenan. less tension on you both.
5. there will be times when you will fight, sometimes about trivial things (like money). talk. talking means listening, too. never go to bed without settling the problem.
6. if the fight is serious and she starts to cry, tone it down or better yet say "sorry" (it does not mean you surrender, it only means "cease fire").
7. married life means decisions are made by both of you. if she says she does not like a black car then settle for ferrari yellow.
8. put some money in the bank. yup, this makes marriages lasts! if financial problems are at bay then there will be less things to worry (and fight) about.
9. if it is her b'day or your anniversary, be there and on time! never use work or traffic be an excuse to be late, or worse, forget.
10. say "i love you" every chance you get. corny yes, but it reminds both of you why you are together. the more you keep that in mind the less chance you will do anything to jeopardize the marriage. do it at least 2x/day, in the morning when you wake up, and at night before sleeping. been married 4 years, never missed a day yet.

[cutedoc]

i am not married yet but i think the keys would be:

communication = a real one, the honest and truthful talk, not nags or fight
respect = you honor each other and understand with sincerity and trust
God = need i say more

[yuichi]

for me...

1. Respect - not only her, but also her parents, siblings, friends and everything connected to her. this will ultimately show your love for each other. if you have this, your love will never be the same, it will grow deeper and deeper.

my wife just had a fight these past days. lalo kakapanganak kasi 2weeks ago kaya she's in the stage of what we call "post-partum depression" thats why in during this stage boys kelangan mahaba......
"pisi" nyo, understand them. be supportive at wag patulan. nawawlan kasi sila ng confidence sa sarili.

guys mga babae natural na emotional. kahit maliliit na bagay pinapalaki, while we always look at the big picture most of the time.(tama ba girls?)
daming hinuhukay na past fights at paikotikot lang ang arguments. they could be the most immature people at times, but just be calm, understand and always court her as you were courting the first time.

[Chip]

6. if the fight is serious and she starts to cry, tone it down or better yet say "sorry" (it does not mean you surrender, it only means "cease fire").

Galing talaga ni ninong! Paboritong secret weapon pa naman ni Kumander yang umiyak hehe

[uls]

What would motivate 2 people to stay married?

From observation, there is no better motivation than money.

rich people would rather stay legally married even if they freakin' hate each other.

hehe

[ogpro]

We're only running into our 2nd year of blissful marriage, so I don't have a lot of knowledge to impart, but I can tell you what is really helping a lot...

MAKE ABSOLUTELY SURE you are marrying the right person. I can't stress that enough. I'm sure that should be common sense, but I've seen too many relationships end because of incompatibilities and the couple's refusal to work things out.

That said, I KNOW i'm with the right person. Almost 3 years together, a year and 3 months married...not one fight. I live each day to please her and remind her EVERY single day how special she is and how damned lucky I am to be with her. I could go on, but who'll take me seriously? I could bust a Tom Cruise and start jumping on couches, hehe.

It did take me a while to find her her tho, and a LOT of broken hearts...











I know, I know...I'll check in after a few years....hehe. So far so good tho.

[Airwalk]

maintain your friendship with your wife and most of all never ever forget anniversary dates!

you also might want to seriously consider the tips of HG... wag pahuhuli at wag aamin

[LexTer]

Cristo Centric ! ! !

Tapos everything will be ok. Promise....