A housewife or a workingwife

[jansky]

Maganda sa isang pamilya na ang Ina ay nasa tahanan at nagpapalaki ng mga bata at nag aasikaso ng mga gawaing bagay samantalang ang lalake eh nag tatrabaho sa labas
BUT
let us say you're wife is college not just a college graduate but Cumlaude

which one will you choose

[tidus1203]

Its her decision as far as I am concerned. While it might be nice if the kids are raised by the mom, sometimes you just can't stop an ambitious person....

[raine]

bro mahirap na desisyon yan at tanging kayo lang magasawa ang makakapagsabi, and if ever na ano ang naging desisyon nyo ngayon dapat wag kayong magsisihan pagdating ng panahon,
example:
kami ng wife ko pereho kaming working noon same company, matipid noon kasi sabay kami ng pasok kaya sa pagkain baon na lang at sasakyan .
nagdecide kaming huminto na lang siya para magbantay ng 2 bata, sacrifice sa point na mababawasan ng income, pero mababantayan naman ang mga bata, kaya ako doble kayod, pero yun ang gusto namin kaya dapat maging suportive kami sa isat isa.

[_Cathy_]

I think it's a privilege to be a housewife. I'll be more than willing to give up my career and not apply my post grad degree anymore. I think taking care of my child would give the greatest sense of fulfillment. The only problem is that most guys want their wives to work. AT least in my circle. It's sad. really.

[CVT]

I think it's a privilege to be a housewife. I'll be more than willing to give up my career and not apply my post grad degree anymore. I think taking care of my child would give the greatest sense of fulfillment. The only problem is that most guys want their wives to work. AT least in my circle. It's sad. really.

I think it's not wanting. It should be encouraging. If the woman wants to stay at home, then that should be okay, too.

However, what if something happens to the husband? I know of a family who was managing to be relatively well-off. And then, so suddenly, my good friend(husband) passed away. His wife, because she has no previous work experience, other than what she was doing at home, could not find work and was forced to leave for the US (tnt), leaving the care of their kids to an aunt. That is sad...

7000:diver:

[redorange]

What ever makes her happy. When my wife first moved to the US she was a housewife and didn't quite understand the budget constraints. However, once she started working became more involved with the finances and came to understand the budget constraints. Besides staying at home was driving her to boredom.

[t@n0d]

Ako, pinapili ko wife ko and she chose to work not just to provide added income but also support na rin for her parents. It's a good thing also na mag-work siya for her own good. Idle mind sometimes leads to rustiness and poor decision-making kasi kulang sa experiences from the outside world. Isa pa sayang ang pinag-aralan nya from school.

I disagree na mas maayos magpalaki ang isang Ina na nasa bahay kaysa nagtatrabaho. Ako at mga kapatid ko were raised by both working parents, sometimes nasa abroad pa ang father ko. Wala naman akong nakitang problem. Pwede kasing nasa parents lang din yan... You need to sacrifice to raise good children... Spending with them more time during weekends and after office will help a lot... I assure you. I saw this sa ibang mga ka-officemates. It's working effectively for them

[CVT]

For me, I would encourage my wife to work and pursue her ambitions. I want her to be as independent as she can be. DI(WK) is definitely an advantage these days... Of course, we should share the house chores and taking care of the kids. Parenting is a big challenge indeed!

7000:diver:

[Taurus]

A woman that smart can surely work at home and create your own business.

[ab_initio]

For me, I would encourage my wife to work and pursue her ambitions. I want her to be as independent as she can be. DI(WK) is definitely an advantage these days... Of course, we should share the house chores and taking care of the kids. Parenting is a big challenge indeed!

7000:diver:

well said po, Sir...

but when wife starts to rake in the most money to the conjugal coffer, hubby tends to be consumed by his self-generated jitters...bakit po?

[Bogeyman]

but when wife starts to rake in the most money to the conjugal coffer, hubby tends to be consumed by his self-generated jitters...bakit po?

It's because of the traditional perception that men are the breadwinners of the household, to the point that when someone else in the family manages to contribute more to domestic finances, male pride can make the head of the family feel that his position is being compromised.

[uls]

i have an observation...

pansin ko madami na mga lalake sa society natin ayaw magtrabaho

puhunan nila ang abilidad nila manligaw hehe

nagpapa-in love sila ng mga girls na may work or business,

then they live off the girls' money

haha

[mazdamazda]

let us say you're wife is college not just a college graduate but Cumlaude

If my wife is a college... make her St. Scholastica's!

[redorange]

If my wife is a college... make her St. Scholastica's!

LOL:funny: That's a very smart wife if she is a college, she won't need to work because she'll just collect tuitions.

[ab_initio]

parenting is a shared responsibility...it really depends on the financial capability of the young family...if a wife is made to stay at home, then there is this seeming added pressure on the part of the husband to earn some more which can be translated to him spending more time in the office or away from home...

my mother was a full time housewife...overtime, the same became an irritating chore but she found it difficult to integrate herself in the mainstream coz full time parenting deprived her of any socials...i salute my late mother for the sacrifices she made but i am always wishing she could have left something for herself...


let's digress:

My mother, during her last few years, i became so busy in school, so i got no chance to talk to her, but she told me to carry on...just a few days after i took my oath, even before i returned home, she died...

now, i have mixed thoughts but i am eternally grateful for the discipline (its harshnes being tempered with love)...i know she's happy up there....my father who had been so used to seeing her in the house, followed 8 months later...

for all their sacrifices, bawi na daw ako for making them proud...i am just wishing na sana they have lived longer, i could have brought them to great places...wishful thinking na lang...

i have fond memories of her, i.e. chicken soup when i have fever; adobong pusit, tinolang panga, and pochero whenever i have final exams and keeping these foods warm; giving me hot water for my eating utensils...just keeping me company during my late night dinner at home...praying me over when i couldn't pray...understanding my mood swings whenever i have dysmenorrhea....and many more...

can i do all those while complying with my socio-civic and personal obligations? hmmmm...let's see...

[sarceangel]

If my wife is a college... make her St. Scholastica's!

nice answer! LOL....

[safeorigin]

if i get married, i wouldn't mind letting her do her share of financing as long as we could properly raise the kids and still keep intimacy at optimal levels

[vito corleone]

If my wife is a college... make her St. Scholastica's!

seriously, latin honors or not, if the wife wants to pursue a career, she must be free to do so as long as the kids are not to be neglected, naayos yan between the mag-asawa. . .
personally, i find working moms ***ier