Getting Married

**Djerms** · October 3rd, 2003 07:06 PM

For those who are married, mahirap ba? I mean is it really that hard? :confused:

My main concern kasi is the budget eh. What if wala munang kids? and magrent ng house or something...is it possible if both of you are earning just a little above 20k each? What kind of lifestyle would we have?

Haaaaaaaaaaay buhay....

**zero** · October 3rd, 2003 07:52 PM

sa umpisa, madali kasi dalawa lang kayo.
parang bahay-bahayan, very sweet pa.
mahirap naman kung hindi kayo mag-aanak, malungkot at baka magkakasawaan na kayo. kung panganay ka or yung magiging wife mo, umaasa naman ng apo ang mga magulang.
at kung nasa late 20's na si babae, mahirapan na yan makabuo ng baby, laging spotting na yan.
ang advice ko, mag-anak na kayo within 2 years of marriage.
hindi ka naman siguro magpapakasal ng walang ipon.
huwag naman sunod-sunod ang anak, lagyan mo ng space/gap na 2-3 years.
nagmamahal na rin ang infant milk, rate sa hospital, vitamins, diapers, at ang magiging tuition fees ng anak mo. ceasarian today costs around P20thou+!!!
i just saw yesterday sa grocery na yung dating P400/kilo na naging infant milk ng anak ko ay nagkakahalaga na ng P750/kilo (yung nasa lata ito ha.) baka kapag ikaw na, P1thou na?!
kaya hanggang maaga, mag-anak na kayo.

i'm blessed naman with 2 girls (7 & 4 yrs. old), pambayad utang daw? (shet!)
lagi na lang kaming ipon for their basic needs and education.
don't worry, God will provide.

goodluck ha!

**wreckless** · October 3rd, 2003 07:57 PM

hmmmmmmm...
Djerms..
magpro-propose ka na ba??
good luck ha!!!
mwehehehe

**Djerms** · October 3rd, 2003 08:00 PM

Thanks zero. It seems that you have planned well for your amily. Ang ganda nga ng age gap ng kids mo. At least the other one can take care of the younger.

Ang mahal na pala ng infant milk...hindi ba pwedeng evap nalang..hehe.

Kidding aside, around how much ba ang dapat na ipon before getting married? considering na wala pa kaming house. Simple wedding lang naman eh...

**pajerokid** · October 3rd, 2003 08:12 PM

pare i'd hate to be the one to say this. If you have to ask, you cant afford it.

Madali lang magpakasal, mahirap not to mention magastos i-maintain, lalo na when your future wife starts popping out kids.

**zero** · October 3rd, 2003 08:22 PM

mine was P50 thou = church wedding tapos QC sports club ang reception. (1995 pa ito ha, ewan ko ngayon)

dito ako naka-tipid
= kumuha kami ng ninang na may-ari ng dress shop at garment store kaya yung barong ko at gown ng wife ko at attire ng mga abay ay regalo na ni ninang.
= chedeng ng isang barkada ng kapatid ang wedding car.

ilagay mo sa wedding invitation na pera na lang ang regalo,
apat na wedding na ang na-attend nan kong ganun.
may red envelope (yung ginagamit ng intsik) na naka-enclose sa invitation. sayang, di ko naisip yun, 10 tuloy ang rice-cooker ko at 3 kalan (Dyos ko po, parang magtatayo ako ng carinderia!) hahaha!!!

of course, mas matipid kung civil wedding na lang.
practical pa nowadays. but church wedding is every woman's dream daw.

**Ungas** · October 3rd, 2003 08:22 PM

At kung mag-aasawa ka, pumili ka ng low-maintenance wife para makapag-ipon ng maayos.

**zero** · October 3rd, 2003 08:43 PM

Originally posted by Ungas
At kung mag-aasawa ka, pumili ka ng low-maintenance wife para makapag-ipon ng maayos.

:bwahaha: :bwahaha: :bwahaha:

**kiper** · October 3rd, 2003 08:54 PM

zero,

10 rice cooker..?!! anak ng tokwa..tinipid ka ata ng mga nagregalo sayo ah..

pag ako nagpakasal, dapat nakalista na ung mga gamit..tapos papailiin ko na lang ung mga magreregalo..hehe..parang sa mga instik..:lol

**yebo** · October 3rd, 2003 08:58 PM

di ko na sabihin ang estimate ng wedding costs, although last january lang yung wedding namin ni misis (yung avatar sa left!) kasi nasa inyo naman yan kung ano gusto nyo at ma-afford. kung gusto nyo civil wedding lang bakit hindi, kami ni misis nag-vicil din muna nung august last year bago kami nagpakasal sa church.

kasya na yan 40k kung....wala ka hinuhulugan na bahay at apartment lang kayo, or may bahay na hinuhulugan at dun na kayo nakatira. kami kasi nasa apartment kami ngayon at naghuhulog pa kami ng 2 lots sa bulacan. investment lang naman yung sa bulacan, ibenta din namin yun pag mataas na price. at yung kikitahin dun sa lot yun ang balak namin pang-down sa bahay. better than putting it sa bank kasi, pwede mo ma-widraw. dun sa investment namin na lot, di namin magagalaw saka mas malaki ang kita.

anyway, sa apartment, 8k ang upa namin. syempre di naman magarbo na apartment yan, just 2 storey 2 bedroom sa pagasa. sa food, gastos namin nasa 5k per month. di kasama groceries dun which is around 4k per month. clothes syempre magshopping din kayo so additional yan. gastos sa kotse lalo na kung hulugan. health insurance dapat meron kayong dalawa. electric bill, water, telephone. sweldo ng maid. dami pang iba. basta budget ni misis sa bahay including rent 35k per month. ako sagot ng car payments saka amortization ng 2 lots sa bulacan (which is our savings actually). nakaka-save din si misis ng mga 5-7k per month dun sa budget nya, so nasa 28k lang ang gastos talaga.

but of course nasa budget mo naman yan, kung ano kaya mo bakit naman hindi kakasya ang 40k ninyo sa inyong dalawa lang.

**OTEP** · October 3rd, 2003 10:51 PM

Nikko,

You can use our 300SD for your wedding car if you want.

Just tell me in advance. Baka yung Hammer ni Bubbles kasi ang gusto mo. hehehe.

**boybi** · October 3rd, 2003 11:07 PM

grabe na nga ang mahal ng mga gatas ngayon. everytime na bibili kami, tumataas ang price. just yesterday, my wife phoned a grocery na customer namin to ask the price of their milk. 700.00 per can, so old price pa. tapos sabi ng wife ko she will buy all their stock of that kind of milk. sabi nung nasa phone to wait, when she got back to the phone, 730+ na daw yung price! ganun na ba kabilis mag increase ang price ng milk? just a few seconds lang me increase na naman? hindi nga bumili sa kanya wife ko.

**RAV4tess** · October 3rd, 2003 11:53 PM

I can see some sensitive men around here. They all make sense to me. Pero yung sabi ni Ungas, that's very important. Dapat yung babae magaling humawak ng pera. But bear in mind, it takes two to tango.

Save some money for a simple but decent church wedding. Invite only the people who cares about you both. Do not splurge, save the rest of your money for the house and other expenses. Enjoy your life together without kids for the first 2 years, then start having kids. No more than 2 kids, kasi mahirap ang buhay.

Lastly, prepare yourself for surprises because married life is full of it. Good luck!

**Karding** · October 4th, 2003 12:59 AM

Kids, wedding budget, area both opinionated. If someone can afford ten kids why not? If somone can afford a $50,000.00 wedding why not?

Bottom like and to generalize:

Hindi mahirap ang married life kung WILLING kang mag sacrifice.

and make sure you two doesnt live paycheck-to-paycheck.

Goodluck, as I will be needing it as well.
;)

**qman** · October 4th, 2003 12:59 AM

di pa nabanggit ito
pag me anak ka na from infancy pa lang marami na siyang requirement na bakuna hepa b- a booster etc.... medyo mahal din ngayon iyon I remember nang dinala ko ang daughter ko sa ospital for her scheduled bakuna di ko matandaan kung ano, isang tusok lang 1.1K libre na iyong Prof. fee noon. pero mas mura naman sa health center or kung me kamag-anak kang doktor libre hehehe.

**Bubbles** · October 4th, 2003 01:02 AM

Madali magasawa. mahirap magkaanak. Kami ni Mrs. Bubbles, di pa kami kasal siya na mayhawak ng lahat ng pero ko. I did this para alam ko kung marunong siya humawak ng pera at kung anong klaseng tao talaga siya. We both gave up our indiv. accts tapos puro joint na kami. It turns out, mas magaling siya humawak ng pera sa akin. medyo high maintenace siya pero pinapabayaan ko lang since nagagawa pa naman niya na fit lahat ng bills etc. with money to spare pa.

Ang iba lang ngayon, yung kinikita ko, bumubuhay sa dalawa. Di na ako kasing big spender tulad ng noon. But thats life and I don't regret it. Mas madali kami ngayon since shes working too pero hindi ako happy sa ganun.

As for kids wala pa kaming balak. we want to enjoy each other first. And parang di ko pa kaya ibigay lahat sa anak ko.

**promdiboy** · October 4th, 2003 01:16 AM

how much dapat ang income para kasalin. and how much dapat ang cash na hawak mo?
same din naiisip ko kay djerms. am turning 27 next yr. pinapaasawa na ako pero takot sa responsibility. baka mapunta sa hiwalayan. lalo pa same age kami.

**Bubbles** · October 4th, 2003 01:20 AM

Para sakin age doesn't matter. income para kasalin will depende on the life that you want to live. calculate mo lahat ng possible expense. malalaman mo. hirap magsabi ng ganyan kasi squatter nga na walang trabaho, walo anak. it all depends my friend.

**CZintrclr** · October 4th, 2003 03:02 AM

tama si bubbles, if you are earning 50thsnd a month pero grabe ka naman gumastos kukulangin pa, but if you are earning only 20thsnd a month but knows how to spend your money wisely ok na. It all depends on one's lifestyle.

**kuroy** · October 4th, 2003 05:53 AM

tingin ko wag mag asawa dahil lang sa pressure.

you've got to be TOTALLY Conviced with yourself na ito na talaga ang gusto mo.

Kahit na 35-40 ka na oks lang mag antay basta iyon na ang gusto mo and hindi napipilitan laang

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