College grad, have work...but still living with their parents?

[Phoenix67]

Would you be one?

Would you agree with it? Curious lang ako...

Napansin ko lang kasi na parang sa mga pinoy napaka-common nito or normal ng ganitong case. I'm really amazed

I left my father's house even before I graduated after I landed a job. The only time I went back for temporary shelter was a few years after graduation and I had a "jobless" three month period. Pero after I got a job, I immediately left the comfort of our house and lived on my own. I never approved kasi na maging pasanin pa ng magulang ko when I was already a graduate and earning my own money.

Life was not that easy though (budgeting a small salary for rent, food, pang gimmick) at the start but it way better than some of my friends na sheltered pa rin even after they got married.

[dct]

pwede ka naman magbigay for food, electric bills, o kung gusto mo lahat na. what i mean is, hindi naman kailngan mag-sarili. kahit naman siguro parents mo gugustuhin na kasama ka

i don't get your point. what's the big deal living with parents. close family ties nga ang pinoy di ba. and i think it's the best way. hindi gaya sa US culture na ipapasok na lang sa home for the aged (im not saying ganun ka ah) pero ganun kasi majority of them na sa part ng parents, syempre masakit

[_Cathy_]

I've been working for almost 8 years now and I still live with my parents. I'll only leave home when I get married and that's what my parents want as well.

I don't agree to leaving home the soonest you could afford to. You could always help your parents with the expenses if money is the issue. I think we should spend as much time as we could with our parents while still single, because once you have a family your focus will be on your spouse and chidren na.

Ang pangit lang siguro yung may asawa na pero naka asa pa rin sa magulang pati para sa gastos ng mga anak nila. May mga kilala din ako na ganyan. Parents na nga nag provide ng bahay pero parents pa rin nagbabayad ng utilities

[dr. d]

I've been working for almost 8 years now and I still live with my parents. I'll only leave home when I get married and that's what my parents want as well.

I don't agree to leaving home the soonest you could afford to. You could always help your parents with the expenses if money is the issue. I think we should spend as much time as we could with our parents while still single, because once you have a family your focus will be on your spouse and chidren na.

Ang pangit lang siguro yung may asawa na pero naka asa pa rin sa magulang pati para sa gastos ng mga anak nila. May mga kilala din ako na ganyan. Parents na nga nag provide ng bahay pero parents pa rin nagbabayad ng utilities

i still live in my parents' house, after almost 12 years marriage and kids. why? because they'd be all alone if we were to leave. and they're not exactly in the best of health.
but i do pay for the utilities, amillar, medicines and food, day-to-day expenses, etc.
besides, i know for a fact, just how much my parents would like to see us often..
so... if you think you're imposing, then leave the soonest you can afford it. otherwise, stay and make yourself useful. you have no idea how much they like to see you... lucky for me it's a big house, and they like my wife..
but can i afford to leave? well, i can buy a house tomorrow if i want to.
actually, it's relatively easy now to live independently.. rent a condo, furnished if possible.. 20K siguro ang monthly expenses, buhay ka na.

[lowslowbenz]

Failure to launch? Sounds like a movie!


After college, i set out on my own. My parents just supported me monthly until i got my first job! From then until now it was ok naman. At least i got to stand on my own two feet, and prove to myself that i can do it.

Takes a lot of blood, sweat, and tears though.

[A121]

Mas ok siguro if you contribute to the general wealth of the whole family. I mean, why start from scratch, when you can generally have more wealth generating opportunities living with your parents.

[uls]

I'll only leave home when I get married

so that means you're never gonna leave home hehe

[Ry_Tower]

I guess I'm lucky that my own home is within the compound of our family lot (subdivided na kasi). hehe

It's better talaga na kapag married eh ibang bahay na. Okay lang kung single at hindi ka naman PAL.

[Chikselog]

I get the TS' point siguro gusto nya ng maranasan yung hirap ng buhay hehe pero assuming one is single, fresh grad pero with work at hindi pa established sa buhay, e I don't see anything wrong with living with your parents provided na nagco-contribute ka sa bayarin ng household or sa pag-aaral ng younger siblings kung meron man. Ang masama lang is kung sinasarili mo sweldo mo, syempre if you know you can contribute sa mga gastusin e di gawin mo.

[taraki17a]

huwag ka lang maging pabigat sa parents mo, no problem...
-obey your parent's house rules
-share sa pagbayad ng bills

[CVT]

I stayed with my parents until I got married. This is also what I intend to offer to our kids unless they have other plans, which I am also promoting with them.

Never asked them for any money while I stayed with them after college as I got work immediately after graduation. Have given them money too as Consuelo de bobo and " helped" financially in the college education of our youngest sibling.

Well, wife and myself stayed for a few days with my parents as our house was finishing construction... I made sure only for a few days as honeymoon with in laws can easily wear off....

18.0K:sailor:

[CVT]

Nowadays, parents have to build a large garage to accommodate their kids'vehicles...

I did... call it planning ahead but parking in the street is a no no for me. One of my neighbors was ribbing me about this. Just smiled it off.

18.0K:sailor:

[fourtheboys96]

Would you be one?

Would you agree with it? Curious lang ako...

Napansin ko lang kasi na parang sa mga pinoy napaka-common nito or normal ng ganitong case. I'm really amazed

I left my father's house even before I graduated after I landed a job. The only time I went back for temporary shelter was a few years after graduation and I had a "jobless" three month period. Pero after I got a job, I immediately left the comfort of our house and lived on my own. I never approved kasi na maging pasanin pa ng magulang ko when I was already a graduate and earning my own money.

Life was not that easy though (budgeting a small salary for rent, food, pang gimmick) at the start but it way better than some of my friends na sheltered pa rin even after they got married.

Umalis ka nung may trabaho ka. Tapos bumalik ka ng maging jobless ka. In short, "PASANIN" ka. Aalis pag may pera, babalik pag wala.

Kung ayaw mong maging pasanin, dapat hindi ka bumalik noong jobless ka. or noong may trabaho ka, nagcontribute ka sa house expenses. tsk tsk tsk.

[Phoenix67]

Umalis ka nung may trabaho ka. Tapos bumalik ka ng maging jobless ka. In short, "PASANIN" ka. Aalis pag may pera, babalik pag wala.

Kung ayaw mong maging pasanin, dapat hindi ka bumalik noong jobless ka. or noong may trabaho ka, nagcontribute ka sa house expenses. tsk tsk tsk.

Very true...but to explain further, the whole scenario was this: i was already paying for my school tuition and daily needs in the last two or three years at the university until I graduated (tricycle driver on sat and sat - we own the trike) student ng mon-fri. While finishing my thesis in the last year at university, I managed to land a sales job. Kaso after 9months on that work, my adviser warned me that ibabagsak niya ako if i do not finish my manuscript that semester...so no choice, I resigned...finished my manuscript at nagmarcha ng abril. During that time na "jobless" ako, balik weekend trike driver ako. Also while waiting for the next job (puro application lang at interviews pa kasi)....that was the 3 months that I stayed home.

Of course pag nasa bahay ako, patakpatak kami ng utol for food and utilities...erpat ko nung time na yun ay retired na...he has his pension for his needs and although I was staying at home, I was neither a bum nor an ingrate!

Most of the job I got are not based in Manila...so it was really pretty stupid kung uwian pa ako ng manila even on weekends...why not stand on my feet.

An tanong ko sa 'yo ... Did you have that same guts at an age of 21?

[dr. d]

Very true...but to explain further, the whole scenario was this: i was already paying for my school tuition and daily needs in the last two or three years at the university until I graduated (tricycle driver on sat and sat - we own the trike) student ng mon-fri. While finishing my thesis in the last year at university, I managed to land a sales job. Kaso after 9months on that work, my adviser warned me that ibabagsak niya ako if i do not finish my manuscript that semester...so no choice, I resigned...finished my manuscript at nagmarcha ng abril. During that time na "jobless" ako, balik weekend trike driver ako. Also while waiting for the next job (puro application lang at interviews pa kasi)....that was the 3 months that I stayed home.

Of course pag nasa bahay ako, patakpatak kami ng utol for food and utilities...erpat ko nung time na yun ay retired na...he has his pension for his needs and although I was staying at home, I was neither a bum nor an ingrate!

Most of the job I got are not based in Manila...so it was really pretty stupid kung uwian pa ako ng manila even on weekends...why not stand on my feet.

An tanong ko sa 'yo ... Did you have that same guts at an age of 21?

guts to do... which one?
the almost abandoning your college studies because you got drunk with a taste of independent money..?
the leaving your parents when you can afford it but returning to them when the money ran out? and leaving when you could afford it again?
the choosing to live near the workplace and saving yourself the inconvenience of commuting?
you took the easy way out, if you ask me!
but you did want to escape the expected negative comments from your parents when you decide to indulge in a little life of wanton abandon, 'di ba? i suspect this was the main reason you wanted to live outside of your parents' house.
pabayaan ang "thesis" mo... that was irresponsible of you.. buti naman at natauhan ka on time..
and i must congratulate you.. because you managed to extricate yourself out of your self-made mess.
to paraphrase a wise Man's words... "misfortune can only mold you into a better person, if it does not utterly destroy you first". it seems, you are now a better person. now, just don't you downplay others who went by another route to achieve similar results as yours..

these are my views.

[testament11]

TS, wag mo sanang masamain pero did you get much love from your parents? Feel kong hindi dahil gustong gusto mong makawala agad sa kweba based sa kwento mo. I somehow pity you at first dahil hindi mo nagampanan nang maayos ang pagiging college student mo. Busy drinking, doing ***, even prohibited substances. Masyado kang irresponsible na dumating sa point na hindi ka nakatapos. Pero very good thing na natauhan ka at natapos mo ang pag-aaral mo before.

Hindi komo ganyan ang nangyari sa iyo eh pwedeng i-apply sa ibang tao. Yun iba dyan, kahit nasa poder pa ng mga magulang nila ay mga successful naman na tao. Hindi mo kelangan na lumayo sa mga parents mo para lang maging successful at independent. Tsaka wag mong i-stereotype yun mga taong hindi naranasan yun mga naranasan mo. Kanya kanya tayo ng diskarte sa buhay. Nataon lang na yun diskarte mo ang ok sa iyo. Pero wag na wag mong sasabihin na yun diskarte mo, ay dapat gawin ng ibang tao para maging successful.

[Phoenix67]

TS, wag mo sanang masamain pero did you get much love from your parents? Feel kong hindi dahil ....

No offense taken sir. But your views about me is surely wrong.

[Phoenix67]

...
and i must congratulate you.. because you managed to extricate yourself out of your self-made mess.
to paraphrase a wise Man's words... "misfortune can only mold you into a better person, if it does not utterly destroy you first". it seems, you are now a better person. now, just don't you downplay others who went by another route to achieve similar results as yours..

these are my views.

Your views are very well respected!