College grad, have work...but still living with their parents?

**Phoenix67** · February 2nd, 2013 01:45 AM

Would you be one?

Would you agree with it? Curious lang ako...

Napansin ko lang kasi na parang sa mga pinoy napaka-common nito or normal ng ganitong case. I'm really amazed

I left my father's house even before I graduated after I landed a job. The only time I went back for temporary shelter was a few years after graduation and I had a "jobless" three month period. Pero after I got a job, I immediately left the comfort of our house and lived on my own. I never approved kasi na maging pasanin pa ng magulang ko when I was already a graduate and earning my own money.

Life was not that easy though (budgeting a small salary for rent, food, pang gimmick) at the start but it way better than some of my friends na sheltered pa rin even after they got married.

**dct** · February 2nd, 2013 02:01 AM

pwede ka naman magbigay for food, electric bills, o kung gusto mo lahat na. what i mean is, hindi naman kailngan mag-sarili. kahit naman siguro parents mo gugustuhin na kasama ka

i don't get your point. what's the big deal living with parents. close family ties nga ang pinoy di ba. and i think it's the best way. hindi gaya sa US culture na ipapasok na lang sa home for the aged (im not saying ganun ka ah) pero ganun kasi majority of them na sa part ng parents, syempre masakit

**Chikselog** · February 2nd, 2013 02:13 AM

I get the TS' point siguro gusto nya ng maranasan yung hirap ng buhay hehe pero assuming one is single, fresh grad pero with work at hindi pa established sa buhay, e I don't see anything wrong with living with your parents provided na nagco-contribute ka sa bayarin ng household or sa pag-aaral ng younger siblings kung meron man. Ang masama lang is kung sinasarili mo sweldo mo, syempre if you know you can contribute sa mga gastusin e di gawin mo.

**_Cathy_** · February 2nd, 2013 02:15 AM

I've been working for almost 8 years now and I still live with my parents. I'll only leave home when I get married and that's what my parents want as well.

I don't agree to leaving home the soonest you could afford to. You could always help your parents with the expenses if money is the issue. I think we should spend as much time as we could with our parents while still single, because once you have a family your focus will be on your spouse and chidren na.

Ang pangit lang siguro yung may asawa na pero naka asa pa rin sa magulang pati para sa gastos ng mga anak nila. May mga kilala din ako na ganyan. Parents na nga nag provide ng bahay pero parents pa rin nagbabayad ng utilities

**dr. d** · February 2nd, 2013 02:37 AM

Originally Posted by Cathy_for_you

I've been working for almost 8 years now and I still live with my parents. I'll only leave home when I get married and that's what my parents want as well.

I don't agree to leaving home the soonest you could afford to. You could always help your parents with the expenses if money is the issue. I think we should spend as much time as we could with our parents while still single, because once you have a family your focus will be on your spouse and chidren na.

Ang pangit lang siguro yung may asawa na pero naka asa pa rin sa magulang pati para sa gastos ng mga anak nila. May mga kilala din ako na ganyan. Parents na nga nag provide ng bahay pero parents pa rin nagbabayad ng utilities

i still live in my parents' house, after almost 12 years marriage and kids. why? because they'd be all alone if we were to leave. and they're not exactly in the best of health.
but i do pay for the utilities, amillar, medicines and food, day-to-day expenses, etc.
besides, i know for a fact, just how much my parents would like to see us often..
so... if you think you're imposing, then leave the soonest you can afford it. otherwise, stay and make yourself useful. you have no idea how much they like to see you... lucky for me it's a big house, and they like my wife..
but can i afford to leave? well, i can buy a house tomorrow if i want to.
actually, it's relatively easy now to live independently.. rent a condo, furnished if possible.. 20K siguro ang monthly expenses, buhay ka na.

**lowslowbenz** · February 2nd, 2013 03:20 AM

Failure to launch? Sounds like a movie!

After college, i set out on my own. My parents just supported me monthly until i got my first job! From then until now it was ok naman. At least i got to stand on my own two feet, and prove to myself that i can do it.

Takes a lot of blood, sweat, and tears though.

**A121** · February 2nd, 2013 03:31 AM

Mas ok siguro if you contribute to the general wealth of the whole family. I mean, why start from scratch, when you can generally have more wealth generating opportunities living with your parents.

**taraki17a** · February 2nd, 2013 03:51 AM

huwag ka lang maging pabigat sa parents mo, no problem...
-obey your parent's house rules
-share sa pagbayad ng bills

**testament11** · February 2nd, 2013 07:06 AM

5 years na kong graduate and I work sa family business namin. Still, dito pa rin ako sa parents ko nakatira. Yun kinikita namin ng tatay ko sa business ang panggastos namin dito sa bahay at may kanya kanya kaming salaries bukod doon. Siguro man kung mag-aasawa ako eh baka dito na rin kami tumira kasi only child lang naman ako at may kalakihan naman din itong bahay.

Tsaka ito ang dapat mong isipin. Never kang naging pasanin ng parents mo sa case mo dahil nagawa mong magkaroon ng sarili mong work. What you need to do eh mag-abot ka man lang ng konting pera na panggastos, say sagutin mo yun utility bills or ikaw ang sumagot ng groceries ninyo. Kasi sabi mo, maliit lang salary mo. Tsaka you need to enjoy your time with your parents as long as possible dahil pag dumating ang time na may family ka na, gaya nga ng sabi ng isang tsikoteer, eh mababaling na attention mo.

**Mguy** · February 2nd, 2013 09:04 AM

I lived with my parents until i got married. It was sort of a family rule then although I wanted to go on my own earlier, they discourage me saying paying rent is just a waste of money. I paid my share though when i was staying.

I don't think in general that you fly the coup early here in the Philippines.

**Phoenix67** · February 2nd, 2013 09:38 AM

Very interesting points-of-view...

What made me decide to stay away was the "freedom" I felt when I was living on my own. No house rules, kasi I make the house rules. Sabi nga nung dating boss ko from one of my previous work - sa isang kaharian hindi puede na dalawa ang hari.

**Phoenix67** · February 2nd, 2013 09:46 AM

To add pa, my being independent early (I think 20 lang ako nun) was also an added boost on my credibility kaya mabilis ang promotion ko sa work.

**7138** · February 2nd, 2013 09:53 AM

Originally Posted by Phoenix67

Very interesting points-of-view...

What made me decide to stay away was the "freedom" I felt when I was living on my own. No house rules, kasi I make the house rules. Sabi nga nung dating boss ko from one of my previous work - sa isang kaharian hindi puede na dalawa ang hari.

Strict pla parents, kaya umalis
Accdng to experience, nakakasawa din, minsan hahanaphanapin mo din company nila.

**dr. d** · February 2nd, 2013 10:07 AM

actually, living with your parents takes more finesse than moving out... you will have to hold the reins in the family now, without making your parents feel you are controlling them.. when my parents passed away, i then took over the old house. what was my most difficult part in taking over the old house? finding out where the water pipes are buried when tracing for leaks! getting rid of the termites!
moving out nowadays is easy because condos are easily available. moving out now is just like moving to a dorm... no big deal... only now the monies are much bigger..

**Just** · February 2nd, 2013 10:10 AM

Originally Posted by Phoenix67

Very interesting points-of-view...

What made me decide to stay away was the "freedom" I felt when I was living on my own. No house rules, kasi I make the house rules. Sabi nga nung dating boss ko from one of my previous work - sa isang kaharian hindi puede na dalawa ang hari.

this only applies when you're already married. syempre pag single ka and stayed with your parents sila ang hari at reyna but when you get married, gusto mo na din maging hari so you better create your own kingdom.

altho me mga officemates akong single esp babae na ayaw ng parents nilang magsolo sila kasi they are obliged to help in their financial needs, yung iba nga atm nila nasa parents nila, so medyo naaawa ako sa kanila.

**OTEP** · February 2nd, 2013 10:22 AM

Local norm is you move out when you marry atleast in the area where Im from. If you are single and already earning, you can take the time to give back to your folks. And its not always monetary. Sometimes just having you around the house to take mom to the palengke and other menial tasks is already a big help. Medyo mahihiya na kasi ang parents to ask once you are no longer part of the household.

My cousin is already earning well and has a large condo in the better part of metro manila, but since she is not yet married, there are a lot of days where she goes home and stays in the parental house to her folks to help in the house and because her other siblings have gotten married and moved overseas. It does not encroach on her independence and she still has a home to call her own when she feels like it.

**uls** · February 2nd, 2013 10:23 AM

Originally Posted by Cathy_for_you

I'll only leave home when I get married

so that means you're never gonna leave home hehe

**Ry_Tower** · February 2nd, 2013 10:27 AM

I guess I'm lucky that my own home is within the compound of our family lot (subdivided na kasi). hehe

It's better talaga na kapag married eh ibang bahay na. Okay lang kung single at hindi ka naman PAL.

**CVT** · February 2nd, 2013 10:27 AM

I stayed with my parents until I got married. This is also what I intend to offer to our kids unless they have other plans, which I am also promoting with them.

Never asked them for any money while I stayed with them after college as I got work immediately after graduation. Have given them money too as Consuelo de bobo and " helped" financially in the college education of our youngest sibling.

Well, wife and myself stayed for a few days with my parents as our house was finishing construction... I made sure only for a few days as honeymoon with in laws can easily wear off....

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**Phoenix67** · February 2nd, 2013 10:32 AM

Originally Posted by 7138

Strict pla parents, kaya umalis
Accdng to experience, nakakasawa din, minsan hahanaphanapin mo din company nila.

They were not really strict....ako bunso, I even had the highest "fringe benefits". Pero I was already living "on-my-own" since freshman college kasi I stayed sa dorm then apartments with several friends or frat brods .... at duon ko nakita at naexperience ang "freedom" which felt so good!

Walang curfew, pedeng sky's d limit na inuman sa bahay, pedeng orgy, pedeng magdrugs, peden anything...with nobody to stop you other than the police :D

Lalong mas naging ok when I had enough money to rent an apartment on my own (no barkadas sharing the house with me).

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