Closure sa Relationship

[chain]

conscious decision for both of us. its the letting go part that's a bit difficult kasi both of us still have feelings for each other.

syempre maraming reasons on as to why this decision came to be but I don't want to go back and replay the what-ifs in my head.

*sigh* mahirap.. but like her recent text, its more important to look ahead than to look back.

[oldblue]

just curious... why did you agree to separate?

if you both still love each other... it might take years before you can recuperate from that.

sorry, pero ako nanghihinayang... emotions do play a big part in our relationships... if not for that... we might as well go for the prettiest & ***iest and/or richest girl around.

the problem is when too emotional or when there is too much love, they see thru each other almost like clockwork, so predictable. it's suffocating at times.

[mazdamazda]

I'd be lying kung sabihin ko hindi na.

Both of us agree that we have to move forward from this and still be friends afterwards.

just curious... why did you agree to separate?

if you both still love each other... it might take years before you can recuperate from that.

sorry, pero ako nanghihinayang... emotions do play a big part in our relationships... if not for that... we might as well go for the prettiest & ***iest and/or richest girl around.

[margaux]

oh my gosh... is this something like serendipity?????

[stinkaboy]

just shows na yung love stories sa movie nangyayari talga sa totoong buhay

[BoEinG_747]

just shows na yung love stories sa movie nangyayari talga sa totoong buhay

oo nga noh ,akala ko din ng una mga kathang isip lng mga scripwriter ang mga iyon ,
pag napanood mo sa movie ,minsan nababaduyan ka na,
pero pag personal mo na experience,maiiyak or matatawa ka na lang
(di mo alam kung sa asar or sa tuwa)

[oldblue]

just shows na yung love stories sa movie nangyayari talga sa totoong buhay

hindi lang love stories movies, pati "Fatal Attraction" movies din ... applied to real life. na-experience nyo ba yun may di-nate ka sa office mo, then nanood kayo ng sine, then 1 week later yun di-nate mo eh may ni-reveal sa'yo. meron daw girl tumawag sa kanya at nagprank call. and then these girl narrated how close she came sa date movie nyo ... in detail pa time, place, and title of movie ... nakaupo pala sa likod nyo. and these girl daw hindi lang sa haws nya pinaprank call pati sa office nya. the girl knew her full name, position, home number and address.

the girl turned out to be your ex-gf whom you've broken up with more than 6 months ago.

[wildthing]

dehadista,

i think it is not being an LDR that is really happening in your case!...aminin mo na...do you fear getting married to her?!?

Getting married to a person you really don't love is really a wrong turn...

i had the same predicament eons ago....break-up for about 3 months (but same case we still love each other)...the real reason (for me) behind the scenes was because I had fear on the issue of "if what if she wasn't the one"...."what if all we had was plain physical/***ual thing going"....same scenario ng what if's mo!

one day we had a chance meeting and semi-date with friends, then ginabi and she had no place to stay so i invited her over at my place...i woke up next day with my mind saying...."we'll this woman is really worthy enough to be my wife!"....

so nagkabalikan kami....took another 4-5years before we got married....during which we continued on an LDR (ahente kasi ako on the province areas and she was working in manila)...we meet weekends only....there was still no text or mobile phone or email nuon) BUT all i can say was it was super sweeter the second time around....even now with 3 kids going into their teens.

bottom line....just relax, don't even think about the situation, still keep in contact with her (friends pa kayo diba), and of course visit her on her birthday (friends do greet and at most visit one another on their birthdays)....mare-resolve din yung mga what-if's mo....


ps. document your life....baka pedeng pang pelikula or telenovela someday...

[empy]

we might as well go for the prettiest & ***iest and/or richest girl around.

i can live with that...as long as she also owns a liquor store

[_Cathy_]

All my past relationships ended without closure.

In all cases, we'd fight then just stop talking to each other. For my first 2 relationships, we talked several months after our "breakup" but never about what happened.

My most recent break up naman, we're still not talking

[CVT]

All my past relationships ended without closure.

In all cases, we'd fight then just stop talking to each other. For my first 2 relationships, we talked several months after our "breakup" but never about what happened.

My most recent break up naman, we're still not talking

Sis,- "your goodbyes are somewhat unrefined" pala.....

11.2K:bee:

[_Cathy_]

^haha! What's important is we never talked ill about each other and didn't discuss the cause of the breakup with other people.

[CVT]

What's important is we never talked ill about each other and didn't discuss the cause of the breakup with other people.

Ehem,.... are you certain about that, Sis?

Iyong mga ex-es ko naman, we had closure, but we never talked to/with each other again, even in the company of our common friends. Personally, I don't see any reason why I should be talking to/with her. However, I am certain na sa akin, wala ng 'spark'... :hysterical:

Even when pressed by my male buddies over brown bottles, especially on a couple of serious relations, I never hinted anything about what happened then. I just tell them, "Ilipat na lang natin sa Eat Bulaga"(change channels) and that's it.....

What I am saying basically, is that the closure should be just between the 2 parties and not for public scrutiny.... Well, it's just me talking here....

11.2K:bee:

[uls]

opinion ko lang

it's just BF-GF relationship

break-ups don't have to be formal

pwede you just drifted apart

or one of you got tired of the other

iwas lang until the other one gets the hint

why is it people assume na bf/gf parin nila kahit matagal na sila walang communication? (months, years)

delusional na yan eh

i've met girls who are like that

"may bf ka?"

"meron. pero matagal na kami walang communication."

"gaano katagal?"

"6 months"

yung iba "1 year"

wala daw kasi formal break-up

hahahaha

[CVT]

Girls are like that bro.,- they want to discuss things....

Boys just like to play around. Whether enjoying their time, or for keeps....

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[_Cathy_]

Ehem,.... are you certain about that, Sis?

Definitely. You yourself don't talk to your friends about it diba. Ako din ganun

Kasiraan ko rin kasi yun if I talk ill about my exes. After all, your choice of partner reflects on yourself din

When it comes to relationships matiisin ako tapos may nagt-trigger na ayoko na. So I stop talking to the guy. No need to discuss na.

[CVT]

Definitely. You yourself don't talk to your friends about it diba. Ako din ganun

Kasiraan ko rin kasi yun if I talk ill about my exes. After all, your choice of partner reflects on yourself din

When it comes to relationships matiisin ako tapos may nagt-trigger na ayoko na. So I stop talking to the guy. No need to discuss na.

Sis,- What I am trying to say that we are not certain with is "the other party"... (Kasi you said "we", or I may have misconstrued it)....

11.2K:bee:

[_Cathy_]

Sis,- What I am trying to say that we are not certain with is "the other party"... (Kasi you said "we", or I may have misconstrued it)....

11.2K:bee:

ah! As far as I know none of my exes talked ill about me (or at least not with our common friends lol) We became friends again about a year or so after the break up so parang no ill feelings towards each other. None of them talk ill about their past relationships with me din so more or less ganun din sila samin.

[uls]

ang masasabi lang ng mga ex ni Cathy --> "Pre, si Cathy... hanggang kiss lang eh"

hehehe

[nervenllarena]

ang masasabi lang ng mga ex ni Cathy --> "Pre, si Cathy... hanggang kiss lang eh"

hehehe

wow swerte naman ng magiging bagong bf ni mam cathy