Office Friendships: Is it Possible?

[_Cathy_]

Getting along with one's colleagues is important but can real friendships be really made at work? The workplace is a competitive environment and colleagues are people that we only knew in our adulthood unlike our childhood friends that we grew up with and know us at our core.

Did you form deep friendships at work? If so, how did it happen? If not, where did you draw the line?

[1D4LV]

i have a close friend here sa office, who is our chief technology officer. pag nagbabangaan kami, alam namin pareho na its all work, never personal.

i had kumpares and kumares sa mga previous work ko. up to now, we still see each other.

draw the line? it would be up to you... pwedeng up to the personal level, or up to the work level lang.
kami minsan, we go out with our spouses sa dinner, sa mga get together.... we give personal advices, pero not to the point in meddling na in what to do.

you are with these people 8 hours or more each day... better make the most out of it.

[mateomarco]

I think depende sa industry on where you work...pag sales, madalas galit galit mga tao dyan...

Me, i have close friends din sa office...ninong ata ako ng lahat ng newborn ng mga officemates ko dito...sometimes they share their problems and i also share mine...

Yup, you share most of your time in the workplace rather than sa bahay so importante that you have a good working environment...

[romeocharlie]

Real friendships, possible naman.. You really have to develop a good working environment para efficient kayo sa mga trabaho nyo. Personally, im a friend sa mga co-workers ko and they treat me as the bunso of the group. Kahit sa boss namin lahat kame magkakaibigan in and out of the office.. My co-workers though, meron silang group na talagang deep ang friendships. Yung tipong pag nag-aaway ng asawa eh dun nakikistay muna sa isa namin katrabaho.. They treat each other as family.. Ako, i don't go that deep. Its not that i don't want to, but i try to keep my personal life away from my work. I can share my problems and they could share theirs, but its not necessarily that we will solve them as a group.. Na-aappreciate ko naman na we look at each others back no matter what, ganun din naman ako sa kanila.. Ayaw ko lang masyadong maging comfortable sa kanila na pag kame ang nagka-problema personally, baka madamay ang trabaho.. That is to when i draw the line..

PS: ako din yung tipong katrabaho na i can do some favors at my convenience, pero never mo akong mauutangan.. Kung kapamilya nga nagkakasira sa pera, eh ano pa yung katrabaho mo lang na walang blood consideration..




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[cast_no_shadow]

How do we define it ba? Im friends with my team, same level kami lahat. Yun Team Leader (TL) namin medyo distansiya siya

Pansin nga nung pinaka boss namin, bakit daw parang OP (out of place) si TL namin sa group namin.

although my friendship with my team mates ends with my shift, i can't consider them as same level as my barkada.

pero nakakausap ko sila personal matters and i can be myself when im with them.

we never go out after work, mahirap ayain mga tao dito kanya kanya after office hours puro pamilyado na din kasi.

which i envy with my barkada, lahat sila may set of barkada sa work nila.

[shadow]

meron classification ang mga friends...childhood-HS, college and work then yun mga extended friends na like barkada ng asawa mo yun mga asawa nila...then asawa ng kapatid ng asawa mo...ewan ko ano tawag doon...

[yebo]

.then asawa ng kapatid ng asawa mo...ewan ko ano tawag doon...

Bwisit? Ay mali, bilas pala! Pero pwede din bwisit pag may crush ka sa sis-in-law mo.

[cast_no_shadow]

Pero pwede din bwisit pag may crush ka sa sis-in-law mo.

Hirap nyan hehe si esmi may magagandang 1st cousins. Tropa tropa pa man din pag magkakasama kami

[vinj]

I have a few close friends from my previous work. I don't have much friends (unlike others na kaibigan ang buong bayan) but i'm very tight with those that i have.

Maraming factors in these office friendships IMO (age gaps, industry, local or multinational company, rewards systems, company culture, etc.). I also noticed that more close friendships are cultivated within the groups who are just starting out and are young (esp. kung karamihan first job) and that they come from similar backgrounds. At my previous job, it was a very familial organization but it began to change when the senior management and ownership structure shifted big time (one reason why i cut out); more "outsiders" were brought in and given hefty positions, countering the home-grown people and this i think also made for a more competitive and less friendly environment. Buti nalang dito sa current work ko, pinagaawayan lang namin yung location ng photocopier and water dispenser... at yung budget sa renovation. Minsan nagagalit din ako pag may nag park sa slot ko.

[_Cathy_]

I have a few close friends from my previous work. I don't have much friends (unlike others na kaibigan ang buong bayan) but i'm very tight with those that i have.

Maraming factors in these office friendships IMO (age gaps, industry, local or multinational company, rewards systems, company culture, etc.). I also noticed that more close friendships are cultivated within the groups who are just starting out and are young (esp. kung karamihan first job) and that they come from similar backgrounds. At my previous job, it was a very familial organization but it began to change when the senior management and ownership structure shifted big time (one reason why i cut out); more "outsiders"

This is so true. My first job was with a small organisation. We were almost the same age and came from roughly the same background. Some were batchmates from college or hs or live in the same area so everyone was familiar with each other. I formed deep friendships din there. Then when the company expanded nasira na environment so a lot left the company.

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[ghosthunter]

Getting along with one's colleagues is important but can real friendships be really made at work? The workplace is a competitive environment and colleagues are people that we only knew in our adulthood unlike our childhood friends that we grew up with and know us at our core.

Did you form deep friendships at work? If so, how did it happen? If not, where did you draw the line?

Depends. In my case, I never had deep friendships with the people I worked with.

[vinj]

In my case, I never had deep friendships with the people I worked with.

Only deep.... uhm... nevermind. Might deviate this from the topic again.

[K.I.L.L.]

I have a strict separation between friends, family, and work and I never mix them up. Though there are exceptions (as there always would be) I find mixing emotions and feelings in the workplace to be a negative experience and can either lead to abuse or inefficiency. All of my friends are from my social circle and the closest ones are the ones whom I've known since I was wearing short shorts.

[cpsolt]

i've been good friends with some people at work - current and previous
they know a blow by blow account ng buhay ko and is genuinely interested on developments. may mga kumuha sa akin na ninong na anak nila. some friends from my previous work still get in touch with me from time to time. sometimes, ako na ang di nakakapangamusta sa kanila. one interesting office friend of mine is notoriously chismosa pero very loyal sa akin.

[NiCe2KnowU]

depende telege se working area yen mge boss
at depende den se position mo, kung manager ke
herep telege mekepag frendz

[_Cathy_]

I think "pakikisama" (not necessarily friendships) is really important at work. My friend and I were just talking about a colleague who is being "managed out" because everyone hates him. Poor guy. We tried to help him out, but he really has personality/character issues. My most patient friend made him a "project" but he gave up already. I also tried to be nice to him but he is really insufferable (manyak + kuripot)

We have staff who made it up the corporate ladder just because of the "friendships" they formed at work. In other words, sipsip sa management

[_Cathy_]

I just realised that it is hard to make real friendships in adulthood. Too many factors come into play. My true friendships were formed in my younger years.

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[NiCe2KnowU]

I just realised that it is hard to make real friendships in adulthood. Too many factors come into play. My true friendships were formed in my younger years.

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bkit naman hard? sa totoo lang mas marami ako nagiging friends sa work
kaysa sa labas, araw araw ko kasi nakakasama kaya pag naiinip ako
sa area ko, pumupunta ako sa area nila at naguubos ng oras
pati mas masarap kasama sa gimikan mga kaworkmates ko dahil
marami sila datung hindi tulad ng mga friends ko sa school dati :D
naalala ko nga dati bata pa ako nagwork ako as a service crew sa wendys
hindi na ako umuuwi ng bahay dahil ginawa ko nang bahay ang fastfood haha
sobrang saya kasi dun, walang patay na oras

depende po yan ate sa working area mo. baka naman hindi mo na love dyan.
siguro dami mo na nagain na exp sa work mo
kaya dapat time na, na ikaw naman pumili kung saang company ka sasaya.

[cast_no_shadow]

I just realised that it is hard to make real friendships in adulthood. Too many factors come into play. My true friendships were formed in my younger years.

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Same here my best bud i knew him since kinder 1. Until now close pa din kami, mahirap lang ipag meet sched namin still may effort pa din kami to see each other. My closest friends are from college. Other than that sa office 8-5 lang ang friendships namin hehe

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[xwangbu]

dito sa office namin - wag lang sa anaps. kaya kong makipagkaibigan kahit anong lahi
PWERA LANG SA MGA INDIANs dito sa office namin.

mga nakakatrabaho ko dito - kung hindi engot eh ubod ng tamad.

buti pa mga Malaysians - kahit intimidating yung iba, parang
mga pinoy din ugali - daling pakisamahan.
mga anaps - potek....hindi ko nilalahat pero sa experience
dito sa office namin, iisipin mo lahat sila ganun.