OT: Swerte lang po ako sa parents ko Sir Archer.. Hindi po sila demanding, hindi din required na ako lahat ang magbayad.. Nataon lang na single pa ako and ako lang may gusto mag-provide (masaya po ako na provider ako).
Since hindi po kami mayaman, bata palang ako talagang iniisip ko na yung readiness sa pagtanda ng parents ko.. Isa na po dun yung itinuloy ko yung SSS ng mama ko.. Ngayon meron na siya sariling pension, binanggit ko kasi sa kanya nun na if magka-asawa na ako baka may time na hindi ko na mabigyan siya ng allowance.. Ngayon pensyonado na siya, di ko na siya need bigyan allowance (nauna pa pension niya sa pag-aasawa ko hahahahahaha [emoji23]) .. matatapos ko na din yung VUL nilang dalawa [emoji16].. If ever magkapamilya na ako ng sarili, sana ma-afford ko na magpa-sweldo ng caregiver para sa kanila.. Syempre hindi ko na idadamay magiging lifetime partner ko sa responsibility ko sa parents ko.. Wag niya lang silipin yung mga binibigay ko sa parents ko, wala kaming magiging problem.. Hehehe [emoji16]

Quote Originally Posted by Archerfish View Post
This is the scenario I always tell to my students and trainees, avoid it as much as possible.

I start to illustrate this way, let's say you start a very low salary of $2,000 a month as a Maritime Officer. And because you are a dutiful son, you give half of your salary to your mother.

Imagine this, doing it for 10 years straight. Every month, your parents receive half of your salary.

In doing so, you have created a future enemy of your wife. Why? Because once you get married, your priorities will change.

So what will change? One of them is your allotment. Where will you send your salary this time? Of course, to your wife.

One of my students raised his hand, and he said that it actually happened to their family. His older brother did what I just illustrated. And his parents are angry to their daughter-in-law, because they "started to become poor" since she arrived in the scene.

We had a few discussions, sharing their own stories, but I always end it with, "Honor your father and mother." I make it a point, that it doesn't mean you get married, you neglect your parents, that you no longer take care of them, particularly when they become too old to take care of themselves.

Of course it's another story, when you are still living with your parents, and you have a job, and yet, you are still not financially independent.

I have known a few, that they could "afford" to have a debt to their parents! Yes, it's unbelievable.

And with that, I admire you for being independent.