Would You Let a Whole Family Move In (Temporarily)?

[_Cathy_]

Our driver told my Mom today that they only have until end of March in their house. I think it's because there was a change in leadership in their area (mayor or councilor?) so the housing project was discontinued. He still owes us money from 2017 but he was able to pay off half of it already (not sure if it went to that house) He asked my Mom if they could move in with us until the house they are building is finished (estimate is 6 mos). My Mom said it's my decision

My Mom already mentioned the situation with our driver several weeks ago, she was hesitant but I was the one who convinced her that it's just temporary. They are 6 (Driver, wife, 3 teenage children and 1 grade school). My consideration:

1. Utilities - I think we need to submeter? Mas marami pa sila samin
2. Fat lab - my main consideration is my fat lab, I am scared that the kids might drop something that my fat lab can eat (our home is practically "child proof")
3. Privacy - I will not be able to wash my car anymore because I will have no privacy I also hate noise and they have teenagers
4. Wifi - will it slowdown if they are all connected?

Did I miss anything? I told my BFF about it and she was contra (just like when a different family asked to move in with us years ago) My Mom's concern is visitors from the teenage kids (barkada, bf or gf etc).

BTW our driver is not even full time, he resigned more than 5 yrs ago to be self (or family) employed. When my family is home from the US, we inform him ahead so he will have no commitments and can work with us again for x number of months.

I've always wanted extra company (I grew up na maraming tao sa bahay) I was disappointed when our all around changed his mind about moving in because our area makes him sad daw LOL. But my BFF and Titas said 6 is a bit too much to handle

[kagalingan]

cathey bago ang lahat.... sa balita kasi puro pastillas last week. Naalala ko tuloy si pastillas girl.

Kung may bodega kayo sa labas ng bahay eh ok lang. Pero sa mismo bahay nyo eh if may tiwala ka na sa kanya at sabi mo sanay ka sa madamig tao eh go mo na. May ka-chukaran ka about mommy divine, sarah g and mateo g as in gigil biglang nanapak.

(ako ayoko ng madaming tao. Gusto ko silence like holy week silence.)

[dr. d]

i wouldn't.
"no security."

[vinrem]

I agree with dr d, i wouldn't also, no security and what if 6 months has past and they're still there, mahihiya ka nang paalisin sila.

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[benchph1]

No for me. The only exception for me is 1st degree relatives. That 6-mos can easily become 8 to 12 mos.




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[shadow]

Not in a million years. No ifs and no buts.

Maghanap sila ng uupahan then just help them out sa rent. 50-50 kayo.

Mas mahirap magpalayas ng tao kesa tumanggi from the get go.

Hinde ba nagaaral mga anak niya? Malapit lang ba sila nakatira sa inyo?

Diyos ko naman naisip mo pa wifi? Mag load sila ng sarili nila noh.

Saka bakit sa inyo siya makikitira bakit hinde doon sa ibang pinapasukan niya.



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[kakabakaba_kaba]

Parang "Parasite" movie

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[Little Missy]

No for me. Home mo yan eh, diyan ka nagrerelax and nagrerecharge. Baka magsaway at mastress ka lang. Napakapriceless ng peace Cathy. Imbes na nakatulong ka baka pag awayan niyo pa.

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[mda]

Nope! Kahit full time pa driver mo, I won't do this.

+1 on shadow's suggestion if you want to help him out. subsidize his stay elsewhere for a few months but that's it.

[Lin Dan]

There are times that they have to fight their own battles. Dole out a bit when they will be looking for a temporary place to stay and move on. Pag ayaw na mag work sa inyo, let him go.


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[oj88]

No.

Sobrang dami nila. Kung yung wife and grade school child lang, I might consider. And only if they can live in an isolated room or some sort of outhouse (if you have a compound or a big front/back yard), no access to your home interior or is bordered by your front door.

If you do agree to let them stay for 6 months, have hm sign a binding contract and have it notarized.

Worst case, you may have to let him go and advice him to go and seek out help from extended family. Yung 50% na natitirang utang, well, you can either give it to him as balato nalang (as motivation to leave and not bother you anymore) or negotiate a mechanism for him to pay you back. Pero once you let him go, consider it a write-off. Kung nagbayad pa rin, bless his soul, bonus na yun.

[StockEngine]

Gently refuse and offer rent assistance.

[_Cathy_]

No.

Sobrang dami nila. Kung yung wife and grade school child lang, I might consider. And only if they can live in an isolated room or some sort of outhouse (if you have a compound or a big front/back yard), no access to your home interior or is bordered by your front door.

If you do agree to let them stay for 6 months, have hm sign a binding contract and have it notarized.

Worst case, you may have to let him go and advice him to go and seek out help from extended family. Yung 50% na natitirang utang, well, you can either give it to him as balato nalang (as motivation to leave and not bother you anymore) or negotiate a mechanism for him to pay you back. Pero once you let him go, consider it a write-off. Kung nagbayad pa rin, bless his soul, bonus na yun.

Wow I am surprised that only one person (kags) said yes. This is not the first time a family asked to move in with us, several years ago, it was the family of our neighbor's caretaker, after our neighbor sold their house. I refused because I thought they were too many (5 ata) and we just gave money (along with other neighbors) to help them start off.

Now, my feelings are different because I am the only "young" person in our house, puro seniors na and the extra company would be good pero sana nga 3 lang sila.

They will be living separately from the main house, we have an old bodega with one bathroom that is completely empty and would be comfortable for one or two persons to live in, but 6, definitely not. I am thinking they might want to get out asap because the place is too small for 6. They can also enter and exit the house through our other gate but then that is permanently closed because its sira and to fix the gate, it will cost at least P20k, so we are not spending on that. They can pass through our gate but that is less privacy on our side

I will discuss with my Mom and thanks, I will let them sign a contract if I decide to let them stay. Lately nga puro advance sa sweldo, so they must be really having a hard time with money

[mda]

They will be living separately from the main house, we have an old bodega with one bathroom that is completely empty and would be comfortable for one or two persons to live in, but 6, definitely not. I am thinking they might want to get out asap because the place is too small for 6. They can also enter and exit the house through our other gate but then that is permanently closed because its sira and to fix the gate, it will cost at least P20k, so we are not spending on that. They can pass through our gate but that is less privacy on our side

I will discuss with my Mom and thanks, I will let them sign a contract if I decide to let them stay. Lately nga puro advance sa sweldo, so they must be really having a hard time with money

Mas hindi mo pa yan maisisipa if they don't want to leave, contract or no contract... lalo they can squat in your home. Not saying they will, just saying na if magsama balak ng mga yan...

[_Cathy_]

Mas hindi mo pa yan maisisipa if they don't want to leave, contract or no contract... lalo they can squat in your home. Not saying they will, just saying na if magsama balak ng mga yan...

really? does the law apply yung pag nakatira sa lupa mo for x number of years? Mabuting tao naman pagkaka kilala ko sa kanila

[dr. d]

Wow I am surprised that only one person (kags) said yes. This is not the first time a family asked to move in with us, several years ago, it was the family of our neighbor's caretaker, after our neighbor sold their house. I refused because I thought they were too many (5 ata) and we just gave money (along with other neighbors) to help them start off.

Now, my feelings are different because I am the only "young" person in our house, puro seniors na and the extra company would be good pero sana nga 3 lang sila.

They will be living separately from the main house, we have an old bodega with one bathroom that is completely empty and would be comfortable for one or two persons to live in, but 6, definitely not. I am thinking they might want to get out asap because the place is too small for 6. They can also enter and exit the house through our other gate but then that is permanently closed because its sira and to fix the gate, it will cost at least P20k, so we are not spending on that. They can pass through our gate but that is less privacy on our side

I will discuss with my Mom and thanks, I will let them sign a contract if I decide to let them stay. Lately nga puro advance sa sweldo, so they must be really having a hard time with money

kags knows he is not the one who's going to allow them to live in his property.

and lookit kags' last statement.

[akosijhay]

No, hindi ako papayag. Kung afford nila na magpagawa ng bahay, tingin ko kaya nila mag rent ng bahay temporarily. Meron naman nag o-offer ng affordable monthly rental fee eh.

Isa pa ung 3 teenagers, kung ung age is between 14-18 years old tapos puro lalaki, nakakatakot lalo na babae ka. May mga teenagers ngayon na maloko na.

[uls]

once they move in mahirap na paalisin yan

[_Cathy_]

No, hindi ako papayag. Kung afford nila na magpagawa ng bahay, tingin ko kaya nila mag rent ng bahay temporarily. Meron naman nag o-offer ng affordable monthly rental fee eh.

Isa pa ung 3 teenagers, kung ung age is between 14-18 years old tapos puro lalaki, nakakatakot lalo na babae ka. May mga teenagers ngayon na maloko na.

Yun din naisip ng Mom ko, 3 kasi ang teenagers, yung eldest na lalaki college na, yung 2 babae HS. Ayaw ng Mommy ko na magdadala ng barkada or GF/BF. Pwede ko ng anak mga yun, kung naging dalagang ina ako LOL

[CVT]

No!

You certainly don't want to share their problems.