Would You Let a Whole Family Move In (Temporarily)?

[bloowolf]

I remember before, some of my wife’s relations from the province would use our house as a stop over for a night or 2 (when I used to live in Cavite). It happened for a few months. I became a recluse, hiding in my room. The thing is, unless they are immediate family members, I can’t be myself & let loose in my own home. Nahihiya ako. I can’t just go down, raid the ref & eat whatever I want. Watch the tv shows I want cause they’re watching, lie down on the sofa with my legs spread out.


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[_Cathy_]

I remember before, some of my wife’s relations from the province would use our house as a stop over for a night or 2 (when I used to live in Cavite). It happened for a few months. I became a recluse, hiding in my room. The thing is, unless they are immediate family members, I can’t be myself & let loose in my own home. Nahihiya ako. I can’t just go down, raid the ref & eat whatever I want. Watch the tv shows I want cause they’re watching, lie down on the sofa with my legs spread out.


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I understand what you mean because that is how I feel when my Uncle Dutertard stays at our house

[yebo]

I think you're already set on allowing them to move in. Even your mom and aunt appear to favor that decision. That is why your mom passed on the decision to you so "you're it", can't blame them later.

So if you do let them move in, SET DOWN SOME RULES.
1. No barkada allowed
2. Thread lightly
3. Respect your privacy
4. No booze, no drugs, no cigarettes, no whatever you don't like, etc etc
5. They leave your fridge alone
6. Kids pitch in. Meaning they help out in the house, garden, etc.
7. Do not disturb you when you are waxing your car

[kagalingan]

Wow I am surprised that only one person (kags) said yes. This is not the first time a family asked to move in with us, several years ago, it was the family of our neighbor's caretaker, after our neighbor sold their house. I refused because I thought they were too many (5 ata) and we just gave money (along with other neighbors) to help them start off.

Now, my feelings are different because I am the only "young" person in our house, puro seniors na and the extra company would be good pero sana nga 3 lang sila.

They will be living separately from the main house, we have an old bodega with one bathroom that is completely empty and would be comfortable for one or two persons to live in, but 6, definitely not. I am thinking they might want to get out asap because the place is too small for 6. They can also enter and exit the house through our other gate but then that is permanently closed because its sira and to fix the gate, it will cost at least P20k, so we are not spending on that. They can pass through our gate but that is less privacy on our side

I will discuss with my Mom and thanks, I will let them sign a contract if I decide to let them stay. Lately nga puro advance sa sweldo, so they must be really having a hard time with money

kags knows he is not the one who's going to allow them to live in his property.

and lookit kags' last statement.

dok doon sa kwento ni cathey eh matagal na nila kasama kaya nga nakautang. So they have a good relationship doon sa driver.

Yung mga post nyo dito na ok lang 1st degree relative eh hindi yan sureball. Paano kung hindi kayo close?

Its not always about "half-blood."

Relationship counts.

and bodega is the key.

[ray_noel]

12 seater dining table namin ROFL! Malabo na, I am in my late 30s, kelan pa ko mag asawa at mag anak. Unless my husband can afford for multiple IVFs hahe. I do think 3 is ideal.

Dapat magpa check na tayo yan... para ready na sa ivf...


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[_Cathy_]

I think you're already set on allowing them to move in. Even your mom and aunt appear to favor that decision. That is why your mom passed on the decision to you so "you're it", can't blame them later.

So if you do let them move in, SET DOWN SOME RULES.
1. No barkada allowed
2. Thread lightly
3. Respect your privacy
4. No booze, no drugs, no cigarettes, no whatever you don't like, etc etc
5. They leave your fridge alone
6. Kids pitch in. Meaning they help out in the house, garden, etc.
7. Do not disturb you when you are waxing your car

Agree on all points. They will stay in a separate structure from our house so I have my privacy as long as I don't go out. Yun nga lang, I definitely won't be able to wash or wax my car when there are other people around because I do that in my tank and boxers (mabigat pag nabasa wearing regular shirt and shorts)

I don't expect any of them to help around the house. Yung isang daughter nga sumasali sa beauty pageants, malabong tumulong yun. Saka baka sabihin naman na pinatira nga sila, may kapalit naman

dok doon sa kwento ni cathey eh matagal na nila kasama kaya nga nakautang. So they have a good relationship doon sa driver.

Yung mga post nyo dito na ok lang 1st degree relative eh hindi yan sureball. Paano kung hindi kayo close?

Its not always about "half-blood."

Relationship counts.

and bodega is the key.

LOL! Dating bodega nga but it is 100% completely empty and clean, inayos ng all around namin yun kasi dapat mag move in siya.

Dapat magpa check na tayo yan... para ready na sa ivf...


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Bakit naman ako magpapa check, siyempre IVF last resort na yun. That is so expensive saka mahirap daw physically sa babae, dami ini inject at tinetest

[ray_noel]

Bakit naman ako magpapa check, siyempre IVF last resort na yun. That is so expensive saka mahirap daw physically sa babae, dami ini inject at tinetest

Like how much? And i think hindi rin 100% ang success rate natin nyan... pero as you said its our last resort...
If about family, money is nothing... so go na yan...


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[Walter]

Don't .. Just don't ...

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Hay naku cathy. Please huwah mo na patirahin. Sakit ng ulo yan.


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[vinrem]

Don't .. Just don't ...

Hay naku cathy. Please huwah mo na patirahin. Sakit ng ulo yan.


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Added stress pa.

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