Why are ladies proud to be a single mom in the Philippines?

[Juan Martinez]

his parents are separated.

Honor student athlete shatters 100m dash record

LEGAZPI CITY, Philippines – Clinching the gold was the game plan. Breaking the record was already beyond overwhelming for SOCCSKSARGEN trackster Feberoy Kasi.

The runner from South Cotabato shattered Jomar Udtohan’s record of 10.8 seconds in the secondary boys 100m dash in 2014, and replaced it with a close 10.74 seconds.*

“Hindi ako makapaniwala kasi yung target ko, maka gold lang. Pero pagkalabas ng results, na-break ko pa pala yung record,” he said.

(I cannot believe that I broke the record because my only target was the gold. But when the results came out, it turned out that I broke the record.)

“Na shock ako tapos parang hindi ako makapag salita,” Kasi added.

(I was shocked and I couldn’t speak.)

He is currently a Grade 10 student at T’boli National High School and a consistent student achiever in the past 3 years. He has trained for 40 straight days in preparation for this year’s Palarong Pambansa, while juggling his academic load. He can’t be happy enough to see his hard work pay off.

Sports as inspiration to stay in school

Kasi is noticeably older than his other batch mates in his grade level. He opened up the reason behind it to Rappler and shared that he stopped studying in the third grade when his parents separated. He never thought he’d still be interested in school until he discovered track and field.

“Naadik na ako sa sports. Araw-araw ako pumapasok,” he narrated.

(I got addicted to sports. I started going to school everyday.)

He didn’t only go back to school but even started performing well. Kasi has been the first honor in their class for three years now- something that is not easy to do as a student athlete.

“Nagt-train po ako bago tsaka pagkatapos pumasok sa school.”

(I train before and after school hours.)

For family and education

Kasi’s father is a rice farmer while his mother stays at home. The cash incentives he’ll win this year is admittedly a huge help for his family. Moreover, he dreams to go to one of the biggest universities in Manila to pursue an education degree and start coaching as well.

“Syempre pamilya ko tsaka para makakuha ako ng scholarship sa college para makapagtapos ako ng college,” he said on why he runs.

(I run for my family and for me to get a scholarship in college so I can finish my education.)

The 18-year-old runner is actually a step closer towards fulfilling his dream as De La Salle University already offered him a college scholarship. Kasi said that he’ll fly to Manila within this month to take the entrance exam at DLSU.

This record breaker’s journey in college sports is yet to start. But he knows as early as now that nothing will come easy. In fact, he acknowledges that focus, determination, and faith in God will be his ticket to success. – Rappler.com

[safeorigin]

While it doesn't apply to every single parent, it's a bad idea for most children to grow up fatherless

Studies Show The Damage Of The One-parent, Fatherless Family | Communities Digital News

take for instance this study:

Children who grow up without a father are five times more likely to live in poverty and commit crime. They are nine times more likely to drop out of schools and 20 times more likely to end up in prison.

and note that this is in an advanced nation, the US

what more in the Philippines?

[kagalingan]

While it doesn't apply to every single parent, it's a bad idea for most children to grow up fatherless

Studies Show The Damage Of The One-parent, Fatherless Family | Communities Digital News

take for instance this study:

Children who grow up without a father are five times more likely to live in poverty and commit crime. They are nine times more likely to drop out of schools and 20 times more likely to end up in prison.

and note that this is in an advanced nation, the US

what more in the Philippines?

You are correct its better to have both father and mother.

The philippines is still a "colony" of the americans. So the values are the same. So double the statistics you mentioned.

But its better to compare those statistics with other REAL asian nation like china, singapore, thailand, vietnam...etc where the brother of the single mother serve as the 2nd father. If there are no male sibling the whole clan will help the fatherless child.

In the philippines the lola and lolo take cares of the child and the problem, grandparents are too soft to their apo.

[jack_husain]

and note that this is in an advanced nation, the US

what more in the Philippines?

This is an insult to Filipinos.

Way back when I was still in the active service and we had this Field Training Exercises (FTX) with our US counterparts, the only advance or advantage for the Americans is their military hardware and armaments. That's all. But on field maneuvers and battle sense I don't think our soldiers lag behind or they are more talented than us. In fact, they cross train with us in order to learn from us. I am sure Gen. Biazon will agree with me on this score.

The same thing may hold true to raising children. We have a
different culture. The Americans may be advanced but it does not necessarily follow that our fatherless children, or some people say, bastards, are more delinquent, more criminal, more drug addict because we are backward or not advance.

[Juan Martinez]

bok, makal lang. if you are what you say you are, you are definitely in a wrong place. andami naming magagaling dito. nagbebenta lang ng baril, FA expert na. nagbabasa lang ng balita, national security expert na. sumimplang lang sa abogasya, legal expert na. ✌

btt

di ba si pakyaw lumaki din na walang ama?

[vinj]

When our unit in Tivoli at Mandaluyong was being rented out, of the 6 persons that inquired 4 were single moms.

2 were good looking ......

And the other two became single moms after meeting LSB?

Personally, nothing beats having both functional parents (it's a different case when one parent has serious issues). I've experienced raising my eldest daughter alone for a time and at that point in my life it was always like there is something lacking for both her and I.

[shadow]

In a perfect world children should grow up having both parents around.

Pero not every family is rosy. So you gotta make do what you are dealt with.

I don't care about statistics, nasa Tao yan.

Growing up with a single parent is better than growing up with both parents wherein the father is a drunkard that beat his wife, abusive and irresponsible.

I think it will create more damage for the child to grow up in that kind of household than growing up having a single parent.

Saka yun sa US talagang ganyan talaga statistics dahil walang family support unlike here hanggang grandparents and other extended family tutulong sayo


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[ClaNker]

May kilala akong 4 ladies na anak lang talaga ang gusto nila. Mind you matitino ang naging bf ng mga to ha, pero ayaw talagang mag pa tali. Niyaya na ng kasal ayaw, kesyo mag kaka laboan din daw sa huli at mag hihiwalay din.

Iba naman yang case ng nag paloko at nag hiwalay.

[safeorigin]

This is an insult to Filipinos.

Way back when I was still in the active service and we had this Field Training Exercises (FTX) with our US counterparts, the only advance or advantage for the Americans is their military hardware and armaments. That's all. But on field maneuvers and battle sense I don't think our soldiers lag behind or they are more talented than us. In fact, they cross train with us in order to learn from us. I am sure Gen. Biazon will agree with me on this score.

The same thing may hold true to raising children. We have a
different culture. The Americans may be advanced but it does not necessarily follow that our fatherless children, or some people say, bastards, are more delinquent, more criminal, more drug addict because we are backward or not advance.

errmmm... so you're saying that it's an insult to Filipinos to state the the US as a society is more advanced while reaffirming yourself that the US in general is more advanced? poverty and opportunity make all the difference.

Crime Index by City 216

take for instance the two US cities ranked higher than Quezon city in crime rate. those have notoriously high gang related violence and are also experiencing deep poverty compared to the rest of the country. we're not far off from that "model". crimes cares not about culture. an empty stomach is an empty stomach no matter which country you're born.

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do I give an iota of damn if you're insulted by the big picture?

NOPE.

will I pretend that everything is all right when I have 3 distant relatives grew up in the absence of a father and ruined their lives in drugs, alcohol, and raising kids in their teens?

NOPE.

feel free to be more insulted

[macsd]

I got a quiet a number of encounters with single moms. Are they proud of it, NEVER. But what is good having relationship with single moms?....no inhibition, they like to go live, their always on the attack. Once your nice to them, they will reciprocate the same i guess cause of the feeling of security that they looking for.

[kagalingan]

I got a quiet a number of encounters with single moms. Are they proud of it, NEVER. But what is good having relationship with single moms?....no inhibition, they like to go live, their always on the attack. Once your nice to them, they will reciprocate the same i guess cause of the feeling of security that they looking for.

Katakot yan ah. Naalala ko tuloy yung kanta na.

"you know she's a little bit dangerous.
She's got what it takes to make ends meet
the eyes of a lover that hit like heat.
You know she's a little bit dangerous"

[macsd]

Katakot yan ah. Naalala ko tuloy yung kanta na.

Not really, just lay the cards from the start para clear understanding on both sides. Never had problem with such.

[jack_husain]

errmmm... so you're saying that it's an insult to Filipinos to state the the US as a society is more advanced while reaffirming yourself that the US in general is more advanced? poverty and opportunity make all the difference.

Crime Index by City 216

take for instance the two US cities ranked higher than Quezon city in crime rate. those have notoriously high gang related violence and are also experiencing deep poverty compared to the rest of the country. we're not far off from that "model". crimes cares not about culture. an empty stomach is an empty stomach no matter which country you're born.

Asia Times Online :: Southeast Asia news and business from Indonesia, Philippines, Thailand, Malaysia and Vietnam

do I give an iota of damn if you're insulted by the big picture?

NOPE.

will I pretend that everything is all right when I have 3 distant relatives grew up in the absence of a father and ruined their lives in drugs, alcohol, and raising kids in their teens?

NOPE.

feel free to be more insulted

You are incoherent. Are you on drugs?

Their military hardware is advanced, yes. But, their situational awareness is never ahead as the Filipino soldiers. The american thinking is never advanced from the rest of the world, and so is yours. You kid yourself if you believe otherwise.

[kimbon]

Most single moms I've seen don't have time to hang around social media sites. But, you say you've seen them. What was their reason for not accepting child support?

wherever did you get this idea, po? the call centers, bpo, dating websites..? i don't think these accurately represent the world of unwed mothers/ single moms.
is it possible, someone is confusing angst for pride?

Finally, done reading this thread. Kinda interesting the above-mentioned 2 questions but it's still left hanging in the air. TS, If you don't mind me asking where did you get this idea???
take a wild guess here , Am I right in saying that TS is a girl??? sana mali po ako.

May kilala akong 4 ladies na anak lang talaga ang gusto nila. Mind you matitino ang naging bf ng mga to ha, pero ayaw talagang mag pa tali. Niyaya na ng kasal ayaw, kesyo mag kaka laboan din daw sa huli at mag hihiwalay din.
Iba naman yang case ng nag paloko at nag hiwalay.

bihirang- bihira sa pinay ang ayaw magpatali sa guy kaya tuloy ito ang nagiging dream nating mga pinoy guy.

BTT: dito nga sa condo namin mayron hot single mom age nasa 24. ang bilin ni hot mom sa guard lobby kahit anong mangyari hwag paakyatin sa unit nya si guy (yung yumari sa kanya). lagi ko ngang nakakasabay sa elevator ang mom ni hot girl, yung tipong smile hanggang tenga. ewan ko ba bat magaan ang loob nya sakin. kulang na lang sabihin sakin ni mom pwede bang pakasalan mo ang anak ko

[Walter]

When you say hot mom are you referring to the hot single mom or the mom of the hot single mom?

[ninjababez]

Not really, just lay the cards from the start para clear understanding on both sides. Never had problem with such.

ditto ditto ditto

[ninjababez]

When you say hot mom are you referring to the hot single mom or the mom of the hot single mom?

sa tingin ko bro, kimbon meant both the hot single mom and the mom .. ^_^

[_Cathy_]

ditto ditto ditto

Ingat lang.

Yung bestfriend ng brother ng ex ko dated a single mom, pang *** lang daw, masarap daw kasi mga single mom, easily puts out - walang arte. He ended up marrying the single mom. Pinagtatawanan ng ex ko

May mga guys talaga nawawala objectivity sa ***. Haha. The Dad of the kid is not involved in the kid's life, so financially the guy had to take care of everything. I think a lot of parents would agree that they would want their children to marry without baggage...

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[ninjababez]

Ingat lang.

Yung bestfriend ng brother ng ex ko dated a single mom, pang *** lang daw, masarap daw kasi mga single mom, easily puts out - walang arte. He ended up marrying the single mom. Pinagtatawanan ng ex ko

May mga guys talaga nawawala objectivity sa ***. Haha. The Dad of the kid is not involved in the kid's life, so financially the guy had to take care of everything. I think a lot of parents would agree that they would want their children to marry without baggage...

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why naman? i dont mind marrying a single mom (if she's the one), heck mas mature pa nga itong mga ito vs. singles na wala direction ang buhay (puro gimik at pa-cute lang, or gagawin ka lang trophy BF sa friends)

[Juan Martinez]

why naman? i dont mind marrying a single mom (if she's the one), heck mas mature pa nga itong mga ito vs. singles na wala direction ang buhay (puro gimik at pa-cute lang, or gagawin ka lang trophy BF sa friends)

agree bro. real love sees no baggage, especially if she owns m. llhuillier. ☺