What Are You Thinking About?

[Calistro]

Your mom is just worried about you Ms Cath. Natitigasan siguro sa ulo mo di mo sinusunod advice nya heheh. Parents are like that when they dont see their children happy, tapos binibigyan ng payo, di pinapakinggan

[_Cathy_]

Your mom is just worried about you Ms Cath. Natitigasan siguro sa ulo mo di mo sinusunod advice nya heheh. Parents are like that when they dont see their children happy, tapos binibigyan ng payo, di pinapakinggan

May pinagseselosan kasi. But I think it's very immature to emotionally blackmail. She even tells me we made her BP high then she makes it worse by not eating and taking her medicine etc. Para tuloy ako yung magulang at siya yung bata. My Dad never did that to me.

Thinking if I should just be an online seller + uber driver. I wonder if I will earn as much as my salary.

[Calistro]

Kulang na sa pansin mama mo, usual sa mga tumatanda. By that time mga naghahanap ng apo yan mga yan hahah.

Wag ka na mag aspire mag uber driver, mas mahirap sa streets lalo na para sayo babae and not very keen on street life heheh. You need a lot of patience on both being an uber driver and online seller, then online selling will ask most of your time kahit 12 am may magtetext or maginquire pa sa goods mo. Basically almost 24/7 job. You cant let off business selling since you need to build your name, advertise goods, make business connections and find that market you are trgetting. If you are decided and ready to commit then good for you. I have no experience in both but it seems plausible to those who are very good in time management. The only online selling I ever did was to sell my sneakers which I stopped using for some reason heheh

[jut703]

I'm wondering, what's the usual benchmark for the average Filipino yuppie when it comes to career/life?

What age do people usually buy their first car? Their first house? How long does it usually take before one earns six-digits?

When do people usually get married and where do they get the finances for the wedding as well as all the appliances and furniture for their house?

I don't have an idea on what the "industry average" is, so I end up putting a lot of pressure on myself, fearing I'd get left behind.

[CVT]

I'm wondering, what's the usual benchmark for the average Filipino yuppie when it comes to career/life?

What age do people usually buy their first car? Their first house? How long does it usually take before one earns six-digits?

When do people usually get married and where do they get the finances for the wedding as well as all the appliances and furniture for their house?

I don't have an idea on what the "industry average" is, so I end up putting a lot of pressure on myself, fearing I'd get left behind.

Don't unnecessarily pressure yourself bro.,- you are doing better than almost all of your contemporaries.....

I was there,- I know how it feels. It is not worth it.

The key is identifying your Partner In Life.

It will make or break you.

The rest are just incidentals.....


"The measure of a man is what he does with power" LJIOHF!

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[StockEngine]

Around 3-5M yearly. Thankfully we have standardized salary increase yearly plus profit sharing. Maybe Ill hit that upper echelon when 40 comes around.

Uncle does almost double with his wife.

[dreamur]

I'm wondering, what's the usual benchmark for the average Filipino yuppie when it comes to career/life?

What age do people usually buy their first car? Their first house? How long does it usually take before one earns six-digits?

When do people usually get married and where do they get the finances for the wedding as well as all the appliances and furniture for their house?

I don't have an idea on what the "industry average" is, so I end up putting a lot of pressure on myself, fearing I'd get left behind.

Bro, I guess you cant use mine as a benchmark as we are both from different generations but to give you an idea -

Got married at 25, promoted to a manager at 29 and got to own my first car as well. First house loan at 30 and earned a 6-digit salary at 35. By today's standard, I would say I am a late bloomer as I have officemates who reached the managerial entry level at 26, a car and a house at 28 and a 6-digit salary at 30. All these because of the advent of MNCs and BPOs that provide plenty of room for growth, banks and other financial institutions who offer low DP and affordable interest rates, and competition among bigger companies who offer huge salaries and incentives to attract the best talent. But at the end of the day, success for me is being passionate about your work, happiness and contentment with your peers and the culture of the company and enough quality time for yourself and the family.

[dreamur]

As bro CVT eloquently put it - the rest are just incidentals. Kaya idol ko si bossing CVT.

[crazy_boy]

Ikaw ang nagsabi niyan, ha?!

I think she's trying to win you back by keeping in touch with you and telling you the misdeliveries of her current BF.... Like a damsel in distress hailing for her prince charming to rescue her from certain "death".....

But of course, you know better....

i asked her for a second chance but she declined. is she playing mind games with me? ang labo. i have moved on already (i think).

tinitignan ko na nga lang yung office bldg crush ko parati hehe although married na pala siya. still very pleasant looking

di mo maiwasan mag compare ang babae bro. kaya yata mas ideal na maka-una sa babae ang mapapangasawa nya

ganyan ba talaga ang mga babae? nagcocompare sa ex nila?

bro android user ka ba?
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iphone?
http://appcrawlr.com/ios-apps/best-apps-private-sms

wala akong paggagamitan niyan sir hehe

[_Cathy_]

Bro, I guess you cant use mine as a benchmark as we are both from different generations but to give you an idea -

Got married at 25, promoted to a manager at 29 and got to own my first car as well. First house loan at 30 and earned a 6-digit salary at 35. By today's standard, I would say I am a late bloomer as I have officemates who reached the managerial entry level at 26, a car and a house at 28 and a 6-digit salary at 30. All these because of the advent of MNCs and BPOs that provide plenty of room for growth, banks and other financial institutions who offer low DP and affordable interest rates, and competition among bigger companies who offer huge salaries and incentives to attract the best talent. But at the end of the day, success for me is being passionate about your work, happiness and contentment with your peers and the culture of the company and enough quality time for yourself and the family.

Wow. I am really a big failure. I'm in my 30s and I cannot afford my own car or house. And I am very far from a 6 digit salary

I'm comparing myself to my parents and they built their own house in their early 30s (lot given by my Lola at Dad's side). And if I had children I could not send them to the same school my parents did for us.

Kaya sometimes I apologise to my Mom that I am a failure unlike the children of her friends that are able to gift them with cars or trips to US/Europe.

And it's true what CVT said re marriage, it can make or break you.

[SkyFlakes88]

Wow. I am really a big failure. I'm in my 30s and I cannot afford my own car or house. And I am very far from a 6 digit salary

I'm comparing myself to my parents and they built their own house in their early 30s (lot given by my Lola at Dad's side). And if I had children I could not send them to the same school my parents did for us.

Kaya sometimes I apologise to my Mom that I am a failure unlike the children of her friends that are able to gift them with cars or trips to US/Europe.

And it's true what CVT said re marriage, it can make or break you.

You cannot measure success in terms of how much money you are earning. Everyone has his own path to take. All have their strengths and weakness. There are plenty of people who took their own lives inspite of having all material success. As long as you are happy i think you have attained "success" for yourself.[emoji4]

There are people who made big money in their 40's,50's even 60's and also there are people who lost it at that age. Just give your best on every opportunity that presents itself to you and let things come to you naturally and unconsciously. As they say every dog will have his day.[emoji4]

[StockEngine]

Wow. I am really a big failure. I'm in my 30s and I cannot afford my own car or house. And I am very far from a 6 digit salary

I'm comparing myself to my parents and they built their own house in their early 30s (lot given by my Lola at Dad's side). And if I had children I could not send them to the same school my parents did for us.

Kaya sometimes I apologise to my Mom that I am a failure unlike the children of her friends that are able to gift them with cars or trips to US/Europe.

And it's true what CVT said re marriage, it can make or break you.

In this game of life, you're way past stage 5. You already have a car. Its one target for some commuters for sure. Imagine the hardship of commuting with via bus or mrt. I remember taking jeepneys. 2 pesos pa nuon 1hr sa usok lol.

[Calistro]

Whats better is to set goals for yourself and have a game plan. Most managers i know get married 30ish to mid 30s since theyre more career oriented.

[_Cathy_]

In this game of life, you're way past stage 5. You already have a car. Its one target for some commuters for sure. Imagine the hardship of commuting with via bus or mrt. I remember taking jeepneys. 2 pesos pa nuon 1hr sa usok lol.

My car was just given to me by my family. What I want is a car and house from my own money. But that is not possible given my salary. Relationships and work life balance were more important for me, but with this thinking, napag iwanan na ko. Sometimes I think my parents should not have spent for my education. Wala silang returns sakin Though my parents say they want the best for me and expect nothing in return, I do want to give back.

My measure of financial success would be exceeding the success of your parents. But given the track record of our family, lahat kami downgrade

But I don't think I have friends that were able to buy a a house or condo totally on their own. There was always some sort of help from the parents. Either given by the parents, downpayment from the parents, or monthly from the parents. The only people my age that bought properties 100% from their own salary are those that work abroad. Pero yung Manila based salary, wala talaga.

[tevilo]

Wow. I am really a big failure. I'm in my 30s and I cannot afford my own car or house. And I am very far from a 6 digit salary

I'm comparing myself to my parents and they built their own house in their early 30s (lot given by my Lola at Dad's side). And if I had children I could not send them to the same school my parents did for us.

Kaya sometimes I apologise to my Mom that I am a failure unlike the children of her friends that are able to gift them with cars or trips to US/Europe.

And it's true what CVT said re marriage, it can make or break you.

Sobra na ata yan sa self pity miss. Look at the bright side nalang. At your situation you have no financial liability which I think is a good thing. Me, at 26 kahit papano nakapagsimula na sa bahay at kotse kaso lahat puro utang naman haha. Each of us has their not-so-good stories but never a failure. Blessings pa din.

[CVT]

i asked her for a second chance but she declined. is she playing mind games with me? ang labo. i have moved on already (i think)

Bro. My unsolicited and objective opinion - She is just using you.

Drop her like a hot potato....

What she is doing with her current flame, she can and will do to you. maybe she did already when you were an item...

EB na tayo ni vinj para makausap ka ng masinsinan... He he he....

[CVT]

As bro CVT eloquently put it - the rest are just incidentals. Kaya idol ko si bossing CVT.

Wow bro.

It never occurred to me that somebody could sling it along that perspective....

When I said the rest are just incidentals, i meant that when you have a real Partner in Life, then everything will magically fall into their proper places....

[ninjababez]

ganyan ba talaga ang mga babae? nagcocompare sa ex nila?


wala akong paggagamitan niyan sir hehe

Human nature yan pag compare bro, pero yun matino eh nag focus sa positive side ng current partner.

Re:apps it's not for hiding but for blocking.
Kung gusto ka talaga nya ma reach mapipilitan sya malaman ng common friend nyo yung pakay nya.

[dreamur]

Wow bro.

It never occurred to me that somebody could sling it along that perspective....

When I said the rest are just incidentals, i meant that when you have a real Partner in Life, then everything will magically fall into their proper places....

Lol bro. I thought you were referring to marrying the daughter of a taipan and the rest are just incidentals.

[jut703]

Don't unnecessarily pressure yourself bro.,- you are doing better than almost all of your contemporaries.....

I was there,- I know how it feels. It is not worth it.

The key is identifying your Partner In Life.

It will make or break you.

The rest are just incidentals.....


"The measure of a man is what he does with power" LJIOHF!

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Thanks bro. You're right about finding the right partner, I think the media and society today puts too much emphasis on the material achievements in life, but ultimately it's the relationships we have that are most important.

How did you do it? I mean, how'd you let go of pressuring yourself to rise up the corporate ladder and just enjoy the blessings you already have?

I find it quite hard since I'm starting to feel a bit bored with my job, but the company I'm in isn't really geared towards dealing with millennials yet so I don't think they'd understand my restlessness to do new things. I wouldn't wanna transfer yet though cuz I just transferred last year from another company and I told myself I'd stick it out for at least 3-5 years. But another part of me is feeling that I'm wasting my youth and that I should be doing something more...

Bro, I guess you cant use mine as a benchmark as we are both from different generations but to give you an idea -

Got married at 25, promoted to a manager at 29 and got to own my first car as well. First house loan at 30 and earned a 6-digit salary at 35. By today's standard, I would say I am a late bloomer as I have officemates who reached the managerial entry level at 26, a car and a house at 28 and a 6-digit salary at 30. All these because of the advent of MNCs and BPOs that provide plenty of room for growth, banks and other financial institutions who offer low DP and affordable interest rates, and competition among bigger companies who offer huge salaries and incentives to attract the best talent. But at the end of the day, success for me is being passionate about your work, happiness and contentment with your peers and the culture of the company and enough quality time for yourself and the family.

Bro, you're not exactly a late bloomer, since if you factor inflation and rising costs of living, you're better off than those folks you speak of that supposedly took a shorter route towards career progress.

Perhaps I'm too impatient with my career that I haven't really thought about what I really define as success, and what really contributes to my happiness..

Wow. I am really a big failure. I'm in my 30s and I cannot afford my own car or house. And I am very far from a 6 digit salary

I'm comparing myself to my parents and they built their own house in their early 30s (lot given by my Lola at Dad's side). And if I had children I could not send them to the same school my parents did for us.

Kaya sometimes I apologise to my Mom that I am a failure unlike the children of her friends that are able to gift them with cars or trips to US/Europe.

And it's true what CVT said re marriage, it can make or break you.

It helps to stop and think about how and why you're where you are now. You might realize that you simply did what you thought was best at the time, and thus you shouldn't really feel bad about where your choices have led you. Alternatively, it'll allow you to see what you could've done better, and hope to change the direction you're headed moving forward.

It's easier said than done though, and I wish I could apply it to my life as well. I just feel so cluttered and I think I need to regain my focus.

Whats better is to set goals for yourself and have a game plan. Most managers i know get married 30ish to mid 30s since theyre more career oriented.

Is it really impossible to get married early and still have a good career? If I get married by my mid 30s, I'd have been with my girlfriend for over 15 years already. Seems too long. I started early in terms of my romantic endeavors so I don't see why it should take a backseat when I'm ready to settle down before 30.

I would also prefer to be young when my kids grow up, so that I'm still fit and active by the time they become young adults.

My car was just given to me by my family. What I want is a car and house from my own money. But that is not possible given my salary. Relationships and work life balance were more important for me, but with this thinking, napag iwanan na ko. Sometimes I think my parents should not have spent for my education. Wala silang returns sakin Though my parents say they want the best for me and expect nothing in return, I do want to give back.

My measure of financial success would be exceeding the success of your parents. But given the track record of our family, lahat kami downgrade

But I don't think I have friends that were able to buy a a house or condo totally on their own. There was always some sort of help from the parents. Either given by the parents, downpayment from the parents, or monthly from the parents. The only people my age that bought properties 100% from their own salary are those that work abroad. Pero yung Manila based salary, wala talaga.

It's hard to set that benchmark for yourself especially if you come from a high-income family. What's important is to maintain your grit, and to be proactive enough to do something about your current situation if you're really not contented with it.

I do think that it's possible to completely build your life without having to be assisted by your parents. One of my friends, a colleague from my old company, and a co-alumni from highschool (but he was 2 years ahead), was able to buy his own condo last year. He's a really great guy and is really frugal and focused with his goals. He doesn't come from a well-to-do family but he was able to make the most of the opportunities given to him.

I try to avoid comparing myself to my college batchmates since they're well off and obviously have a big headstart financially - mommy and daddy have given them cars, will probably pay for their wedding, and hand them over a parcel of land for them to build their own home.

It's true that it's really best if you just mind your own business and try to be the best version of yourself, but I fear that it can lead to complacency and developing the mindset "eto lang ako eh".