How do you handle kids na ayaw paiwan sa school?

[creepy]

Nakaka-relate ako ... sa anak ni Kapitan88. Kasi, ayaw kong magpa-iwan nung bata ako ! Hahaha.

Don't quite remember how my mom solved it... but my teacher in Nursery certainly helped.

[zero]

magaling nga magpasunod ng mga teacher sa mga bata.
pansin ko nga, mas naniniwala sa teacher ang bata kaysa magulang.
kapag sinabi ng teacher na this week lang pwede ang yaya or parent sa loob ng room/school, next week siguradong yung bata na ang magbabawal sa yaya or parent.
kahapon lang, gusto pumasok ng bunso ko kasi sabi daw ni teacher na may assembly daw sila. haaay!

[silhouette]

Don't quite remember how my mom solved it... but my teacher in Nursery certainly helped.

siguto maganda teacher mo sa nursery.

[cynganda]

my son is 4 1/2 years old and he is attending a small school. pinababantayan namin siya sa yaya. but his yaya is not seen while he is having his class kasi nasa labas ng school. we explained to my son that we (parents) are not allowed to be there. pumayag naman siya. but he knows na susunduin siya. he sometimes asks kung sino ang susundo. kailangan lang i-explain maigi sa daughter mo why she has to be left in school at susunduin na lang pag uwian na. sabi nga sa hand-outs ng school na be on time in fetching the kid, kasi baka ma-trauma siya pag masyadong late. lalo lang mahihirapan mag-adjust. it is better to always talk and explain to the kid why. pag-madalas i-explain, maa-absorb ng bata and she will get used to the idea and will cooperate later on. spanking will not do any good. hope this helps! ;)

[5Speed]

gradual phase yan..... yung panganay namin nung unang pasok sa nursery, almost 3 mos. na binabantayan bago nagpaiwan....pero andon sa labas ng class yung bantay... yung bunso naman namin ngayon ay magdadalawang buwan na na binabantayan....hehehehe

actually kapag nagkaron na sya ng maraming friends sa school don yung umpisa na nagpapaiwan na sya, nagiging confident na kasi sya sa mga classmate nya at teacher nya.....

naalala ko tuloy, yung panganay ko nung minsan na kumain kami sa Max's, nakita nya yung nursery teacher nya w/ her family, tumakbo ba naman dun sa table nila nagkiss at nakikain....hehehee kakahiya.....pero sumakit ang tyan ko katatawa......ganon sya ka-close dun sa teacher nya.....nadagdagan tuloy ang family friends namin....

[ts1n1ta]

nung bata pa ako gustong gusto ko nga na iniiwan ako. hahaha feeling independent. nyahahaha.

[kapitan88]

thanks for all the advice, pero to give you more details, ganito yun, This has been her 2nd year from school, she's 5 by the way, the first yr was sa learning center, dun, nagpapaiwan sya, then there was the time na Maternity leave yung wife ko kaya she got so attached ulit at ayaw mag paiwan na, then after a couple of weeks ulit ng convincing at pang uto, nagpaiwan naman ulit sha. Now on her 2nd year, nasa big school na sya, though still very near sa house, ayaw na magpaiwan ever, she just wanted to be assured na nasa loob yung bantay, tapos parang wala na sa kanya, she'll participate na sa lahat ng activities and doesnt even bother na tingnan ano gawa ng bantay nya.

The problem happened on the first day of class, since registration and start pa lang ng class, mejo irregular pa ang scheds nila, yung bantay failed to hear na baka pauwiin earlier yung kids, so there, nagpaiwan sha on first day, but, na dismiss nga yung class earlier, tapos wala yung sundo! so ayun nag i-iyak with matching puking, so natrauma dun, and since then, di na nagpaiwan at ang gusto lang ay nasa loob kasama sa classroom yung bantay nya.

[CtrlAltDel]

Mukhang na-trauma nga yung bata nung makitang wala yung bantay na akala nya nandun. Ibig mong sabihin naki sit-in yung bantay ngayon? Pwede din pala si yaya mag-take notes ng homeowork, hehehe.

Ok lang 'yan 'pre. hayaan mo nalang muna. Then maybe teacher can help out later saying bawal na bantay sa loob ng classroom kasi over-age na or something.

Look at it this way. Baka merong intuition yung bata na me masamang mangyari kung 'di nya kita yung bantay nya. One of our motivations for enduring the two whole school years na hinihintay ng misis ko yung anak namin sa school: takot kami sa kidnapping- at hindi kami mayaman. Dahil babae yung anak namin, takot din kami sa risk na ma-abduct at ma-rape. Malakas ang balitang ganyan noon. We were paranoid, in fact hanggang ngayon medyo paranoid pa rin.

Magsasawa din yan na binabantayan. It's only a matter of time. Pangaralan mo nalang palagi, hehehe. Much better than using corporal punishment. Meanwhile... saling pusa muna si yaya, hehehe

[qman]

patience is the key. palo sa bata is a nono. normal lang yan sa bata

Buong nursery and half of kinder ng daughter ko nasa labas lang ako ng school or natutulog sa sasakyan paghatid sa kanya di na ko umuuwi umiiyak kasi. yan eh pagka nakabakasyon ako sa pinas pag ala ako in law ko ang nag hahatid sa kanya.

[wrecker]

didn't have the same problem kaya di ako makatulong, pero for those like theveed na papunta pa lang dun eto yung ginawa namin ni misis sa daughter ko...

as early as 2 yrs old, we exposed her to other kids and to teachers. we enrolled her sa Little Gym sa Shang. Ok yung program kasi the first few weeks, required na kasama sa loob at least 1 parent or yaya. so that softens yung anxiety ng bata. so every quarter we enrolled her there and makikita mo yung progress ng mga bata in terms of interaction with one another and with the teachers.

kaya ayun nung nag nursery sya when she was 3 1/2 walang separation anxiety. hinatid pa namin sa school kasi syempre milestone.

ngayon K1 na sya and i remember last June nung nag simula ulit ang classes she was telling us that some of her classmates were crying because they want their parents in the room.