Leaving an Occasion without saying Goodbye: Taboo ba sa Pinas'

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Don’t Say Goodbye
Just ghost.

By Seth Stevenson|Posted Wednesday, July 3, 2013, at 5:45 AM

Why make leaving harder than it has to be?

One recent evening, I celebrated my birthday in the outdoor courtyard of a bar. As the night wore on, and friends fell by the wayside, each departure occasioned a small ritual. A pal would sidle up to whichever conversational circle I was in; edge closer and closer, so as to make herself increasingly conspicuous; and finally smile, apologetically, when the conversation halted so I could turn to her and say goodbye.

Nothing but good intentions here. To some small extent, I appreciated the politeness of this parting gesture. It was not a major imposition to pause for a moment and thank folks for coming.

But there’s a better way. One that saves time and agita, acknowledges clear-eyed realities, and keeps the social machine humming.

Just ghost.

Ghosting—aka the Irish goodbye, the French exit, and any number of other vaguely ethnophobic terms—refers to leaving a social gathering without saying your farewells. One moment you’re at the bar, or the house party, or the Sunday morning wedding brunch. The next moment you’re gone. In the manner of a ghost. “Where’d he go?” your friends might wonder. But—and this is key—they probably won’t even notice that you’ve left.
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Yes, I know. You’re going to tell me it’s rude to leave without saying goodbye. This moral judgment is implicit in the culturally derogatory nicknames ghosting has been burdened with over the centuries. The English have been calling it French leave since 1751, while the French have been referring to filer à l'anglaise since at least the late 1800s. As with other cross-Channel insults—depending on your side, a condom is either a French letter or la capote anglaise, syphilis the French disease or la maladie anglaise—the idea is to pin unsavory behavior on your foes.

Here in the U.S... (read the complete article by clicking on the link below)

Ghosting, the Irish goodbye, the French leave: stop saying goodbye at parties. - Slate Magazine

Ano sa tingin nyo? Appropriate ba sa setting natin sa Pilipinas?

[1D4LV]

depends on how huge the party is...
kung malakihan, pwede ng hindi.
pero kung small crowd and intimate, i feel it is still polite to do so.

[holdencaulfield]

naalala ko kahapon lang, may parent sa school ng anak ko na masaya pa kaming naguusap biglang dumating yung misis niya, tumayo na lang at umalis. feeling ko naiwan ako sa ere.

[greatauror28]

Is a Wake counted as occassion?
Coz it's very OK to leave it without saying goodbye.
They say it's bad omen if you bid your company goodbye coz it's like you're saying farewell to them, for life.

I learned this from the elderly folks but sometimes I think its just hoax.

[Monseratto]

Is a Wake counted as occassion?
Coz it's very OK to leave it without saying goodbye.
They say it's bad omen if you bid your company goodbye coz it's like you're saying farewell to them, for life.

I learned this from the elderly folks but sometimes I think its just hoax.

Naggaalit nga lalo't na kung matanda kung magpaalam ka sa isang wake...hehehe

[CVT]

In a drinking session,- my friends know that if I excuse myself to take a leak,- I'm gone.....

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[CLAVEL3699]

In a drinking session,- my friends know that if I excuse myself to take a leak,- I'm gone.....

19.9K:cheer:

Same here. IDOL.

pag umihi ako alam nila hindi na ako babalik. kaya madalas may sumasama sa akin kahit sa CR dahil tatakbo nanaman daw ako

[Retz]

Is a Wake counted as occassion?
Coz it's very OK to leave it without saying goodbye.
They say it's bad omen if you bid your company goodbye coz it's like you're saying farewell to them, for life.

I learned this from the elderly folks but sometimes I think its just hoax.

wake or attending a funeral is a total opposite. dapat wag na pagpaalam pero minsan nakakaligtaan ko.

[holdencaulfield]

Is a Wake counted as occassion?
Coz it's very OK to leave it without saying goodbye.
They say it's bad omen if you bid your company goodbye coz it's like you're saying farewell to them, for life.

I learned this from the elderly folks but sometimes I think its just hoax.

sa mga kamaganak
ko naman, ok lang magpaalam, pamahiin yung bawal maghatid.

[oliver1013]

Di nako nagpapaalam minsan sa inuman lalo na pag yung host yun tipong di ka papayagan pag di ka pa gumagapang...

[chua_riwap]

sa handaan......

baka nahihiyang magpaalam, kasi may bitbit na ulam, lahat ng putahe. may dessert pa........

[Retz]

^

pati ung decorative flowers sa table bitbit din.

[_Cathy_]

wake or attending a funeral is a total opposite. dapat wag na pagpaalam pero minsan nakakaligtaan ko.

okay lang magpaalam basta wag ihahatid. Sana pag galing ka ng wake, wag ka uuwi ng deretso sa bahay

back to topic, pero unethical ba yan ghost mode dito sa pinas?

I think so. Mahalaga paalam sa pinoy culture e. Even in the office before going home we say goodbye to each other. One of our expats even found it amusing that we say goodbye at the elevator so he adapted it din

sa handaan......

baka nahihiyang magpaalam, kasi may bitbit na ulam, lahat ng putahe. may dessert pa........

ha ha ha! Yan ang isa pang rason para magpaalam, kasi pag naglaho ka, pano ka bibigyan ng pabitbit?

^

pati ung decorative flowers sa table bitbit din.

I look forward to this Pero siyempre intay ko alukin sakin

[Retz]

^

ung decorative flowers pwede naman talaga kasi bayad naman un. diba pamahiin ung pag galing sa wake wag muna deretso sa house?

[_Cathy_]

^

ung decorative flowers pwede naman talaga kasi bayad naman un. diba pamahiin ung pag galing sa wake wag muna deretso sa house?

hindi ba may cost din naman pagkain sa host?

Retz, yung nga sabi ko na wag muna diretso sa bahay. Nalilito ka na naman

[holdencaulfield]

hehehehe... hindi naman ako lasing eh... 1 bottle lang ako.

baka daw hindi nanaman ako magpatak sa bayad.

totoong totoo yan bro! actually secondary lang yun concern sa mawawala sa pag ihi.
yung pinupuntahan naming beerhaus noon badtrip dalawa yung pintuan.
yung tropa naming umeskapo hindi na namin kinausap matapos noon at di na rin nagpapakita.

makita mo nga naman lagpas na isang dekada magkukrus pa rin pala ang landas namin dito sa iskuwela ng anak ko at magkaklase pa mga anak namin.
sinisingil ko nga eh ang kapal ng mukha di na raw maalala.
65.50 pesos hindi mo na maalala?!

[holdencaulfield]

OK lang din naman masanay sila lalo na kung nawawala ka na lang bigla pati yung huling kausap mong babae. :naughty2:

...na gf o misis ng isa sa mga bisita.

[Retz]

^

pwede rin misis ni kumapre.

[holdencaulfield]

^

pwede rin misis ni kumapre.

anong kumapre? baka maya kapre tawag mo sa kumpare mo.
ikaw retz nabubulol ka na naman ah.

[shadow]

Easy on retz, sinusumpong nanaman...matagal daw bumalik yun maid niya from drugstore..naubusan siya ng medicine for....


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