DIVORCE in the Philippines?!Are you in Favor or not?!

[yomar]

I'm not in favor.

[yomar]

by the way FYI, we have a sort-of-like divorce already existing. And that is under article 36 of the family code. Pero ito yung kung tawagin ay..... PSYCHOLOGICAL INCAPACITY. hehehe.. so kung hindi ka tinatayuan...umm.. eh... pwede na hehehe

[ts1n1ta]

there's always annulment........

[yomar]

and legal separation!

[the_wildthing]

Hindi pa ba obvious sa mga babae habang boyfriend pa lang na ang lalaki ay babaero/lasenggero/basag-ulero/etc. etc.? Wag magpakasal kung ganon, hindi ba?

[wilcats]

bsta No ako jan... hindi na iisipn ng couples na maresolve pa ung problem nila... what if may baby na diba? kwawa nman maguguluhan...

[mantoy]

there's always annulment........

the problem with annulment is the process takes too long. and in order to prove psychological incapacity you need a psychiatrist which makes the process very expensive. if they overhaul the whole annulment process (which i doubt will happen) probably we don't need any more divorce law.

[ILuvDetailing]

mukhang split dito ang mga tsikoteers ah, both sides have valid points. Sana kung mas di magastos yung divorse kesa annulment yun na lang but malabo ata yun.

[wilcats]

Hindi pa ba obvious sa mga babae habang boyfriend pa lang na ang lalaki ay babaero/lasenggero/basag-ulero/etc. etc.? Wag magpakasal kung ganon, hindi ba?

Onga... kya dpat isip muna mabuti if the person you want to marry is the one you want to be with all your life. Para maiwasan ang sisihan sa huli.

Minsan kasi ibang tao bulag tlaga sa pagibig... hindi na iniisip kahit anu pa manyari.

[mazdamazda]

ang matutuwa lang sa divorce ay mga lawyers... hehe...

kaya talagang careful sa mga pipiliing hubby / wifey... problema kasi dito sa Pinas eh parang *norm* na dapat may asawa ka na before the age of 30... kaya siguro maraming parang *pilit* na mag asawa. dami kasi talagang ogag na lalake... kahit may asawa hanap pa nang hanap... geez...

better be single & happy than married & miserable.

[yomar]

iluvdetailing: kaya nga kikita ang mga abogado eh herherherher uy joke lang yon ha!! joke lang!!!

this is my take: dapat marriage should be considered sacred. hindi yung tipong infatuated lang.. or nabuntisan lang, sige pakasal na. yun kasi ang traditional view at sinusunod ng iba diba? Sa akin, kung hindi mo naman nakikita bilang asawa yung tao, wag mo pakasalan dahil lang sa baby. Siyempre bigyan mo ng support pero wag mo pilitin sarili mo dun sa tao just for the sake of legitimacy of the child.

Kung may divorce law, at madali lang ang process, aba sige kasal lang ng kasal. O teka, hindi nagwork-out?? o tara divorce! I think mali yon.

Pero akin lang naman yon hehehe.

[BlueBimmer]

this is my take: dapat marriage should be considered sacred. hindi yung tipong infatuated lang.. or nabuntisan lang, sige pakasal na. yun kasi ang traditional view at sinusunod ng iba diba? Sa akin, kung hindi mo naman nakikita bilang asawa yung tao, wag mo pakasalan dahil lang sa baby. Siyempre bigyan mo ng support pero wag mo pilitin sarili mo dun sa tao just for the sake of legitimacy of the child.

Kung may divorce law, at madali lang ang process, aba sige kasal lang ng kasal. O teka, hindi nagwork-out?? o tara divorce! I think mali yon.

Pero akin lang naman yon hehehe.

ganyan na ganyan situation ng kakilala ko, nabuntisan kaya pinakasalan nya, ngaun antagal ng annulment nila. haha naman kasi di makapigil hehehe

[yomar]

ewan ko diyan sa mga yan... may condom naman. hehehe joke. OT ako..

[mantoy]

and legal separation!

legal separation does not allow each party to re-marry.

[artpogi]

I'm for divorce.

If a couple decide that they don't want to be together anymore, that's the couple's choice, it's not the State's, but the State should implement a provision in the divorce law that if a couple get's a divorce and the couple has minor children, it's still the divorced couples shared responsibility of providing basic necessecities to their minor children, and if they (the couples), neglect their responsibility, they will go to jail

[yomar]

yup.. legal sep is just a bed and board separation. Pero mas gusto ko na yon kesa sa divorce kasi somehow mapapaisip pa din mga pinoy before marrying

[ILuvDetailing]

If they pass the divorse law, they should scrap the annulment thingy.

ganyan na ganyan situation ng kakilala ko, nabuntisan kaya pinakasalan nya, ngaun antagal ng annulment nila. haha naman kasi di makapigil hehehe

Ako din may kakilala, after 3 kids, nagpa anull.

Well its our culture here. In most cases kung nabuntis yung babae papakasalan ng lalake because of family pressure.

Kaya dapat palaging may baon... mahirap na at baka may tumukso. hahaha.

[Altis6453]

see what i mean. those women can't control their husbands i know, but have they tried counselling or confronting their husbands. DIVORCE is no solution for problematic relationships. ang mangyayari pa nyan gagamitin lang ng tao yan para lusutan ang di nila kayang harapin. tsk tsk tsk.

Neither is staying in an unhappy relationship a lasting solution. I think its too simplistic to say that couples should work it out, etc. Husbands can get abusive. Wives can run off with other men or bear children by other men. I think you drastically reduce the chance of domestic abuse by allowing divorce.

These are the reasons why divorce cannot be resorted to so easily or haphazardly:

1. If you go over it, you'll see that the law doesn't allow for "no-fault" divorces like what they have in some states in the US.

2. Divorce doesn't release the responsibility of the spouse at fault from giving continuous support or alimony to the innocent spouse and the children.

3. Usually, a "cooling off" period is required by the courts wherein the parties are given a chance to reconcile after some counselling.

4. The divorce law can be limited in providing that the spouses can only avail of divorce once. Meaning, you only get one second shot at happiness.

5. The children remain the responsibility of the divorced spouses even after they've remarried.

[BlueBimmer]

also divorce deals a big financial blow, so hindi naman cguro basta basta nalang unless filthy rich

[yomar]

then i guess they should also amend the family code in the definition of marriage. Sabi sa family code.. marriage is a special contract of permanent union between a man and a woman. (bad trip hindi pwede gay to gay tsk tsk hahaha)

it won't be permanent anymore with the passing of the divorce law.