Your opinion please?

[robot.sonic]

Naku! Sana hinde nababasa ng mga in-laws nyo yung mga pinagsasabi nyo.:hysterical:

[niky]

Valenzuela is pretty far. You could save money by renting out that condo and renting something closer.

Personally... it all depends on the character of the parents whether it's a good idea or not. I'd accept it on the condition that I would pay rent for the house and food.

[cast_no_shadow]

Salamat sa mga opinion..
Alam ko naman the right thing to do is bumukod, yun nga lang sa panahon ngayon minsan kailangan practical din tayo diba? Yup big deal yan sa mapapangasawa ko syempre parang nakitira pa din kami sa parents ko kahit nakahiwalay na bahay. I can say wala naman siya magiging problema sa parents ko kaso as they all say wala sa bait daw yan time will come magkakaron at magkakaron din ng issue between your spouse and in-laws. Iba din daw yung experience na you are living at your own, lahat matututunan niyo. Ewan until now im undecided, financially nakakaluwag ako ngayon im thinking what if pag nakabukod kami? yup lalo na yung pag travel from our acquired condo to ortigas hindi rin biro gas-guzzler pa naman ang gamit ko.. And kung may pamilya na..

sa mga inputs salamat, keep it coming..:cheers:

[Haruto]

it's better kung bumukod kayo...

[uls]

send the parents to the condo

you stay sa apartment

rent out the apartment of the parents

[shadow]

change your fiancee.

[cast_no_shadow]

send the parents to the condo

you stay sa apartment

rent out the apartment of the parents

Haha Nice..

[jimnyeatworld]

Salamat sa mga opinion..
Alam ko naman the right thing to do is bumukod, yun nga lang sa panahon ngayon minsan kailangan practical din tayo diba? Yup big deal yan sa mapapangasawa ko syempre parang nakitira pa din kami sa parents ko kahit nakahiwalay na bahay. I can say wala naman siya magiging problema sa parents ko kaso as they all say wala sa bait daw yan time will come magkakaron at magkakaron din ng issue between your spouse and in-laws. Iba din daw yung experience na you are living at your own, lahat matututunan niyo. Ewan until now im undecided, financially nakakaluwag ako ngayon im thinking what if pag nakabukod kami? yup lalo na yung pag travel from our acquired condo to ortigas hindi rin biro gas-guzzler pa naman ang gamit ko.. And kung may pamilya na..

sa mga inputs salamat, keep it coming..:cheers:

wag ka masyado makinig sa asawa mo ipapahamak ka lang nyan kung bumukod ka. mga babae ngaun hindi marunong mag-isip, gusto maging independent and then pa'no na? sayo pa din iaasa lahat. pag nangyari yun sigurado na pagtaba mo kasi hirap ka na hindi ka pa gano appreciated ng asawa mo kasi most pinay wives don't care if you're earning a lot to support your own family's necessities. they will CARE! only if you can buy them expensive bags and shoes. trust me!

and the only way to do that is to have a backer or backup plan. and since mabait naman parents mo, make it mutual. the concern and the unconditional love. yun wife mo minsan magtatalak yan sa'yo kasi hindi ka bumukod, let her be, if not payagan mo umuwi sa parents nya kung gusto nya. kahit isang buwan, babalik yan i'm sure of that.

now, i'm not saying to become a parasite. bec that is where the difference lies. you're just taking advantage of the sharing of resources with your parents in order for you to compete lalo. for example, you have free helpers/boys, free utilities, free meals etc. in return, you buy your parents something naman like for example, me i am the one who bought my parents their cellphones, laptops, lcd tv's, players and umuutang pa ako sa kanila and in return, i pay them interest even bigger than the banks. kasi mauutang ko din yun sa future. my parents love me bec. i am a good businessman. i can make money for them.

lately, i just develop a new technique. don't be too proud of your accomplishments before them. in other words, wag mo masyado pagmayabang na magaling ka. pag kausap mo sila be humble and always make them feel that if it weren't for them, wala ka. eh di okey, you get the best of both worlds, you succeed and you get loved. yan lang naman din ang gusto Diyos sa'atin. excel but dont get it into your head na you feel that you are better without God's help.

kita mo wife ko ngaun, pa-gym gym lang yan, pa-postura-postura, pagdating sa negosyo ko, queen sya. pagdating sa bahay, she know here place in the family.

3 weeks ago, my dad and I had a heart-to-heart talk, in the future daw, i will take charge of the family's ownerships and business interest.

san ka pa? misplaced idealism will only get you half-way, swerte na kung di ma-bloat ang ego mo and tikisin mo ang loved ones bec. of your "principles & independence" kuno.

watch eat pray love, the old guy in india there confirms my theory, in the end it will always be FAMILY!

[_Qwerty_]

yan ang isa sa pinaka mahirap na part pag mag aasawa.. yung paano mag uumpisa.. ma swerte ka kasi may option na ganyan.. pwede mag stay don sa apartment nang libre.. malaking bagay yun.. so i suggest you take that option.. then mag ipon nang mag ipon say for 5 yrs.. tapos after 5 yrs.. pag naka ipon na.. bumili nang bagong house or new condo na malapit lang..

[four-rings]

to the TS: is your mom a housewife?
how long have you been together with your wife?

chances are, if housewife mom mo, may tendency talaga makialam siya sa household affairs niyo especially how your maids work, treat her, their suweldo etc etc.

if matagal na kayo ng wife mo, as in long time GF and magkasundo naman sila ng mom mo, why not rent their apartment muna as a springboard since starting pa lang kayo ng wife mo. give it at least a year.

good luck!

[cast_no_shadow]

to the TS: is your mom a housewife?
how long have you been together with your wife?

chances are, if housewife mom mo, may tendency talaga makialam siya sa household affairs niyo especially how your maids work, treat her, their suweldo etc etc.

if matagal na kayo ng wife mo, as in long time GF and magkasundo naman sila ng mom mo, why not rent their apartment muna as a springboard since starting pa lang kayo ng wife mo. give it at least a year.

good luck!

Yup my mom is a full time housewife, we're not yet married 6 years na kami ng gf ko..

[jansky]

- time will come.. small problem nagiging malaking problem.....
maganda bumukod..

[cast_no_shadow]

*Jimnyeatworld nice one, ibang point of view so hows the iphone 4? haha planning to get one na din..

Regarding my soon to be wife, i can say i had a good catch. Wala ako masabi sa kanya, regarding financial matters mas magaling siya saken in short mas barat and mas practical. I can't imagine ano na ako kung ang nakatuluyan ko is kagaya ko din. Dun ko lang hindi makita ang pagiging practical niya, it's not like na gusto ko na kunin yung alok ng parents ko kaso the idea of it pa lang ayaw na niya. Regarding my folks wala naman ako makita na magiging problem nila vice verse but as they always say, and sa mga nakita ko sa kakilala/kamag anak ko time will come may issues na darating pag ganun na set-up. About our acquired condo, ewan ko ba it's not may regret ako pero parang binili namin yun ng hindi gaano pinag isipan yung ibang considerations like yun nga ang layo sa workplace namin which is a burden, as if i bought a shirt nung kinuha namin yun..

[four-rings]

i thought married na kayo.
question lang nag half ba kayo ng gf mo sa condo?

[spongee]

from a woman's point of view naman....it's best na tumira kayo somewhere farther sa mga parents nyo..rent somewhere near your workplace...

pinakamaganda pa rin na maging 100% independent kayo lalo na pag naguumpisa..kayong dalawa dumidiskarte sa lahat..

plus nasa honeymoon stage pa lang kayo...syempre you might want to have fun dahil finally magkasama na kayo...maiilang ang asawa mo lalo na nasa tabi nyo lang ang mother mo..maganda na yung wala kayong iniintindi na katabi na pwedeng may masabi..

dont take advantage of the "free" stuffs...are you sure na yung matitipid nyo sa rent derecho talaga sa savings? maganda na rin yung maramdaman nyo yung bigat ng responsibilites and obligations..in that sense..mas magiging magaling kayo magmanage ng finances nyo..

sa tingin ko naman you are ready kasi may early investment na kayo..continue nyo na lang...

[CVT]

You can stay with your parents for a while,- say 1-2 months, pero do not extend. Heto iyong tinatawag na honeymoon stage with the in-laws,- okay lang iyan.

After that,- bumukod na kayo... Too much familiarity na ang mangyayari... Before you know it,- magkaka-asaran na kayo....

10.9K:lotsocoffee:

[cast_no_shadow]

i thought married na kayo.
question lang nag half ba kayo ng gf mo sa condo?

Not yet married maybe late 2011..
yup share kami dun sa condo..

[cast_no_shadow]

*spongee Yup thats her exact words.. Natumbok mo ah

[cktlcmd]

Live AWAY from the parents for your mental peace.

In-Laws tend to meddle a lot in their children's affairs even if they have already married.

Take it from someone with experience. Just visit the in-laws on the weekends and they would be fine.

OHHH YES!!!! Take this advise.

Look I am not married yet. But I don't plan on staying near them or my aunt in my case. They tend to meddle... that is just how Filipino families are.

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[roninblade]

i'll also add in my advice to not stay with your parents.
better rent a place near your work nalang.