How do you deal with one sided people?

[Chikselog]

The title says it all..

What if naka-encounter ka ng taong sa paniniwala lang niya "nabubuhay" ika nga?
What if that person wants to make his or her perspective become a reality?

Kumbaga parang gusto niyang yun palagi ang nasusunod.. Although siyempre may point siya, pero hindi naman porket may point siya, yun na ang palaging susundin. Dapat maging sensitive din tayo sa mga pananaw ng ibang tao di ba?

What if kahit anong explain mo, the person still chooses to believe in his own belief and not be sensitive to others?

How can you explain to this person na may mali rin siya? Na hindi porket paniwala niya, yun dapat ang gawin?

And the worst part of it all,

What if the person tells other people na ganoon nga nangyari, kumbaga sabihin na nating naghahanap ng "supporters" edi napasama pa tuloy ikaw? Eh ang totoo naman, objectively, ay ikaw ang tama?

[moejun2]

if he won't listen to me, then i'll just move on. we all have to accept the fact that not everyone will accept what you say, that's how it is. likewise, he can't expect you to follow him. it's all about respect

[Chikselog]

But sir what about...

What if the person tells other people na ganoon nga nangyari, kumbaga sabihin na nating naghahanap ng "supporters" edi napasama pa tuloy ikaw? Eh ang totoo naman, objectively, ay ikaw ang tama?

But then again, iba iba talaga ang tao.. We have to know them for us to know how to deal with them kumbaga.. I'm lucky na madali akong mag let go kapag may problema and quickly move-on, I just pray for the person, I know he/she will be guided kung di ko man ma-explain ang lahat.. I guess this is a challenge for me.. I believe challenges are blessings in disguise..

To be able to smile after a problem like the one I've quoted is something like a miracle, for me..

[Mypzi]

Worse are those who ask for your advice and not even listen to what you have to say, and then insist they're right?

You'd think they're after a healthy argument, so you rebut... And then they'd get mad at you for arguing with them.

Aaargh!

[moejun2]

chikselog,

i know where you're coming from since i've had to deal with similar situations. you can never explain to everybody that you're right and that he's wrong. as long as you know that you're right, and you did the right thing, that's all that matters.

now if it's a matter of personal safety then that's another story. but if it's just an ego thing, or a pride thing, let it go. you'll be a better person if you learn how to deal with these situations. and judging by your post above, i believe you're on the right track.

[xoom]

are you pertaining to the noynoy fanatics here?

my classic example for this kind of people are kris aquino and boy abunda. look at how kris aquino puppets boy abunda, all for the sake of "friendship". mali na nga kinakampihan pa din. bottomline - money and power.

nakakabwiset talaga mga taong ganyan. they think the world owes them sh!t and it revolves around them. when i encounter people like these, my prepared response to them always goes, "well, good for you then" sabay talikod

[Chikselog]

Worse are those who ask for your advice and not even listen to what you have to say, and then insist they're right?

You'd think they're after a healthy argument, so you rebut... And then they'd get mad at you for arguing with them.

Aaargh!

May alam din ako na ganito hehe.. Kaya I don't bother talking to that person.. Kinukwento niya sa iba yung story na pabor sa kanya ika nga.. Sa istorya niya siya lagi ang kinakawawa.. Naghahanap siya ng kakampi.. No sense talking to that kind of person unless he wants to be open-minded and accept the truth and be objective..

chikselog,

i know where you're coming from since i've had to deal with similar situations. you can never explain to everybody that you're right and that he's wrong. as long as you know that you're right, and you did the right thing, that's all that matters.

now if it's a matter of personal safety then that's another story. but if it's just an ego thing, or a pride thing, let it go. you'll be a better person if you learn how to deal with these situations. and judging by your post above, i believe you're on the right track.

+1 to this.. Lilipas at lilipas rin naman yun.. And for me challenge lang talaga ito.. Since kakailanganin ko rin mag-deal sa different kinds of people kapag magtatrabaho na ako.. Hehe..

are you pertaining to the noynoy fanatics here?

my classic example for this kind of people are kris aquino and boy abunda. look at how kris aquino puppets boy abunda, all for the sake of "friendship". mali na nga kinakampihan pa din. bottomline - money and power.

nakakabwiset talaga mga taong ganyan. they think the world owes them sh!t and it revolves around them. when i encounter people like these, my prepared response to them always goes, "well, good for you then" sabay talikod

Hahaha! Pwede rin =))..
But I agree with the boy-kris thing.. Imposible namang kahit kailan di na nainis si boy abunda sa mga biglang sabat ni kris.. Nagsasalita pa biglang sisingit.. And kapag may issue naman si kris todo tanggol agad si boy..

OT: Hehe.. Kaya sa kabilang thread, kris aquino ang most hated showbiz personality ko

[Lucius]

Si Abnoy very one-sided. Retarded kasi. Same with his supporters.

[crave]

Si Abnoy very one-sided. Retarded kasi. Same with his supporters.

Lucius, parang may kilala akong ganyan.

[Lucius]

Lucius, parang may kilala akong ganyan.

Ang dami dito nyan

[Gen. Miting]

one-sided people are the easiest to expoit. think

[renzo_d10]

Hayaan mo nalang sila. If they ask for your advice, then tell them yours, if they still insist to go into their way, let them ... it won't affect you anyways. If it will, then it's a different story.

I have encountered a lot of one-sided people. I just tell them what I have in my mind and say in the end, " what's the point of arguing, we have different perspectives, I have said what I`m going to say and you have said yours, it's finished " . No arguments, no bashings no anything.

As long as you have said what you need to say, it's done, let them decide if they're going to go with your perspective or choose another one on their own.

[CVT]

Hayaan mo nalang sila. If they ask for your advice, then tell them yours, if they still insist to go into their way, let them ... it won't affect you anyways. If it will, then it's a different story.

I have encountered a lot of one-sided people. I just tell them what I have in my mind and say in the end, " what's the point of arguing, we have different perspectives, I have said what I`m going to say and you have said yours, it's finished " . No arguments, no bashings no anything.

As long as you have said what you need to say, it's done, let them decide if they're going to go with your perspective or choose another one on their own.

Iyon nga yata ang masama,- the person was initially asking for your advice. And, it ended up that both of you are defending your sides of the fence.... :hysterical:

9606:hippie:

[Negus]

obstinate/stubborn people are also the best friends you could ever have. kahit mali ka, kakampihan ka pa rin nila.

[Hanren]

Hayaan mo na lang sila. They can get miserable living with that kind of inflexibility and somewhat "bossy" atittude.. Kung minsan, mahirap idn yan i correct lalo na kapag lumaki ang tao na ganun na ang paniniwala nya..

[Altis6453]

I press the IGNORE button everytime they come calling. Saves you time and your sanity.

[malinkelly]

Worse are those who ask for your advice and not even listen to what you have to say, and then insist they're right?

You'd think they're after a healthy argument, so you rebut... And then they'd get mad at you for arguing with them.

Aaargh!

nangyari na sa akin yan, what is worst is that best friend ko pa... but we didn't end up in a friendship break-up. pero i feel sorry that my friend don't actually listens to what i've said, even though the advice that i gave to her is from the bible... I'm sorry God...