Would you marry a woman if ...

[dieselNUBI]

ano kaya baligtarin naten?

ikaw mahirap. babae mayaman. mahal mo sya. pero alam naten lahat mahal mo din ang pera nya. occasional gifts like watches, cellphones, t shirts etc. pero mahal mo talaga sya kahit panay regalo syo.

now may lumabas na source na mahal mo lang daw sya dahil sa regalo.

ika nga isang malaking chismis yan. a source is not 100% reliable. confront her and ask if it's true.

[dieselNUBI]

not all cases are like that. if the woman feels safe and secure (financially, physically, emotionally) then there is nothing to fear. as breadwinners it is our responsibility to provide them all those.

[Alpha_One]

Exactly! Practical na lang ang babae ngayon. Some cannot marry just for love.

But is this a good principle to follow? Would you marry a woman like that?

Yung contradiction kasi dun sa question comes from the use of the words rich and luxurious.

If the lady were being practical, the question would be something like "she wants to marry you because you have a good job." Understand the difference?

Anyway, if she wants to marry me because I'm rich, definitely NO.

If she wants to marry me because I can afford to raise a family, of course.

[Alpha_One]

Sorry, damn doublepost.

[nugundam93]

given that scenario she does not truly love you. my advice is :***: her and drop her like a hot potato. i'm serious.

IDB FTW!

my response to the thread question is a 100% NO. knock on wood, if you married her and financially, things took a downturn, she'd drop you like a hot potato and move on to the next rich guy.

i hate insincere people. screw 'em.

[ghosthunter]

here's the scenario:

1. You are rich or potentially rich.

2. You are engaged.

3. You find out from a source that if you weren't rich your fiance would not marry you anymore and find someone else or rather stay alone.

4. She truly loves you but just doesn't want to marry a guy who can't give her a luxurious life.

Would you still marry her?

If you are rich (the actual "richness" is really relative but I assume money is more than enough to live a posh lifestyle without hurting the bank account) then the point that your future wife wants a luxurious life is a null point.

Typical girl wants to be able to go shopping without worrying if her shopping will affect the grocery budget. If you can also have annual or bi-annual vacation trips to local & abroad, she will love that.

[skyglider]

Tell her you'll be donating all your properties to the less fortunate and you would like to live a simple life...

You should sound very serious syempre para seryosohin ka. Then ask her again if she would still want to marry you...

[creepy]

...

3. You find out from a source that if you weren't rich your fiance would not marry you anymore and find someone else or rather stay alone.

4. She truly loves you but just doesn't want to marry a guy who can't give her a luxurious life.

Would you still marry her?

I won't.

And #3 is incompatible with #4.

The problem is a lot of people confuse "desire" and "need" (for affection or attention) with love.

[Horsepower]

No way. I'm not really fond of leeches. hehehhe

[ghalid]

here's the scenario:

1. You are rich or potentially rich.

2. You are engaged.

3. You find out from a source that if you weren't rich your fiance would not marry you anymore and find someone else or rather stay alone.

4. She truly loves you but just doesn't want to marry a guy who can't give her a luxurious life.

Would you still marry her?

kung mahal niya ako (#4) dapat tanggapin niya ako kahit anu pa man.. kung hindi bahala siya sa life niya! marami pang babae sa planet earth

[red papillon]

here's the scenario:

1. You are rich or potentially rich.

2. You are engaged.

3. You find out from a source that if you weren't rich your fiance would not marry you anymore and find someone else or rather stay alone.

4. She truly loves you but just doesn't want to marry a guy who can't give her a luxurious life.

Would you still marry her?

______

I think the premise of this question is loaded.

What does "luxurious" refer to? Jaguars, Tiffany diamonds, a 10-bedroom house in Dasma, vacation houses in Baguio-Palawan-Bora, and bi-annual trips to Monte Carlo... then it would be wise to drop her sorry-gold-digging ass.

It would be best to view this in the context of your fiancee's background. Is she just wanting to maintain a lifestyle she has been accustomed to? Or is she driven to want more out of life rather than the financially difficult environment she grew up in?

Rather than relying on a source, have an honest discussion with her about her needs. Good lord, you guys are engaged! Money does matter. It may not be romantic. But it's not romantic when you can't pay your kid's tuition, or you're dining by candlelight because your electricity has been cut off.

As an aside, if her needs for comfort are within the acceptable range, and hey, she's great in the sack, I don't see why you shouldn't give her the life that she wants if you can afford it. As Samantha (from *** in the City) had so aptly put it: "They don't call it a job for nothing." I say she should be duly compensated