Can divorce run in the family?

[Memphis Raines]

My brother is in a dilemma right now because he and his girlfriend of 3 years are starting to talk about the prospect of getting married by summer of next year.

We've known the girl for about 10 years and we also know very well the marriage history of her family. Her mom and dad had split and both have had their own "live-in" partners. Her only sister had also just recently split with her husband of 9 years of which she has two kids. Barely 2 years after the split, she has her new live-in partner.

My only Bro is now worried that this might happen to them if they tie the knot I used to kid around with him about this but now I realize that it can happen. Or not . My bro trusts the love between them but I guess he took my "everything changes when you get married" statement seriously .

Is it possible for divorce to be a genetic thing or was the history explained above just pure coincidence?

[1D4LV]

naah. i think walang connection yan bro. may individual characteristics yung gf ng brother mo and its not genetic.

marriages get destroyed not because of hormones. its because of something that happens because of hormones. and as far as i am concerned, there are ways for a two party relationship to fix their relationship first if they encounter marriage problems.

[knight21]

the possibility of divorce happening is up to them. kung ang perception nila is mangyayari sa amin ito dahil ganun ang nangyari sa mga kapatid/in-laws ko, malaki ang chance na mangyari talaga because of the mind set. pero kung iisipin nila na di nila papayagan na mangyari yon, that's adifferent thing.

nasa kanilang dalawa lang yan. thru communication and prayer, their marriage will last a lifetime.

[CVT]

Bro, it does not run in the family; it runs in the head.

You have to have the right mindset before diving into marriage ("I'd recommend the experience")- you can quote me on that....

When you're in it,- you have to have the right attitude and disposition not to lose the "winning team". Everything's up here in the head, not down there....

4101:victory:

[Josh0027]

no connection bro

[shadow]

naahhh!!! divorce per se doesn't run in the family, yun reason ng divorce ng mga family members niya ang pwedeng nasa lahi...i.e. baka meron silang lahing sira ulo or something...baka naman nag ss-strangle sila ng mga partners nila habang natutulog...diba?

[VtEC]

nope.

divorce is not hereditary nor a virus which affect ones thinking or behavior.on the positive side, since the gal had a very bad experience regarding broken family, she 'might' not want that to happen to her own family.

[jedi]

kung ang lagi nilang iisipin na baka mangyari din sa kanila yun baka mas lalo silang magkaproblema... mas importante ngayon ay alam nilanug mahal nila ang isat-isa... kung ano man magiging future ng relationship nila... silang dalawa din ang gagawa nun

[Chip]

BEWARE!

While it may not be genetic, it MAY happen to her as well.
How?

Simple, whenever they be have a fight or she starts falling out of love or the marriage gets rocky, guess who shell be going to for advice? And guess what kind of poison they'll be pouring in her ear? I'm willing to bet that they will only reinforce her doubts and use their own experiences to validate her fears. I'm not saying its a certainty, but its a very real possibility.


Caveat Caveat Caveat.

[HIFI]

My brother is in a dilemma right now because he and his girlfriend of 3 years are starting to talk about the prospect of getting married by summer of next year.

We've known the girl for about 10 years and we also know very well the marriage history of her family. Her mom and dad had split and both have had their own "live-in" partners. Her only sister had also just recently split with her husband of 9 years of which she has two kids. Barely 2 years after the split, she has her new live-in partner.

My only Bro is now worried that this might happen to them if they tie the knot I used to kid around with him about this but now I realize that it can happen. Or not . My bro trusts the love between them but I guess he took my "everything changes when you get married" statement seriously .

Is it possible for divorce to be a genetic thing or was the history explained above just pure coincidence?

I don't think it has anything to do with genetics. However, the GF and her family's perception of action and consequence (parang right and wrong) makes divorce more probable.

To people who have family and close friends that have experienced divorced and live through it, getting a divorce themselves could be an easier way out when a couple encounter challenging situations.

The environment where a couple will stay (countries with divorce US, EU, HK,...etc) will also increase the probablity of divorce. Come to think of it, kahit sa office lang, pag maraming divorced, ganun din.

Unfortunately, divorce is already a part of the human society....no exceptions, regardless of ***, culture, age, and religious beliefs (even for practicing Catholics via annulment). Panahon pa ni Moses yan.

Though I'm against divorce (who isn't, when in love?), there are times that I personally feel it's the only way. Ang tawag ng mga kano diyan eh...irreconcilable differences.

Bottom line is: Divorce comes with the marriage territory. It's totally up to the couple kung gustong nila mag divorce in the future. But, also remember that marriage is a sacrifice, and to sacrifice is to love. Pag mahal mo talaga, hindi ka mag didivorce....ititiis mo yan. Marriage is the true test of love.