Is there such a thing as a rebound relationship?

[Patti]

What's your take on this?

[madduck]

it happens. you're used to having someone around and then suddenly things change so you'll try to look for someone to be with.

[CVT]

"Rebound" Relationships | Psychology Today



Dangerous Sis....

A person might be considered on the rebound if he or she becomes involved in a relationship that shortly follows the ending of a previous one. Those on the rebound are assumed to have distress as a result of their prior relationship, and therefore their emotional availability is in question. Commonly it is assumed that if you are on the rebound you do not have the capacity to make good decisions about a choice of partner because your feelings about your previous partner influence your decision-making. Thus, if you are dating someone who is rebounding, you may wonder if that person is capable of emotional attachment or if you are, instead, simply a substitute for love that was lost.

Another concern of those who date rebounding people is the potential for neediness to determine the connection rather than actual interest. Certainly there are cases where a fear of being without a partner, rather than genuine attraction and emotional connection, motivates someone to immediately enter into a new relationship.

Those on the rebound may harbor resentment toward the previous partner and experience anger as a result of shame. But such negative emotions regarding a previous partner maintain a tie to them. Anger toward an ex-partner may interfere with attachment to a current one, as well as put a current partner in the uncomfortable position of competing with the ghost of what remains of the past relationship and wondering if the new partner’s interest in, or excitement about, the new relationship is enough to provide fulfillment.

In contrast, some potential partners on the rebound do not bring up the relationship that recently ended, nor do they expose any emotions surrounding the dissolution. A partner’s failure to openly discuss a previous partner does not necessarily represent an indication of continued attachment to them. In such circumstances it is often the new partner whose anxiety about the attachment leads them to focus on the previous relationship of the person with whom he or she is involved, especially when the previous relationship is very recent history.

The rebound relationship, it is believed, takes up the space that was left by the previous relationship and provides both stability and distraction from loss rather than a working through. According to this way of thinking, a person should “get over” the loss of a relationship before moving on to the next one, which negates the potential for healing and learning that occurs within the contrast of a new relationship. A rebound relationship may mitigate the hurt, shame, and pain of a break-up. Nevertheless, when a person loses a connection, it is through connecting that recovery takes place. Focusing on someone new, according to the limited research on the subject of rebound relationships, can help a person recover from a break-up (Spielmann, S., Macdonald, G., & Wilson, A., 2009). This does not necessarily mean that the new relationship is valued less than the previous one. In fact, the new relationship can prove to have far greater worth than the previous relationship since it is through the comparison of need satisfaction that fulfillment is judged. Time between relationships is not necessary for psychological well-being. People need connection, and moving on can help you get over what has to be left behind.

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[renzo_d10]

Hi Sis., welcome back!

BTT: Meron talaga. Lalo na kapag kakabreak palang meron na ulit bago, most likely rebound yun.

[Walter]

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[Walter]

Hi Sis., welcome back!

BTT: Meron talaga. Lalo na kapag kakabreak palang meron na ulit bago, most likely rebound yun.

Or your mother just passed away and you go see 4 u to talk to and hug and ...

[_Cathy_]

Ha ha ha! I like your sense of humour

[Ry_Tower]

Yes may ganyan nga. Kaya madali mapasagot yung mga kaka-break lang.

[ClaNker]

Rebound? Alam sa basketball lang meron nyan. Rebound mo then dribble sabay shoot.

[NiCe2KnowU]

maraming naiiskorang tsiks sa ganyang situation lalo na pag paawa effect :rofl:

[xninjax]

rebound with the same person?

Sample who rebounded after their breakups:
- JLO
- Eva Longoria
- etc ..

[_Qwerty_]

i agree.. rebound *** lang..

maraming naiiskorang tsiks sa ganyang situation lalo na pag paawa effect :rofl:

[uls]

there are lots of people out there who are just recovering from a failed relationship

they go out to meet other people to take their minds off their ex

chances are the girl or guy you just met could have just came from a break up

lots of walking wounded out there

many hook ups are rebounds

[NiCe2KnowU]

angel locsin and luiz manzano.. konting konti nalang magiiskoran na :D

[lowslowbenz]

Insert Jaws OST here: > ................. <

[baludoy]

si lino cayetano naka daget ng fresh-out-of-college and fresh-out-of-a relationship volleyball star fille cainglet kaya propose kaagad

lucky guy that lino cayetano

[rukawa11]

rebound rel ?.. uso yan ngayon :D

[Patti]

Haha grabe now ko lang nabasa mga replies dito sa thread..anyway si Uls alam na yung story kasi nagkita kami kaninang madaling araw..

yeah I just came from a failed relationship a few months ago..wala naman problem between us..nagkaron ng problem with his family and so he made a choice not to see me anymore..Guess I'm okay with that..so in short nagmove on na ko..pakontii konti nireegain ko ang social life ko..then one day I decided to give in sa request ng friend ko na magkita kami..we went to trinoma then she said may friend daw sya na susunod..I said ok wala naman problem skin if may kasama sya..I just want to go out and enjoy..ang ending we went to tagaytay that night..we had coffee then kwentuhan syempre may photo op pa haha..nabaitan ako dun sa guy..he's cute, mabait and masarap kakwentuhan..oh by the way I let him drive my cat kasi they made me drink a bottle of san mig apple eh hindi ako umiinom so medyo hilo ako that time..anyway on our way home nakatulog yung friend ko as soon as we left tagaytay..yun we had a chance to talk and we sang together parang may concert sa kotse..kilig moment!anyways we went out again after that..nageenjoy naman ako kasama sya but at the same time natatakot ako kasi baka mainlove na naman ako..the more I get to know him kasi lalo ko sya nagugustuhan..for sure masasaktan lang ako pag nalaman ko na he doesn't like me di ba?one time magkatext kami sabi ko curious yung mga tao kung sino yung nasa profile pic ko..he replied "trending pala ako..good rebound ako no?" kaya bigla ko naisip yang rebound relationship na yan..hay today medyo umiiwas na ko..I'm not my usual self na makulit..malambing..ang hirap umiwas pag ganun kacute and kabait yung iniiwasan mo..

[Patti]

So you mean rebound relationships don't last?as in hook ups lang?is there any possibility na totoo naman yung feelings nila?so when's the right time to fall in love again?

[renzo_d10]

Namiss mo lang kasi yung feelings from your past relationship kaya ka naghahanap agad na kaya punuan 'to.

Once makapagmove-on ka na talaga from your last one, yung rebound mo mawawalan ka na ng pake dyan kaya magbbreak kayo.

In short, ang rebound usually panakip butas lang.