8 Signs Your Marriage Was Doomed From The Start

[Monseratto]

They forgot to add the in-laws....especially the mom-in-command...


8 Signs Your Marriage Was Doomed From The Start

By: Amanda Scherker
Posted: 01/07/2015 11:41 am EST Updated: 01/07/2015 1:59 pm EST NERVOUS BRIDE GROOM

When your marriage ends, it's natural to seek a convenient scapegoat -- namely your spouse or that slightly flirty co-worker you never trusted. Assigning responsibility can help you make sense of life during this confusing, overwhelming time.

But ultimately, relationships aren't that simple. Many factors affect whether or not a couple survives the challenges of marriage. And many of those factors were determined long before you tied the knot. Here are eight signs your marriage was never going to last:

1. You had financial disagreements early on.


If you start arguing about money on the honeymoon, you're probably not going to live happily ever after, according to a Kansas State University study. The researchers found that arguments about money early on in a relationship correlated with marital dissatisfaction years down the road, and that money was the "top predictor for divorce." Interestingly, this was true across income and wealth levels.

2. You got married fast.

A study from Emory University found that the rate of divorce is inversely associated with length a couple has dated before marriage. A couple who dates for three years is 39 percent less likely to get divorced than a couple who dated for less than one year.

3. You have very different drinking habits.


A study from the University of Buffalo found that couples are more likely to divorce if one spouse is a heavy drinker. Interesting, that's not true of couples in which both spouses drink heavily. This suggests that it's the difference in habits, more than the alcohol itself, that causes the problem.

4. You or your partner really wanted a prenup.


Did you spend as much time thinking about your prenup as you did about your honeymoon? It probably didn't bode well for the marriage. As W. Bradford Wilcox explains in the New York Times, financial generously between spouses is a strong indicator of marital satisfaction, and the desire to sign a prenup is typically a self-interested act.

Wilcox also notes that married couples who pool resources are happier and more stable. Indeed, the National Center for Family and Marriage Research found that couples who don't share bank accounts are 145 percent more likely to end up divorced.

5. You had a blowout wedding.

Also according to the same Emory study, couples who had expensive weddings may be more likely to end up divorced. Women with at least a $20,000 wedding bill were 3.5 times more likely to divorce than women with $5,000 to $10,000 weddings.

6. Somebody in your network of friends and family divorced.

A study published in the "Social Forces" Journal found that divorce can work like a social contagion, spreading amongst friends and families. If someone is divorced in your network -- like a friend or neighbor -- your statistical liklihood of ending up in Splitsville apparently increases by 75 percent. It gets worse: The researchers write, "Individuals who get divorced may influence not only their friends, but also their friends’ friends as the propensity to divorce spreads."

7. You have a sizable age gap.

The same study from Emory found that spouses with substantial age gaps are far more likely to end up divorced. In fact, spouses with a 10-year age difference are 39 percent more likely to divorce than spouses who are the same age.

8. You were young when you tied the knot.

Research from The National Marriage Project confirms what many suspect: couples who marry in their late teens and early twenties are more likely to divorce than those who tie the knot later in life.

[french]

6. Somebody in your network of friends and family divorced.

Who doesn't have this?

[dr. d]

Who doesn't have this?

since divorce is not normally "available on a silver platter" in the philippines, i do not think this has much of an effect here..

at buti naman, there wasn't much money to talk about, when we got married.

[Newcomer123]

Time to innovate the concept of marriage to un-complicate it...

It should be made up of at least four or five contracts

- for companionship
- for control of property or business
- for inheritance (last will)
- for specific "show-stopper" violations like spousal abuse
- for child support

You should be able to divorce from all except the last. There should be no escaping from your kids.

[Tj_abs]

9. + 1. Not good in bed ( not physically satisfied )

[donbuggy]

7. You have a sizable age gap.

The same study from Emory found that spouses with substantial age gaps are far more likely to end up divorced. In fact, spouses with a 10-year age difference are 39 percent more likely to divorce than spouses who are the same age.

Then why do men have mistresses who are younger and prettier than their wives?

[b_9904]

Then why do men have mistresses who are younger and prettier than their wives?

Coz they are a-holes?

Seriously, madaming reasons eh. Hindi talaga masasagot ang tanong mong yan.

[macsd]

Then why do men have mistresses who are younger and prettier than their wives?

Coz they are a-holes?

Seriously, madaming reasons eh. Hindi talaga masasagot ang tanong mong yan.

The answer is simple, benchmark is always the first thus one have to get something better, then the 3rd will be better than 2nd and so on. That's called continues improvement.

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Then why do men have mistresses who are younger and prettier than their wives?

Coz they are a-holes?

Seriously, madaming reasons eh. Hindi talaga masasagot ang tanong mong yan.

The answer is simple, benchmark is always the first thus one have to get something better, then the 3rd will be better than 2nd and so on. That's called continues improvement.

[b_9904]

The answer is simple, benchmark is always the first thus one have to get something better, then the 3rd will be better than 2nd and so on. That's called continues improvement.

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The answer is simple, benchmark is always the first thus one have to get something better, then the 3rd will be better than 2nd and so on. That's called continues improvement.

Hahahaha... if only it were true.

Sa office namin madaming napapadaan na may mistress. Mas maganda yung una kesa sa second.

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The answer is simple, benchmark is always the first thus one have to get something better, then the 3rd will be better than 2nd and so on. That's called continues improvement.

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The answer is simple, benchmark is always the first thus one have to get something better, then the 3rd will be better than 2nd and so on. That's called continues improvement.

Hahahaha... if only it were true.

Sa office namin madaming napapadaan na may mistress. Mas maganda yung una kesa sa second.

[99moves]

May mga nagsasabi nga sakin, mostly matatanda na wag daw ako magsasasama sa mga hiwalay sa asawa hahaha. Malakas ata maka impluwensiya mga to.

[kagalingan]

tsikoteers,

For the past 5years mas naiintindihan ko na arranged marriage lalo na sa mga may binatbat sa buhay yung nagpapaikot ng economy madami nakasalalay na empleyado.

PEro lately napansin ko dapat mga common peenoise dapat bawal agad ikasal. Yung tipong kakakgraduate lang tapos isip agad mag-asawa. Dapat taasan age limit mga 29years old ayan pwede na.

Hindi ko maintindihan sa pinas bakit hinid nagwoworry sa overpopulation. Eh ako dati pa napapaisip sa tubig ng angat dam at walang tamang zoning sa metro manila.

buti nagkacovid kaya kahit papaano narealize na hinid maganda condo/ madami tao/ sidwalk parking. TApos ngayn narealize importante pala nature parks. HALLLEEER dati ko pa sinasabi yan.

AKo pag nagdadrive tapos nagmamasid-masid mali yung madami tricylce. Kasi yang mga tricycle ay epekto ng nakabuntis kaya no choice walang maapplyan trabaho so bagsak mo tricycle driver. Konti lang dapat tricycle ang main purpose sa palengke thats it.

Haaay tsikoteers, mga nakikita ko eh eventually mag-aangas na naman ako kagalingan right again. Sayang mga inaral nyo sa xaiver, lasalle ateneo updilim hindi kayo tinuruan ng behaviorist masteral in relational mind. Yung mga skwelahan nyo puro pangangwarta. Reactive walang pro-action eh. Hindi marunogn sa anticipation.

Kaya kita nyo ngayon pandemic padrive drive lang ako since ECQ pa. May takot ako naramdaman nugn simula pero nagiisip umaasess sa situation. Hindi na-ngarag. Pumapalag.

[uls]

di naman mapipigil ang pagdami ng tao kung taasan ang marrying age

sa poor communities early teens palang nagses3x na

karamihan ng mga nabubuntis di kasal

[uls]

Fewer Filipinos got married in 219 – PSA


the article didn't mention why fewer pinoys are getting married

tingin ko more people are choosing to live together nalang

[akosijhay]

di naman mapipigil ang pagdami ng tao kung taasan ang marrying age

sa poor communities early teens palang nagses3x na

karamihan ng mga nabubuntis di kasal

Connected din kaya yung lack of knowledge ng mga pinoy sa s3x? Halimbawa, mas marami ang naniniwala sa calendar at withdrawal method kaysa gumamit ng contraceptive?

[uls]

Connected din kaya yung lack of knowledge ng mga pinoy sa s3x? Halimbawa, mas marami ang naniniwala sa calendar at withdrawal method kaysa gumamit ng contraceptive?

i think ayaw ng mga pinoy gumamit ng condom lalo sa asawa nila

so the burden falls on the women -- kailangan mag pills

[_Cathy_]

i think ayaw ng mga pinoy gumamit ng condom lalo sa asawa nila

so the burden falls on the women -- kailangan mag pills

yan din narinig ko sa mga kilala ko. I know some men NEVER pa nakagamit ng condom. Mga kilala ko naman na babae ayaw mag pills kasi may side effect. Pero sa friends ko mostly 1 lang anak talaga kahit walang contraceptives, karamihan nga hirap pa magka anak kailangan pa ng IVF

[uls]

from the other thread...

though i've never been married i believe being married doesn't mean a guy has access to unlimited s3x

madami yata akala pag may asawa na meron *** on demand 24/7

ano ang misis? s3x doll?

tao yan may sariling isip, may moods

[akosijhay]

AKo pag nagdadrive tapos nagmamasid-masid mali yung madami tricylce. Kasi yang mga tricycle ay epekto ng nakabuntis kaya no choice walang maapplyan trabaho so bagsak mo tricycle driver. Konti lang dapat tricycle ang main purpose sa palengke thats it.

Kags, hindi lahat ng pinoy afford mag kotse o motor para pumasok sa trabaho, school, etc..

Sa gaya ko na hindi pinanganak na mayaman, malaking bagay ang tricycle sa daily commute ko non pag-papasok ng school.

[uls]

Kags, hindi lahat ng pinoy afford mag kotse o motor para pumasok sa trabaho, school, etc..

Sa gaya ko na hindi pinanganak na mayaman, malaking bagay ang tricycle sa daily commute ko non pag-papasok ng school.

makasarili kasi yan si kagalingan tingin niya sa kalye playground niya

gusto niya ung parang sa commercial ng kotse isang kotse lang nasa kalye

kaya tuwang tuwa siya nag lockdown di lumabas mga tao maluwag ang kalye para masarap drive niya sa gabi

gusto niya wag lumabas mga tao wag mag hanapbuhay wag mag s3x para di lalo dumami

masakit kasi sa mata ung madami tao at tricycle

gets mo na si kagalingan

[_Cathy_]

I'm just wondering how could 2 people that married, had s3x and had children hate each other so much after separation.

I watched and read about tons of couple that separated and it's always na one person parang diring diri sa other. after the separation. I'm thinking how could it reach that point when they had s3x countless of times before things fell apart UNLESS one person settled lang talaga? I have a lot of friends that settled (admittedly). They chose the guy that they are not "in love" with but gave them stability and security, not financial, yung "mas mahal sila than mahal nila".

Even in real life, I know people that are hiwalay na parang sinusunog just hearing the name of the other. It's hard to imagine na at one point they were so in love with each other. Siguro I will only feel that way if my partner cheated on me with my sister (which I don't have) or best friend or relative.