a soon to be father in need of help!

[red07]

Congratulations!!!!

Just like what everybody said here, what you need to do is save lots of money. Once your GF gives birth, expect a lot of expenses like check-ups, vaccinations, diapers, milk etc. These are the expenses that you cannot avoid so you better save.

[sequoia]

welcome to fatherhood! naku lagot ka, ang girl mahilig mangalabit pag preggy bec of hormones daw. Sabagay until 8th mos. pwede pa, namimili nga lang ng position..

[fourtheboys96]

since may aunt ka na OB-GYNE, i assume na may discount ka sa check ups and delivery ng baby. but that doesnt mean na maliit ang babayaran mo. kung malaki ang hospital bill, kahit may discount, malaki pa din babayran mo. so isuggest na continue ka lang sa pag iipon. my wife and i saved money for a ceasarian delivery just in case ganun ang mangyari. buti na lang normal delivery kasi liit si baby. (diabetic misis ko nung preggy kaya controlled ang kain).

kung normal delivery GF mo then good kasi magkakaroon ka ng savings para sa ibang gastusin.


i also suggest reading some materials (books, magazines, internet, etc.) about pregnancy. ndi lang yung GF mo ang dapat magbasa dapat ikaw din para alam mo kung anu ano ang nagyayari sa baby at GF. in my experience kasi, malaki ang naitulong lalo pag mejo worried ang misis ko nun, na eexplain ko sa kanya na normal lang yun nararamdaman niya with matching scientifc explanation pa yun :D. we had 2 failed pregnancies before our first born kaya dami ko na nabasa.


then ang pinak importante ay ihanda mo yung isipan mo at katawan mo sa pagdating ni baby. physically nakakapagod. kahit may kasambahay kayo, nakakapagod pa din although kakatuwa lalo na pag gising si baby. ako kasi ndi ko pinahuhugasan sa iba yung bottles para siguradon malinis.

emotionally psychologically, dapat handa pa din. uwi ka agad kay baby. ndi na masyado makakalabas etc. i suggest try to visualize having a baby in your arms, in your house etc. then imagine hearing a newborn babay cry hehehe


gud luck and congrats!

[1D4LV]

Hi guys! Im not new here but I always visit and sometimes post here at tsikot.. guys I need ur help! my gf for 4 years is 5 months pregnant.. my family and her family know already of our situation at first they are mad at first but we face them and put our whole family together and talked to them and we all agreed that getting married is not the answer to our problem.. Im just starting with my first job and my GF is finishing her studies as a medtech.. Guys I need advice on what to expect and what to do.. right now all is under control and we are managing our problem because of the grace and mercy of god! what Im more afraid of is the expense that will cost me when its time for my GF to give birth.. I dont to ask for money anymore to my parents or her parents.. I want to be responsible for my baby! Im not running away from my duty and responsiblity as a Father..
so please guys need help! any advice is greatly appreciated! thanks!

just save up for the birth. as much as possible, use the cheapest hospital so you will not be overburdened with high cost of giving birth. you don't need the facilities naman specially if the birth will be under normal delivery. normally, your gf will be able to go home after a day.

talk to your OB-GYNE on this. i am sure your doctor will understand.

money is nothing bro. just save up. i am sure your parents as well as your gf's parents' hearts will soften specially if they see their first apo. they will help.

what is important is that you stand by with your gf during these times. madami syang crisis ngayon, emotionally, physically and hormonally. this is the time that she really needs you a lot.

[mommyblue]

i agree with you that getting married when a baby comes isn't always the answer.. if you want your child to bear your surname, you can still do it even without marrying your GF.. parang pipirma ka lang yata sa birth certificate or something.. and for me, you can get marry anytime you want as long as your already decided to do it.. madaling magpakasal pero mahirap magpa-annul at magastos pa ..

[Honda97]

Congrats! Your life will never be the same again! This is all I can day, from a father to a father:

1. Siguro, ideally, you and the mother of your son/daughter should make sure that you are both healthy. Mas mahal kapag naging high-risk pregnancy yan, so be sure to eat and sleep well and stay away from smoke, too much sweets, too much salt and especially stressful situations. Take the vitamins and supplements the OB recommends.

2. You might want to explain your situation to your OB Gyn. Sometimes they understand so they don't charge so much for their professional fee. Medyo discretionary kasi yung fee na yun.

3. Ipon lang ng ipon. Maybe make an expected cash flow for the next few months ahead. Yung simple lang. Income, expenses and running balance. Ang gastos, tuloy-tuloy na yan. Siyempre, magpapabakuna ka pa ng anak mo, little events like birthday parties, baptism, mga gamit ng bata to stimulate the mind and senses, milk supplements (if necessary).

4. Talk to your/the gf/mother about breastfeeding. Malaki ang matitipid mo sa gatas kung nagbre-breastfeed yung anak mo at mas beneficial daw yun sa anak mo because of the antibodies and nutrition. Imagine, some milk supplements for infants go up to P750 per can and kung malakas uminom yung anak mo, ubos kaagad yun in one week.

5. Ask around for stuff that you can borrow like a crib, stroller, baby clothes, etc... Hindi naman kailangan bago lahat. If you have relatives or friends who've had babies that are now relatively big, maybe you can borrow their old stuff.

6. Open a bank account for emergencies/savings for your son.
Cut back muna sa luho but make sure you spend a bit on yourselves for your own sanity's sake.

[mommyblue]

advice for your GF, tell her to consider breastfeeding your baby.. ang laki talaga ng matitipid nyo tapos mas healthy pa si baby compared to formula-fed babies.. i've been breastfeeding my baby for 7 mos already.. mahirap talaga sa una but if she sets her mind into to it at isipin lang nya na para kay baby yung sacrifice.. syempre, importante din ang support mo when she is still starting to learn how to breastfeed.. yung matitipid nyo na pambili dapat ng powdered milk eh magiging pambili na lang ng diaper.. and if she is already decided to do it, invest on a good breast pump like the avent isis.. medyo expensive but its worth it..

:congrats: daddy Orido..

[XTO]

At 5 months, I’m sure she already has an OB-Gyne I suggest you mention to your doc that you’re really in a budget (wag na mahiya) because as you have said, you’re just starting to work and she’s just graduated, something like that. Tapatin mo na – walang masama dun.
Choose the lowest room rate as possible for her stay, anyway she’ll only stay there for a max of 3 days if normal and 5 days or more if she goes into caesarian. That way all of your hospital expenses will surely be based there. Good luck and be proud bro
Nothing beat pag pinagpawisan ika nga.

[mommyblue]

4. Talk to your/the gf/mother about breastfeeding. Malaki ang matitipid mo sa gatas kung nagbre-breastfeed yung anak mo at mas beneficial daw yun sa anak mo because of the antibodies and nutrition. Imagine, some milk supplements for infants go up to P750 per can and kung malakas uminom yung anak mo, ubos kaagad yun in one week.

korek ka diyan papi.. kaya kami ni hubby, walang problema kahit matakaw si baby kasi unlimited yung milk supply nya.. and best of all, it's free kasi nga galing kay mommy :cow: (, yan ang tawag sa akin ni hubby pag inaasar nya ako.. i got used to it already kaya ok lang na maging nickname )..

[theveed]

Magtipid and trust me, if you really care for your kid/wife/family, you'll find ways to make ends meet Don't worry too much about money...

[skyglider]

Congratulations sir...

Dagdag ko lang sa mga nabanggit nila...

Ngayon pa lang kausapin mo na si baby mo na normal pag lumabas siya para na rin sa mommy niya. Mas ok pa rin ang normal delivery kahit masakit compare to caesarian. Mas mabilis si mrs mo makakabalik sa dating lakas niya.

Agree din ako dun sa sinabi na magpakasal, although pwede pa rin namang gamitin ni baby last name mo kahit di kayo kasal. "Revilla Law" yung batas base sa mga narinig ko sa radio program... You just can't use nga lang yung Philhealth mo saka pati Paternity Leave baka di ka eligible sa company mo.

Si wifey/gf mo alagaan mo rin kasi during and after the pregnancy maraming hormonal changes sa kanya so you need to secure her always that its just normal and you're always there to support her.

Good luck sir to you and your gf/wifey!

[hyperthread]

Just take care of your GF and everything will be fine. Frequently visit your doctor and give her vitamins and Anmum. A expensive hospital room is not necessary but instead save your money for post-marital checkups and for the baby.

Goodluck and Congrats!

[Orido]

salamat talaga to my fellow tsikoteers to all of your support and advices! saludo po talaga ako sa inyo!! ngaun palang kinakausap ko na siya and regular naman ang lahat ng check ups namin with the doc and so far so good daw!! wish ko lang talaga boy!! pero kug girl ok lang din! lahit kami un ang gusto pero kung girl ok lang din! Bantay sarado skin un!! nag pa ultra sound na kme pero di parin makita gender.. hopefully next week malalaman na nmin..

marami talaga akong na sacrifice narin for my baby.. maraming offers narin ang dumating skin pero I choose the job that secured my first 2 years of my corporate life and to be sure n may steady income for my baby's first years of birth..

all of your comments and advices are all taken and I cant be thankful enough to your support and understanding.. kala ko nga susunugin ako sa plaza dito eh!.. pero hindi pala thank you po!

[Orido]

I dont use the FORT anymore its my dad who uses it almost everyday now.. Im back to the trusted REVO.. before this Im thinking of trading it off to a second hand civic 1.8 v or s... pero now its just a plan.. but Its ok! it does its intended job without too much problem and its my priority right now.. tsikots will always be there but fatherhood is a one time deal!

[mommyblue]

Ngayon pa lang kausapin mo na si baby mo na normal pag lumabas siya para na rin sa mommy niya. Mas ok pa rin ang normal delivery kahit masakit compare to caesarian. Mas mabilis si mrs mo makakabalik sa dating lakas niya.

mga papi, meron na din pong painless na normal delivery.. depende siguro sa OB.. yung sa akin kasi nag-request ako kasi sabi ko may nerbiyos ako baka hindi ko kayanin ma-caesarian pa ako ng di-oras.. what happened during delivery ay parang masamang bangungot lang sa akin.. i was feeling so high tapos tulog lang ng tulog.. parang panaginip lang talaga yung labor and delivery sa memory ko .. tipong pahapyaw lang ang naalala ko tapos nakikita ko yung mga tao sa paligid ko pero hindi ko mamukhaan sa sobrang labo.. basta parang ganun.. malabo ..

[Imau]

first advice ko sayo bro is, from now on, magtulog ka na ng magtulog hehe. nakakapuyat ang magkaroon ng baby kasi every now and then kailangan mo check baby mo kung ok sya at timpla ng gatas kung walang milk si misis. my wife tried everything to breast feed our baby pero super konti talaga milk nya so no choice kami but to bottle feed. for the fist 3 mos. I took the responsibility of waking up, checking the baby, the diapers, milk etc. kasi gusto ko makabwai agad ng lakas si mommy so hinayaan ko syang matulog. nakatulong din sa akin para mabawasan ang taba ko hehe.

[fourtheboys96]

tama sila lahat sa breastfeeding. nutrition and protection combined. plus less cost.

ako nga nanghihinayang kasi ndi breastfed ang 1 month old baby namin. wala talaga milk si misis. dahil siguro sa controlled diet niya nung buntis pa siya due to gestational diabetes.

[silhouette]

Almost every good advises is shared already.
Just don't forget to Pray, Pray, Pray. God will provide for your baby's needs.

[Honda97]

first advice ko sayo bro is, from now on, magtulog ka na ng magtulog hehe. nakakapuyat ang magkaroon ng baby kasi every now and then kailangan mo check baby mo kung ok sya at timpla ng gatas kung walang milk si misis. my wife tried everything to breast feed our baby pero super konti talaga milk nya so no choice kami but to bottle feed. for the fist 3 mos. I took the responsibility of waking up, checking the baby, the diapers, milk etc. kasi gusto ko makabwai agad ng lakas si mommy so hinayaan ko syang matulog. nakatulong din sa akin para mabawasan ang taba ko hehe.

tama ka diyan! matulog ka! mami-miss mo yang pagtulog na yan. pero kayang-kaya naman. sanayan lang.

[mazingerZ]

Pare,

this is not to scare you but overview ng expenses for normal delivery (estimated per experience) is :

OB Gyne - - - - - P12,000.00
Room (4 days) - - 12,000.00
Pedia - - - - - - - 3,000.00
Delivery and
other related exp. -20,000.00
Total - - - - - - - P47,000.00

Budget ka ng mga P50k pare. Pero its worth it naman, the joy of being a parent never ends (kasama na kulang sa tulog etc hehehe).

Good luck bro.