My friend’s love dilemma

[sHoCkAbSoRbEr]

Originally posted by Ungas
I-umpog mo ulo sa pader ng matauhan! Kamo utos ko.... hahaha! :bwahaha:

Gusto ko nga sana para magising na eh! Ang kulit pa din talaga... Ang tanga-tanga na nga nya kung iisipin ko... Pero that's love siguro, hehehe...

[sHoCkAbSoRbEr]

Originally posted by Tha_Mann
having a 10-yr relationship is not something that can be easily forgotten, emotionally and mentally, its easy to say na mag move-on ka na after break-up pero it's really hard to do so it's not a good advice at this moment..

This, I strongly believe... True, very true.

some time in a relationship, ma a-attract tayo sa iba, it's natural human feeling but if u do something w/ that attraction, there lies the problem.

And the only person who can control his feelings is of course himself. And right now, I think that my friend's (ex)bf doesn't feel like he has control of anything. Adding pa the pressure sa school... Confusing nga...

one factor kung bkit na attract yung bf ng friend mo sa school mate nya eh ksi nga sabi mo long distance relationship sila ng friend mo, eh syempre nag l-long sya ng companionship tapos may lumalapit pa na girl, natural lang na ma temp sya.. iba ksi yung may palagi kang katabi at kasama..

Pero sana naman, the bf did open up to my friend his gf para naman makagawa ng way yung friend ko to fill in the absence he's been longing for. It takes two to tango...

pero ur friend & her (ex)bf built a foundation na w/ their 10-yr relationship, and i think its a strong foundation, mejo naguluhan lang yung guy sa nangyari ngayon and cguro nde pa nya alam if infatuation lang yung feelings nya for his classmate or what..

I hope that that "confusion" will pass. Kawawa kasi yung friend ko, although now I can see that she is progressing, hindi na sya ganun ka-depressed pero still... Basta, I wanna help my friend...

Strong foundation? Yeah. Hanggang buto, ganun ka-strong. Hanggang bone marrow pa nga, eh...

my advise for ur friend is give her bf some time to think things over, but don't lose communication, once in a while mag paramdam sya baka ksi makalimutan na sya hehe.. dont give up easily.. cguro this is just a test kung gano kalalim yung pag sasamahan nila.. pero if trust is lost na, it's another thing na, mas mahirap i regain yung trust kesa sa love..

Pero break na sila and they agreed that wala munang texts or calls... Kahit sobrang pain sa side ng friend ko... Worry ko nga that the (ex)bf might forget my friend na, which is the worst part.

o kaya sabihin mo sa friend mo gantihan namin yung ex-bf nya hehehe...

I'll PM you on this.

[gretzy]

dapat talaga always leave something for urself

[OTEP]

Sabihin mo sa 'friend' mo, andito lang ako.

[Kram]

lumabas na ang tunay na otep...

[OTEP]

Para kasi ma-ireto ko na kay Kram. :D

[sHoCkAbSoRbEr]

Originally posted by OTEP
Sabihin mo sa 'friend' mo, andito lang ako.

Thanks, OTEP. Kahit hindi kayo magkakilala ng friend ko, she'll be happy pag kinuwento ko to sa kanya. Sobrang bait mo kasi... (tama ba tong sinasabi ko?) Hahaha... Peace tayo...

[sHoCkAbSoRbEr]

I just learned from my friend this morning na yung (ex)bf nya is going steady with the other girl na daw...

How tragic! My friend seems to be losing her senses again...

Ano na ngayon ang kailangan gawin ng friend ko? Dapat pa ba nya kausapin yung other girl since nag-promise yung other girl na hindi na daw nya kakausapin yung (ex)bf nya tapos bigla na lang naging sila???

Advise naman dyan! Hehehe... Thanks...

[kimpOy]

shock,
eto lang mapapayo ko. eto rin ang pinapayo ko dati pa, works like a charm.

SUFFERING IS OPTIONAL.

she can choose to suffer, the hell i care but its optional.
she can choose not to suffer also, i can type all day saying this and saying that but in the end she makes the decision.

suffer or not...

i've chosen the latter before and im reaping what i sow now.

goodluck na lang kamo.

again its her choice

[OTEP]

Parang yan din ang payo ni kim sakin dati, ha? And yes, it does work! Even though it took me almost two years to make it work, I still managed to pull it off.

[gretzy]

shock, please share this with ur friend...

i have a friend, he met this guy at the library (actually magkakilala na sila coz they've been classmates na in a subject) they talk, tapos ang saya daw ng usapan nila, tapos nung paalis na sila nag-offer ung guy na samahan sya paglakad papunta sa next, sinabi nung guy na 6 yrs na sila ng gf nya, tapos matagal na daw sya nacucute-an sa friend ko, they exchange numbers. Kinikilkig ung friend ko, crush nya daw pero aminado sya na di na pwede . nasundan pa un ng ilang meetings nila sa campus just to chat...

tapos after two weeks, d guy told him that they broke up, becoz of alot of things n also becoz he's falling for my friend...

my friend is falling for him too, tho feeling guilty she still went out with him after that. they look so in love n we got the chance to meet him n hang-out with him,he's a good person, friendly n sobrang alaga sa friend ko. 2 months have passed n they become so`much more in love, pero hindi pa rin sila...

tapos last week, my friend told us, na kwinento daw ng guy sa kanya na nung nagbreak sila ng gf nya, ung girl ang nakipagbreak, tapos he tried to win her back pero ayaw na ng girl, tapos nakikipagbalikan daw gf nya, kaya naguguluhan na sya kc may feelings pa din sya sa exgf nya, pero mahal nya din friend ko, binigyan sya ng time ko na mag-isip, dumistansya na sya n she told me that she is just waiting for him to say goodbye even if he loves him so much...

kawawa nga eh

[carloi]

Di tama ang naiinlove sa ibang tao kapag nasa relationship ka na. Kahit sino pa man ang nanglandi. Isipin mo na lang kapag mag asawa na sila ni bf at me ibang babae nanaman na lumandi sa kanya. Eh di confused nanaman sya. Hina naman nya.

[WiReTaP]

hmmm... this seems to be an interesting topic! let me tell you a story... this is between me and my boyfriend. (hope he doesn't read this! hahaha). here it goes...

my boyfriend and i are going steady for 6 years.. turning 7 this year. lahat ng nababasa ko dito is true, and actually happened to us. different instances/situations nga lang. Last break up namen, na-involve siya with this girl -- or almost all of our break up eh girl ang reason. nag-break kami non for 3 months, i did all the necessary thing to do - avoid him.. lahat ng calls ni-reject ko, and i was partying with my girl friends almost every night kahit weekdays. it went on for 3 months... my reason? obvious, siya nagpapakasaya tapos ako malulungkot? no way! i was really ready to face the world. so yun, nagpapakasaya ako pero behind the happy face is the emptiness inside. tiniis ko yon.

to make the long story short, engaged na kami ngayon. and yung naging gf nya nung hindi kami knows... pero she still calls him and niyayaya siya sa gimik. that girl is what i define as B-I-T-C-H-! eh kung matino ba naman yung girl, alam na yung guy eh may GF, papatulan mo ba naman yun? I wouldn't. Pero here's the interesting part, yung bf ko, still, sumasama pa ren sa gimik nung bitch na yun! sabi ko nga, kung girl lang yung bf ko, eh bitch din siya... I agree dun sa sinasabi ng iba dito sa thread na it really depends on your bf also.

[WiReTaP]

Suggest ko dun sa friend mo, iwasan na niya yung guy... i mean, wag siya magpramdam for a period of time... no communication or whatever. then magtataka yung guy. mapa-praning yun. tell your friend na ubusin na lang niya ang time nya magpaganda... go to the salon, shop, bars or clubs... and kung may friend siya na friend din ng ex-bf niya, kwentuhan niya na nakikipagdate na siya, or may nanliligaw sa kanya... you'll be surprised na makakarating yun sa ex nya. ewan ko lang kung hindi ma-praning yun! he'll realize what he's lost and will surely make a way to win your friend back. alam mo naman ang mga lalaki, ayaw na naaapakan ang ego nila.

Basta, tell your friend na if the guy really loves her, babalik at babalik yan... and if the time comes na bumalik, then love pa ren naman ng friend mo yung guy, accept lang nya. wag na plastik!

[sHoCkAbSoRbEr]

Thanks po, kimpOy. Sasabihin ko to sa kanya, and I'm sure my friend will choose NOT to suffer...

OTEP, medyo nagising na yung friend ko ngayon and I think it will not take that long for her to recover. Masaya na nga sya ngayon and nakakakain na.

gretzy, at first, ok lang naman na lumabas yung friend mo with that taken guy, pero she should know her limitations. I, myself, go out with different guys na taken na, a lot of times actually, na of course sila nagyaya sa kin, but when I feel na medyo nagugustuhan ako nung guy, like when I feel like he's kinda flirting na, eh I keep distant na. Sorry but masama lang loob ko sa mga ganyang klaseng girl because of what happened to my friend...

carloi, yun na nga eh. Nakaka-turn off nga yung (ex)bf ng friend ko. Sobrang hina ng loob. Sobrang tanga. Sobrang hindi marunong mag-isip. At nagpadala sa temptation. Kawawa nga, eh. I think masisira ang buhay ng (ex)bf ng friend ko kung hindi sya mag-mamature. Walang patutunguhan ang buhay nung ex kung ganun sya... Pity...

WiReTaP, Iniiwasan na nga ng friend ko yung (ex) nya since Jan 1. I can see in her eyes na life is back again... Sana tuloy-tuloy na yun. And I think kaya naman nya. And medyo open na sya on accepting suitors. Nabasa ko nga laman ng celfone nya, puro guys na nagbibigay ng advices and cheering her up... Ang question ko lang sayo, how much do you trust your bf? engaged na kayo, right?

[WiReTaP]

WiReTaP, Iniiwasan na nga ng friend ko yung (ex) nya since Jan 1. I can see in her eyes na life is back again... Sana tuloy-tuloy na yun. And I think kaya naman nya. And medyo open na sya on accepting suitors. Nabasa ko nga laman ng celfone nya, puro guys na nagbibigay ng advices and cheering her up... Ang question ko lang sayo, how much do you trust your bf? engaged na kayo, right? [/B]

hahaha... nice question... honestly, I don't trust him...BUT, i am trying to... he knows also na i don't trust him... what he's doing now is he's trying to gain my trust back. alam nya na lahat ng sinasabi niya saken na nag-aagree lang ako pero hindi ako naniniwala... funny no.. i know in your mind you're asking, eh bakit pa ako nag-stay sa relationship kung walang trust? that's what you call L-O-V-E. hehehe

[sHoCkAbSoRbEr]

L-O-V-E? hehehe...

Oo nga siguro. Ngayon naiintindihan ko na yung mga napapanood ko sa movies...

[zero]

ok na rin yung nangyari sa friend mo.
at least, hindi pa sila kasal at may mga anak (yun ang mahirap).
think it as a blessing for her.