MEN: Social Class and Education NOT a Factor in Choosing a GF/Wife?

[bloowolf]

Your Mom is extremely reasonable naman. I don't think any parent would want their daughter (or son) to have a partner na walang pera at may sabit. My Kuya is going on wife no 3 and even our own family thinks he is not a good catch. We are puzzled where he finds these women, ang nakaka shock pa the specs keeps on getting better

May exception pala, yung parents ng Paulinian friend ko, walang pera BF niya and works a blue collar job in middle east and yet he was accepted by the family kasi mabait. Unfortunately, I think my friend being "angat" sa kanya in all aspects made him insecure kaya they broke up. Yung Paulinian friend ko kasi, she says they struggled before financially and only recently became comfortable. I guess kaya her parents were understanding of her BF siguro umaasa sila he'll come around



In my post above, I said na so far the guys I dated my family likes naman. Hindi naman aabot sa ipapakila ko sa family ko kung alam kong hindi magugustuhan. Pero there were instances na akala ko perfect na pero may na comment pa hahaha! However, there are also cases na my family likes but I don't like, siyempre on the surface the guy seems perfect but they don't know what happens behind closed doors.

My point exactly. If there is one person who’d know the partner inside-out, it’ll be you, right? Imagine mo, your bf is Luke Espiritu, not a great looker, not great skin, moreno, not great teeth. Pag intro mo sa family mo, marami silang pintas at nakikita. Ayaw nila. What’s next?


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[uls]

ayan buti nagiging malinaw na = naatrract kayo sa personality at character.

Buti naman lumabas din katotohanan. Makipag date na kayo hahaha

parang kailan lang may nabasa ako kailangan makapal ang buhok (di pwede panot / male pattern baldness)

maganda ngipin, 6 footer

huwag ka maniwala it's only about personality/character

[uls]

in certain societies, huwag kayo maniwala looks don't matter

it matters a lot

when all your friends married tall, handsome tisoys

you don't wanna be seen with a guy who looks like your driver

in certain societies, grabe mamintas mga tao

[dr. d]

Some truth in this. In hs & college, we always had to have the best looking gfs but surprisingly, a lot in my batch didn’t end up with the lookers. They married those they felt are very caring & nurturing.


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when one buys a wife for eight cows, one may actually end up with an eight-cow wife.
and conversely, if one buys an eight-cow wife, one might end up with a one-goat wife.

what will i choose,
a trophy wife,
or a practical wife?
in his song, andrew e took it to the extreme.

heh heh.

[dr. d]

In my case, it just so happened that the alpha males I know are good looking and successful, .

perhaps it's, "the alpha males i ADMIRE, are good looking and successful..."

perhaps these alpha males are successful because they are good looking...?

perhaps they seem to behave alpha because they are good looking?

are there alpha males out there that one sees, but not interested in knowing, because they are not good lookin? not successful enough?

would one be attracted to an alpha male who looks like gringott?

ang daming permutations to consider.

[Egan101]

Ay bahala kayo dyan, Basta ako gusto ko maganda asawa ko. Sarap Kaya pakinggan kapag sinabi na “Ganda naman ng asawa mo”.

Di naman ako mayaman na makakasungkit ng haciendera or magnate’s daughter. Hahaha


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[uls]

sa chinese community nga ung akala mo ayaw ng mga magulang sa pinay pero pag napakagandang pinay ang pinakilala mo sa parents nagbabago ang isip hehe

[viper888]

Not always

Their basis will simply be "How will she be as a mother?"

[_Cathy_]

My point exactly. If there is one person who’d know the partner inside-out, it’ll be you, right? Imagine mo, your bf is Luke Espiritu, not a great looker, not great skin, moreno, not great teeth. Pag intro mo sa family mo, marami silang pintas at nakikita. Ayaw nila. What’s next?


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My family will like Luke Espiritu because he is intelligent, well educated, articulate and comes from a good family. Yes, they will comment on the looks because my paternal Lola as much as possible wants us to marry Spanish blood because our blood is so diluted na. I don't really consider that because even in my teens and 20s that would have shrunk my dating pool so much. My Mom is only particular with height (may karapatan naman siya because my Dad is tall) Also, my family does NOT like lawyers but Luke is a KIND lawyer. I think very Darwininian yung family ko na they want to maintain or improve the genes, practical lang.

How could they complain e malalahian kami ng matalino na alpha [emoji14] Luke Espiritu is such a good catch OMG!!! Also, I think he looks good naman, his skin and teeth aren't that bad.

I think I posted this na but this is my Paulinian friend's comment on my Dad, na amuse naman ako hahaha

perhaps it's, "the alpha males i ADMIRE, are good looking and successful..."

perhaps these alpha males are successful because they are good looking...?

perhaps they seem to behave alpha because they are good looking?

are there alpha males out there that one sees, but not interested in knowing, because they are not good lookin? not successful enough?

would one be attracted to an alpha male who looks like gringott?

ang daming permutations to consider.

Luke Espiritu is short and average looking but he is very very much alpha male

[Egan101]

If you’re a single lady in your late 30s or early 40s, halos limited na dating or marrying options mo. Baka sobra ka mapili na Di ka naman madating sa iba.

Unless of course your like Son Ye Jin who happen to get a big hunk like Hyun Bin.

Baka maging bitter ka lang and trapped in your fantasies. May ibang friends yung misis ko na ganyan. Good luck finding your dream guy!


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[misseksaherada]

OT: 30s na din kasi ako..
Ako hindi ako mag-aasawa kung hindi naman ako mas sasaya sa current single life ko..
Ang hirap isuko ng freedom ko and ewan ko masarap maging single.. Baka siguro hindi lang ako flexible sa mas marami pang responsibility ng pag-aasawa..
Dahil ba selfish ako.. [emoji28]
Hmmmm [emoji848]
Nahihirapan kasi ako timbangin ang pros and cons ng single life at married life.. Sobrang kumportable kasi maging single, dahil siguro living with the parents pa ako..

[kagalingan]

cathey,

ang sinasabi paano sa una kita wala idea sa background. Purely sa looks lang.

Tingnan mo ako direcho puro looks at kung magaling bumiJ.

May kilala ako babae kasal na, puro selfie kaso hindi kasama asawa. Mga inaasahan ko hindi mapanglait eh nanglait. Yung lalake utak sa utak top notch maganda trabaho. Pero mapanglait talaga tao may eerie silence pag binangiit nya gwapong-gwapo hahaha!!!!

Usually babae na may asawa hindi pleasing to the eyes lagi magisa sa picture

#selfieforever

[_Cathy_]

I wish people would be more kind and not assume that a person is single kasi sobrang taas ng standards or choosy hindi naman juicy.

I'm single but my standards are not unrealistic because I've been in several relationships and ALL are obviously failures. Who wants to be that jaded? I acknowledge that I am the problem. I think it stems from several tragedies in my youth which caused me psychological damage. I don't even tell people kasi ayoko kina aawaan ako so I hope people will be more kind, because you don't know what a person has been through that caused him or her to become who he or she is. Kaya when I get a job I will seek professional help na because I need to fix myself.

Ang masasabi ko na high standard yung NBSB office bff ko kasi mahilig sa guapo at successful, pero according to my ex and manyak officemate wala siyang appeal. Pero office BFF ko she doesn't care anymore if she does not get married or have children.

[uls]

cathey,

ang sinasabi paano sa una kita wala idea sa background. Purely sa looks lang.

Tingnan mo ako direcho puro looks at kung magaling bumiJ.

tanongin mo kasi kunwari di nila kilala si luke espiritu tapos lumapit sa kanila gusto makipag kilala

as if i-entertain nila

haha

[Little Missy]

Ako I'm not picky in terms of school, looks or social class kasi realistic ako, okay na ako sa kalevel ko lang. I want to be comfortable being myself and that's hard kung lagi kang naaalangan (nung mas bata ako, I would get hit on by popular good looking guys sa work and neighborhood but I would ignore them kasi feeling ko hindi kami bagay and paglalaruan lang nila ako). Pero picky ako sa character, yung I know na he will do the right thing even when no one is watching. Doesn't mean he won't make mistakes pero he acknowledges it and tries to be better.

That said I've already accepted the possibility of growing old single. It's not the best scenario but it's better than settling with someone na hindi ka emotionally secured. Narealize ko ito when I broke up with the last guy I dated seriously. Yung feeling na mas gusto ko pang maging single than being in that relationship.

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[_Cathy_]

OT: 30s na din kasi ako..
Ako hindi ako mag-aasawa kung hindi naman ako mas sasaya sa current single life ko..
Ang hirap isuko ng freedom ko and ewan ko masarap maging single.. Baka siguro hindi lang ako flexible sa mas marami pang responsibility ng pag-aasawa..
Dahil ba selfish ako.. [emoji28]
Hmmmm [emoji848]
Nahihirapan kasi ako timbangin ang pros and cons ng single life at married life.. Sobrang kumportable kasi maging single, dahil siguro living with the parents pa ako..

Naramdaman ko how hard it is to be single when my elders started having age related health issues na, especially satin na only child, mahirap magasikaso mag isa at lahat din ng burden na sa iyo, not even financially but emotionally.

cathey,

ang sinasabi paano sa una kita wala idea sa background. Purely sa looks lang.

Tingnan mo ako direcho puro looks at kung magaling bumiJ.

May kilala ako babae kasal na, puro selfie kaso hindi kasama asawa. Mga inaasahan ko hindi mapanglait eh nanglait. Yung lalake utak sa utak top notch maganda trabaho. Pero mapanglait talaga tao may eerie silence pag binangiit nya gwapong-gwapo hahaha!!!!

Usually babae na may asawa hindi pleasing to the eyes lagi magisa sa picture

#selfieforever

Pero wala naman tayo sa aquarium na looks lang ang basis, you will ALWAYS get to know the person's background. Meron ba naman na dahil pangit tatalikuran mo na, of course you would be polite enough to at least make small conversation.

Assuming this was in our teens or 20s, nasa bar magpapakilala si Luke (kinikilig ako LOL), kakausapin ko pa rin kahit hindi ko type ang maliit, normal ice breaker, what's his full name, where does he study and live, do we have friends in common. Luke is articulate and he's Atenean so I will give him a chance :P

As if naman, Luke will even give me the time of day but that is a nice thought HAHAHA

[misseksaherada]

Hindi ako maka-edit ng mahabang quote sa mobile app ng Tsikot.. Nawawala yung quote..
Agree ako dyan Ms. Cathy.. Mahirap nga satin na only child, kapag nahihirapan din ako dun ko lang naiisip na kailangan ko ng katuwang.. Pero during tough times lang pero kung susumahin ko, parang mas masarap pa din maging single.. [emoji28]
Sa work kasi, grabe stress ko sa mga kateam ko na lalaki.. Ewan ko ba, di ko alam kung gustong-gusto ata nila na nagagalit ako tapos patatawanin na lang (madali kasi ako pasayahin).. Pero at the end of the day kailangan ko ng results!!
Pasensya na pero nagi-generalize ko tuloy yung mga lalaki. Pero crush ko naman boss ko ngayon (may asawa na, Indian).. Nasaan na ba yung mga lalaking matino, naubos na ba kasi lahat sila maagang nakapag-asawa..
[emoji1787][emoji1787][emoji1787]

[_Cathy_]

Hindi ako maka-edit ng quote sa mobile app ng Tsikot.. Nawawala yung quote..
Agree ako dyan Ms. Cathy.. Mahirap nga satin na only child, kapag nahihirapan din ako dun ko lang naiisip na kailangan ko ng katuwang.. Pero during tough times lang pero kung susumahin ko, parang mas masarap pa din maging single.. [emoji28]
Sa work kasi, grabe stress ko sa mga kateam ko na lalaki.. Ewan ko ba, di ko alam kung gustong-gusto ata nila na nagagalit ako tapos patatawanin na lang (madali kasi ako pasayahin).. Pero at the end of the day kailangan ko ng results!!
Pasensya na pero nagi-generalize ko tuloy yung mga lalaki. Pero crush ko naman boss ko ngayon (may asawa na, Indian).. Nasaan na ba yung mga lalaking matino, naubos na ba kasi lahat sila maagang nakapag-asawa..
[emoji1787][emoji1787][emoji1787]

Scientific fact that married men live longer than single men. I guess dahil nature na natin mga babae mag alaga. I also see that sa mga babae sa family namin, taga ayos ng doctor's appointment, cooking healthy food, pati damit nga minsan sila pa bumibili.

[Little Missy]

Assuming this was in our teens or 20s, nasa bar magpapakilala si Luke (kinikilig ako LOL), kakausapin ko pa rin kahit hindi ko type ang maliit, normal ice breaker, what's his full name, where does he study and live, do we have friends in common. Luke is articulate and he's Atenean so I will give him a chance [emoji14]

As if naman, Luke will even give me the time of day but that is a nice thought HAHAHA

Young Luke Espiritu is just about my type physically. Pero pag nalaman kong law student sa Ateneo I'd be like "why is this guy talking to me?" HAHAHA.

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[bloowolf]

OT: 30s na din kasi ako..
Ako hindi ako mag-aasawa kung hindi naman ako mas sasaya sa current single life ko..
Ang hirap isuko ng freedom ko and ewan ko masarap maging single.. Baka siguro hindi lang ako flexible sa mas marami pang responsibility ng pag-aasawa..
Dahil ba selfish ako.. [emoji28]
Hmmmm [emoji848]
Nahihirapan kasi ako timbangin ang pros and cons ng single life at married life.. Sobrang kumportable kasi maging single, dahil siguro living with the parents pa ako..

Yung friends ko na gaya mo, tinatanong ko kung open silang mag adopt.ikaw ba? Your thoughts on adopting?


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