Loving the wrong person

[_Cathy_]

^^^ Are you a psychic? How did you know that the guy is successful? Kasi naman successful guys are a rareity nowadays (self made hindi asa sa parents).

Honestly I never befriended him because I was attracted to him. I just found myself attracted to him after I got to know him better. I feel like such a big w%*re!

[mbeige]

So it seems you got attracted to him not just because of his looks, but because you found out he is a self-made man. That tells you he will find means to support you in your "what if" scenario...

I'm no psychic, really.

[_Cathy_]

What what if scenario?

Self made, handy man, SUPER patient, mature and maalaga. Rareity talaga.

[mbeige]

You know, since you're attracted to him, you think what if nagkatuluyan kayo, or something. That kind of "what if" scenario, as in your dreams, since he's your dream guy...

[_Cathy_]

Akala ko mistress. hehe. Yeah I daydream about that sometimes but I only end up getting hurt. I wonder if married people get attracted to single people pa rin.

[Jun aka Pekto]

It's an interesting question.

I mean I spent a lot of time girl-watching and that included hot mamas who were married. But, love didn't really figure in any of them because I intentionally kept myself from knowing such women too well. There's some lines that I won't cross. Going after a married woman (even when I was still single) was one such line. It's a no-no, pure and simple.

[russpogi]

I just enjoy reading threads like this! :popcorn:

[_Cathy_]

^^^ Give your opinion na rin on my dilemma hehe

[n2knee]

some questions you have to ask yourself are what does he feel about you? how will your friendship be affected? how much do you value your friendship?

[morrissey_05]

madam,

i think you've idealized that guy too much. he is human and has weaknesses too.

to answer your last question, yes married people can be attracted to single people. but the question is, do you really want him to be attracted to you and risk falling into something you dont want to fall into?

i think it would be better to let the feelings go, but keep the friendship. if keeping the friendship is too hard, let that go na rin.

if you are serious about bringing your relationship to a whole new level, then be prepared for the consequences. but if i were you, and based on my experience, don't cross that line. never.

like jun pekto says, some lines are not meant to be crossed, ever.