Long Distance Relationships

[ckj289]

if you're married or engaged and have a super-strong relationship i believe you can make it work for a year or two...but for young adults this kind of arrangement has all of the disadvantages with none of the advantages.

I just turned 20 when i came to australia. GF ko pa lang nun ung wife ko ngayon. Kaya nga ang sabi ko is talagang sobrang hirap... Pero worth it kung tama at mahal mo talaga ung person... haaay naku parang MMK na tuloy ang dating nitong thread na ito....hehehehehehehe...

[Jun aka Pekto]

if you're married or engaged and have a super-strong relationship i believe you can make it work for a year or two...but for young adults this kind of arrangement has all of the disadvantages with none of the advantages.

We all went through that phase. But when you're older and ready to settle down, you'll know if she's worthwhile enough to keep a long-distance relationship with. I never believed in long distance relationships until I met my wife and knew she was worth it.

[oldblue]

had that kind of a relationship back in college. first few months to a year, it's so painful at nakaka-miss. more than 2 years of that, pikang-pika na ako sa mga na-eencounter ko sa daan pag ginagabi ako umuuwi. yun tipong tulog na lahat, nasa daan pa din ako. how I hated that so much!

pero hindi yun "distance" na yun ang naging dahilan ng break-up. she went to Europe for 3 months with our university's choir, mga "songer" kasi eh hehehe
pagbalik nya hindi ko na sinundo sa airport at sobrang nagdahilan ako na kesyo na hindi ko nakuha message, sobrang busy sa work and all those alibis.

she called me one day again and threatened me for a break-up kapag hindi ako pumunta sa kanila. and so ayun na naman, pumunta na naman ako sa long distance na bahay nila hehehe. pagdating ko dun, galit sya umiiyak hindi na ko gano kinausap at tinalikuran na ko. tapos lumabas kuya niya na tinatakot ako na bumalik na lang daw ako dun pag ready na ako sa relationship namin, tapos bahagya pa ako tinulak palabas ng gate.

sabi ko sa kuya in a sad face: "bakit ganito nangyari samin? sige kuya babalik na ako pag-ready na ko". at kunwari nakayuko na lang ako pasakay ng tsikot. pagsakay ko sa tsikot, I had this sad face, looked into the mirror, then smiled, and shouted "yahoo!" and I was punching the wheel, the dash ! hehehe and that was the happiest late night travel pauwi sa bahay from their house of them all!


2 weeks later, tinawagan niya ako. bakit daw hindi man lang ako tumatawag. sabi ko as usual busy sa work. then galit na galit sya at inamin nya na nagka-relasyun daw sya sa isang choir member sa 3 month stay nila sa Europe. natigilan ako at sabi ko medyo sumama pakiramdam ko, I'll call you back sabi ko. 2 weeks hindi pa din ako call back, and she called, sabi nya magpapakasal na daw siya. a year later, nagpakasal nga.

labo nun pina-guilty pa ko ng husto eh sya din pala natukso while far far away ... niweys, i had the feeling na naman talaga even before sa school pa eh, may tinutukso na sa kanya habang nagkakantahan sila. d ko lang ma-pinpoint kung sino.

[Flagg]

she called me one day again and threatened me for a break-up kapag hindi ako pumunta sa kanila. and so ayun na naman, pumunta na naman ako sa long distance na bahay nila hehehe. pagdating ko dun, galit sya umiiyak hindi na ko gano kinausap at tinalikuran na ko. tapos lumabas kuya niya na tinatakot ako na bumalik na lang daw ako dun pag ready na ako sa relationship namin, tapos bahagya pa ako tinulak palabas ng gate.

sabi ko sa kuya in a sad face: "bakit ganito nangyari samin? sige kuya babalik na ako pag-ready na ko". at kunwari nakayuko na lang ako pasakay ng tsikot. pagsakay ko sa tsikot, I had this sad face, looked into the mirror, then smiled, and shouted "yahoo!" and I was punching the wheel, the dash ! hehehe and that was the happiest late night travel pauwi sa bahay from their house of them all!

Sir oldblue, dapat nag-kiss & make-up ka muna bago ka umalis... yun bang since songer sya e, kanta sya with your mic...

Btw, masaya naman mag-drive sa gabi a. Wala kasabay at ang biliisss!!!

[oldblue]

Sir oldblue, dapat nag-kiss & make-up ka muna bago ka umalis... yun bang since songer sya e, kanta sya with your mic...

Btw, masaya naman mag-drive sa gabi a. Wala kasabay at ang biliisss!!!

if there's one thing I learned from the past, mas gusto ko sinasayawan ako instead na kinakantahan ako to express her affections

[Flagg]

if there's one thing I learned from the past, mas gusto ko sinasayawan ako instead na kinakantahan ako to express her affections

Naku, yan yung di mo makuha sa long distance relationship...

[Gumusut_Amige]

buti na lang may skype ngayon... kailangan talaga ng will power. dami talagang tukso

[margaux]

been there. he was from bacolod and i was in ilocos at that time. mahirap lang kasi yung malayo kayo sa isa't isa. e syempre you would need naman yung presence ng isa't isa.

[the_wildthing]

Physical and emotional presence will make a relationship grow. Without it, well...

Those who made it through are lucky.

Been down that road before...

[GlennSter]

i WAS the president of anti-long distance relationships =p

but then as i grow older and having several relationships, i also grew tired of just playing around then being hurt again and again. settling down is my main priority right now.it changed from having this car..having this bigger turbo...having this bigger exhaust diameter..having this bigger rims...to having this small house with a big garden.having 3 kids, 2 guys and a girl...having to give them the best education a child can have,....

right now,my gf is in the philippines, and i am in canada. It's not that bad really if both of us are busy. she has her business and ill be in school again soon. We talk about settling down and i believe that she's ready to do so. I, on the other hand, isnt ready financially yet since im just starting a new life here. but as soon as I have enough moolah to settle down here (people don't really need to be rich to be married here..just a stable income can support a family), i plan to marry her asap and bring her here.

i really dont wanna speak badly about ldr's that didnt work. but maybe, it didnt work because of immature perceptions of love...of relationships. When we were young, we think of how often we should talk on the phone...sweet text messages...a big hug everynight...physical intimacy...and all those mushy cooshy stuff.

But a relationship can widthstand everything if everything is geared towards attaining a future...a goal of having a family. having kids.having a life together. go to the bank together. buy furnitures for the house. talk about business and jobs.who should do the laundry. who should buy the groceries.going to parent-teachers association meetings. talk about taxes.

call me an optimistic fool. but hey, thats one thing that no one can take away from me. she wanting to break up with me?not my loss. i am doing everything i can to keep the relationship alive. but me breaking up with her? not in my mind right now.lalo na ibang iba ang ugali ng mga caucasian kesa sa mga filipino when it comes to relationships.

[trix_p]

i WAS the president of anti-long distance relationships =p

but then as i grow older and having several relationships, i also grew tired of just playing around then being hurt again and again. settling down is my main priority right now.it changed from having this car..having this bigger turbo...having this bigger exhaust diameter..having this bigger rims...to having this small house with a big garden.having 3 kids, 2 guys and a girl...having to give them the best education a child can have,....

right now,my gf is in the philippines, and i am in canada. It's not that bad really if both of us are busy. she has her business and ill be in school again soon. We talk about settling down and i believe that she's ready to do so. I, on the other hand, isnt ready financially yet since im just starting a new life here. but as soon as I have enough moolah to settle down here (people don't really need to be rich to be married here..just a stable income can support a family), i plan to marry her asap and bring her here.

i really dont wanna speak badly about ldr's that didnt work. but maybe, it didnt work because of immature perceptions of love...of relationships. When we were young, we think of how often we should talk on the phone...sweet text messages...a big hug everynight...physical intimacy...and all those mushy cooshy stuff.

But a relationship can widthstand everything if everything is geared towards attaining a future...a goal of having a family. having kids.having a life together. go to the bank together. buy furnitures for the house. talk about business and jobs.who should do the laundry. who should buy the groceries.going to parent-teachers association meetings. talk about taxes.

call me an optimistic fool. but hey, thats one thing that no one can take away from me. she wanting to break up with me?not my loss. i am doing everything i can to keep the relationship alive. but me breaking up with her? not in my mind right now.lalo na ibang iba ang ugali ng mga caucasian kesa sa mga filipino when it comes to relationships.

this is nice... so nice

[chris_d]

hmmm... :D

[GlennSter]

diko na matandaan na sinulat ko yan ah..bwahrharhar...

still..the post stands. =p

[empy]

^iba nga ugali ng caucasian (at latina)....pero ok silang pantawid gutom :naughty2:

(sana hindi ito mabasa ng GF mo :hihihi: )

[cablespy]

ldr mahirap. wala kasi physical involvement. sa babae ok lang ata yun.

[Wouie]

napakahirap talaga ng magkalayo kayo. I remember few years ago na gumagastos ako ng up to P6000 sa isang araw sa pagtawag sa telepono lalo na pag nag-aaway kayo. Haaay ang hirap talaga!

[Jun aka Pekto]

My wife and I were penpals for 3 years before I went to the Philippines and married her. But, I had met her before after I had finished HS in RP and was attending college in Mapua (her aunt was my babysitter here in the US when I was young). She was just starting HS. So, she was definitely off limits back then. But, she was a hottie even at that young age.

Anyway, almost 10 years passed from the last time I saw my (future) wife and the time I made the trip to the Philippines to marry her. I had an ex-gf in Oklahoma for 4 of those years. After I had broke up with the ex and started corresponding with my wife, I decided then and there to keep the new relationship going no matter what.

It obviously worked out for us in the end. It was trying and hard. There certainly were a lot of temptations. All the time I was corresponding with my wife, her caucasian (not much Pinay features showed up in them) cousins in Nevada kept trying to set me up with their friends. There I was trying to hold on to a long-distance relationship and there's my wife's cousins trying to ruin it. There were times when I had to literally clench both fists and cross my legs because the temptation to date some of the women my wife's cousins brought with them was so great (especially one petite, slender, auburn hair, gray-eyed beauty, saaaayaaang tsk tsk ). But, I survived even that.

Even so, my wife never felt comfortable living in Nevada among her cousins. That's probably why she was so happy when we moved to Arizona.

[BoEinG_747]

napakahirap talaga ng magkalayo kayo. I remember few years ago na gumagastos ako ng up to P6000 sa isang araw sa pagtawag sa telepono lalo na pag nag-aaway kayo. Haaay ang hirap talaga!

right Bro Wouie.mas magastos din pag nag aaway kayo ,kasi hindi ka din mapakali dahil meron kayo hindi napagkasunduan ,ang tendency mo ay tumawag uli ,habang nag tatalo kayo panay din andar ng bill ninyo
same here na experience ko gumastos ng 150$ dahil may pinagtalunan lang
hay minsan hirap mainlove

[ckj289]

mas magastos din pag nag aaway kayo ,kasi hindi ka din mapakali dahil meron kayo hindi napagkasunduan ,ang tendency mo ay tumawag uli ,habang nag tatalo kayo panay din andar ng bill ninyo

GALING!!! kuhang-kuha nyo ang mga naging experiences ko rin... Akala ko before ako lang ang ganito.... Marami pala tayo... Hehehehehe....

[seonadancing]

What's the use of having a relationship when you can't even hold her hand when you want to. You get what i mean? I guess it depends kung matagal na kayo then somebody had to move to another country. But kung bago lang, it would be very difficult to sustain. The temptation to be with another is just too strong.