LIVING-IN OR MARRIAGE

[gretzy]

yup, di ka pwede sa mga catholic iskol pag illigitimate.:mrgreen:

oo nga, ang unfair!

btw, di ko makita sig mo, wag ka testing d2 baka magalit mods. :wink:

[Kennon_road]

di makita?

sinubukan ko lang ilagay lang:mrgreen:
montypics lang ba pwede?

[Ungas]

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[Kennon_road]

salamat sir ungas, oks na , papaliitin ko mamya:mrgreen:

[gulliver]

kung ako naman, ayoko ng live-in. i've never tried it for the simple reason that i saw it as too serious, and too close to total commitment for comfort. i stayed unmarried for quite a while dahil ayoko nga yon eh! i wanted to be as free as i could be :lol:

for me, there are other ways to get to know each other without completely surrendering your "space" to another person. there are other ways to satisfy each other's needs w/o giving up too much personal "space".

living in provides other people a convenient(?) way to satisfy certain needs, w/o the formalities of marraige. but living-in is not a substitute for marraige, not even a compromise. pero, I have no problems with other people doing it, that's their business di ba? :wink: i just wouldn't do it myself.

what is probably more important is the relationship. for a relationship to work, both parties have to make it work! it's a lifelong process and requires COMMITMENT, and not just a matter of knowing each other. that's only part of it.

just my 2 cents

[yebo]

ung iba naman kc nabuntis na n di kayang pakasalan ng guy kaya live in muna.

mura lang ang civil wedding. before kami kinasal ng wife ko sa simbahan e nag-civil wedding muna kami. when she accepted my proposal we decided na pakasal muna sa "juez" before the church wedding kasi. total gastos namin wala pang P1500. then we lived together na, church wedding namin last january lang.

dami nga problema ng children pag hindi kasal and parents. gaya ng sinabi ni kennon na di pwede sa catholic school and family name ng mother ang dala ng bata. then there's the stigma of being called a bastard, trauma yun para sa child ha. then later on questions din sa inheritance ng estate ng father. kahit na acknowledge siya na anak kasi pirmado ng father ang birth certificate problema pa rin yan.

it may just be a piece of paper to some people but believe me iba ang feeling ng asawa mo na yung kasama mo sa kama matulog. kahit ilang sleep-overs at ano pang pre-marital *** ang dinaanan nyo at na-master nyo na ang kamasutra, ibang-iba ang feeling talaga the night after the wedding, and ever after that. sa akin, may peace of mind, total na yun trust at wala ng kaba. iba rin ang yakap ni misis, relaxed siya, content, happy. kung mahal mo talaga ang partner mo dapat lang na ibigay mo yun sa kanya di ba.

[pnay_fickle_minded]

very well said YEBO....

iba nga ang feeling coz there is security.... sana when u marry, sya na talaga.. some marries bec of child lang eh.... i know few men married their wives bec of their kid, but they`re not happy... May isa naman he fell inlove with the other girl and now he wants to get out of his relationship with his wife coz he really loves the other girl... kasi naman daw di naman talaga planado ang kasal nila before eh, for the sake of the kid lang, and they were too young pa non...... hay nako guys talaga

[Kennon_road]

pinay, that means yung lalake ay hindi dapat pagkatiwalaan, pano kung may makita uli siyang ibang babae na mas love niya uli eh di iiwanan na naman yung current love niya.
alibi niya lang yun di planado kasal na rason, ayaw na niya lang talaga yung asawa niya.
:|

[pnay_fickle_minded]

yun nga eh... dapat pag pinakasalan, sya na talaga.... panindigan lang di ba... kaso d question is, what if both of u are not happy anymore?... life is complicated nga... parang walang contentment

[Kennon_road]

kaya dapat may malakas ang foundation ng magasawa, para maiwasan yang hiwalayan
eh may communication, respeto at pagmamahal sa isat isa, marriage life is not easy,
di pwedeng lagi smooth sailing, minsan normal yung away pero dapat inaayos agad.
For better or for bad times ika nga, di pwedeng pag bad times na eh hiwalayan na. Usually ang cause ng hiwalayan eh yung may third party, pwedeng yung lalake eh naakit ng ibang babae or talagang babaero talaga, vice versa sa babae din.

[pnay_fickle_minded]

GOD should be the center of your relationship.... :lol:

[Kennon_road]

My husband is an Engineer by profession, I love him for his
steady nature, and I love the warm feeling when I lean against his
broad shoulders.

Three years of courtship and now, two years into marriage, I
would have to admit, that I am getting tired of it. The reasons of
me loving him before, has now transformed into the cause of all my
restlessness.

I am a sentimental woman and extremely sensitive when it comes to
a relationship and my feelings, I yearn for the romantic moments, like a
little girl yearning for candy. My husband, is my complete opposite, his
lack of sensitivity, and the inability of bringing
romantic moments into our marriage has disheartened me about love.

One day, I finally decided to tell him my decision, that I
wanted a divorce.

"Why?" he asked, shocked.
"I am tired, there are no reasons for everything in the world!" I
answered.
He kept silent the whole night, seems to be in deep thought
with a lighted cigarette at all times.
My feeling of disappointment only increased, here was a man
who can't even express his predicament, what else can I hope from him?
And finally he asked me:" What can I do to change your mind?"

Somebody said it right, it's hard to change a person's
personality, and I guess, I have started losing faith in him.
Looking deep into his eyes I slowly answered : "Here is
the question, if you can answer and convince my heart, I will change my
mind, Let's say, I want a flower located on the face of a mountain
cliff, and we both are sure that picking the flower will cause your
death,
will you do it for me?"
He said :" I will give you your answer tomorrow...."
My hopes just sank by listening to his response.

I woke up the next morning to find him gone, and saw a piece
of paper with his scratchy handwriting, underneath a milk
glass, on the dining table near the front door, that goes....
My dear, "I would not pick that flower for you, but please
allow me to explain the reasons further.."
This first line was already breaking my heart. I continued
reading.

"When you use the computer you always mess up the Software
programs, and you cry in front of the screen, I have to save
my fingers so that I can help to restore the programs.
You always leave the house keys behind, thus I have to save
my legs to rush home to open the door for you.
You love traveling but always lose your way in a new city, I
have to save my eyes to show you the way.
You always have the cramps whenever your "good friend"
approaches every month, I have to save my palms so that I
can calm the cramps in your tummy.

You like to stay indoors, and I worry that you will be
infected by infantile autism. I have to save my mouth to tell you
jokes and stories to cure your boredom.
You always stare at the computer, and that will do nothing
good for your eyes, I have to save my eyes so that when we grow
old, I can help to clip your nails, and help to remove those annoying
white hairs. So I can also hold your hand while strolling down the
beach, as you enjoy the sunshine and the beautiful sand... and tell
you the color of flowers, just like the color of the glow on your young
face...
Thus, my dear, unless I am sure that there is someone who
loves you more than I do... I could not pick that flower yet, and
die.. "

My tears fell on the letter, and blurred the ink of his
handwriting... and as I continue on reading...
"Now, that you have finished reading my answer, if you are
satisfied, please open the front door for I am standing
outside bringing your favorite bread and fresh milk...
I rush to pull open the door, and saw his anxious face,
clutching tightly with his hands, the milk bottle and loaf of
bread....

Now I am very sure that no one will ever love me as much as
he does, and I have decided to leave the flower alone...

That's life, and love. When one is surrounded by love, the
feeling of excitement fades away, and one tends to ignore
the true love that lies in between the peace and dullness.

Love shows up in all forms, even very small and cheeky forms,
it has never been a model, it could be the most dull and boring
form.. .
flowers, and romantic moments are only used and appear on
the surface of the relationship.
Under all this, the pillar of true love stands... and that's
our life... Love, not words win arguments...

[Ski_JeRZe]

okay lang ang live-in. . .

Right after hubby and I got engaged, nag-live-in kami for six months then we got married. Nong nag-live kami, may wedding date na kami.

[odell]

marraige.. hirap ng live in lang.. may lusot pa.haha. jokes!

[qman]

Im was a believer sa live in before, no hassle kapag nag end na ang relationship and downside lang eh because I knew na di naman kami kasal Im always looking for other ulam hehehe, kaya naging irresponsible ako at walang masyadong effort to work the relationship out pagka me problema.

[2004lynxghia]

ako kasi me mga nakikitang mga real life situationers..kasal nga sakalan naman nangyayari..live-in naman di naaayon sa pananalig ko bilang isang katoliko..

sakin importante parin ang sacrament of matrimony..simpleng buhay pag kinakapos..kunting bigay ng hilig pag nakakaraos..in short, live within your honest & God-fearing means..

[KCboy]

live in but no *** para hindi sabihin ng girl na linalamangan ko sya. live in is good so you both can see each other if ur meant together. dba sabi nila, only when u live together do u see the bad n the good of a person.

[hens]

live in but no *** para hindi sabihin ng girl na linalamangan ko sya. live in is good so you both can see each other if ur meant together. dba sabi nila, only when u live together do u see the bad n the good of a person.

KAYA mo YAn???? "no ***"???? LOL

[OTEP]

KCboy ikaw ba talaga iyan? hahaha.

[KCboy]

kayo talga...duda kayo sa powers ko.....cguro kung love ko talaga yung girl...i can wait. y kayo hindi???