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    May 31st, 2003 01:07 PM #1
    pero bakit parang sa ibang traditions ayaw ng ganito..

    hinde ba masama ito? :roll:
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    June 1st, 2003 04:49 PM #2
    i prefer live-in first.... dami nagseseperate pag kinasal na eh... at least ud have a chance of getting to know more of each other... may chance pa kayo kumalas if things didnt work out... saka na cguro marriage pag financially, physically, and emotionally stable na... but the prob is, papayagan ba ako ng parents ko if ever??? :cry:
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    June 1st, 2003 07:19 PM #3
    agree din ako, and living in is indeed a good way of getting to know ur partner.
    and if what you get to know is not to your liking, paano na? separate?

    why not change the question. how about "why not get to know each other well before jumping into bed?" or "do i love her/him enough that i will spend the rest of my life with her/him?"

    i believe a live-in relationship is one of the most selfish relationships. it offers an easy way out. it gives either party the reason not to be faithful, to wander about and "test" other relationships. dahilan kasi nyan eh "sus, live-in lang naman kami, libre pa ako". is this the kind of life you want?
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    June 1st, 2003 07:24 PM #4
    well, kung ganun man ang outlook nila sa living-in, then why live-in pa di ba kung may balak man kayong maging unfaithful... depende naman sa reasons and purpose nyo bakit kayo naglilive-in eh... one of the reasons is security... gusto makasiguro sa isa't isa... minsan, financial instability, di pa talaga kaya ng budget... depends nga sa reason nyo... IMHO
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    June 1st, 2003 08:16 PM #5
    don't know why, pero yung mga kakilala kung nag live-in, di rin sila ang nagkatuluyan, tapos nakipag live in uli sa ibang partner, tsk, trial and error yata ginawa eh.
    But i totally disagree sa live in, kasi main reason eh takot sila na baka pag kasal eh parang nakatali na sila, I mean kung sa lalake dapat ini intindi na niya yung magiging
    situation ng babae, kasi sa pinoy di magandang tignan sa babae na may ka live in pero pag sa lalake ay ok lang, maawa naman siya sa partner niya, kung lalake ka talaga eh panagutan mo na yung pagsasama niyo sa isang bubong.:|
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    June 1st, 2003 08:34 PM #6
    hindi reason na maging dahilan ang financial instability for 2 people to separate. remember that there are always other people who are in more desperate situations than you. yung nga mga nasa squater sa payatas nabubuhay tapos ikaw na naka-kotse at may regular salary hindi? huwag natin gawin na dahilan ang pera para iwanan mo ang mahal mo at nagmamahal sa iyo?

    kaya nga ang marriage is "for better of worse, richer or poorer..."

    ang live-in ano ba? is it "until i'm satisfied by your presence and only until then..." as i said, selfish.
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    June 1st, 2003 08:35 PM #7
    u have a point kuya.... kung magpapaka-tradisyonal nga tayo and moral, pangit nga ang live-in... Nasa guy nga yan, kelangan panindigan nya ang girl...
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    June 2nd, 2003 04:05 PM #8
    Quote Originally Posted by pnay_fickle_minded
    u have a point kuya.... kung magpapaka-tradisyonal nga tayo and moral, pangit nga ang live-in... Nasa guy nga yan, kelangan panindigan nya ang girl...
    Saka kung mahal ka talaga, di ka niya live in kasi parang pag ganung situation, pwede ka niyang iwan or may intention siyang iwanan ka.
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    June 2nd, 2003 04:16 PM #9
    my wife and i "lived-in" for eight years before eventually getting married.

    so what answer should i suppose to give? :roll:
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    June 2nd, 2003 04:55 PM #10
    I am against live-in. Ang hirap pumasok sa situation na tipong "testing muna". Para kumuha ka ng auto tapos after ilang kilometers of usage ay ayaw mo na kesyo di mo gusto yung ride (after mo iharurot at paiyakin ng makailang beses), poor performance, at ang malungkot sa lahat ay nakakita ka ng mas ok na modelo :cry: so eto ngayon soli mo na sa casa dahil ayaw mo na.

    kaya nga its best to know well your current partner before engaging into marriage. and kung papakasal ka kailangan ready ka tanggapin kahit ano pa siya at kanyang kakulangan dahil sempre mahal mo yung tao.
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    June 2nd, 2003 05:13 PM #11
    Given the situation na mahal nyo nga ang isa't-isa, balak nyo magpasakal. Eh kung yung ipinakita sayong ugali eh buong kabaligtaran pala ng kapartner mo? Let's just say he/she is thoughtful, kind, charming, sense of humor, hindi nagger.. etc, with all the good deeds that made you fall for that guy/gal. Then after marriage you found out a little of his/her history. Being nympho, clepto, and other negative stuffs. Would you still have him/her as a partner for life? Ofcourse these negatives won't be redeemed to you not until he/she are deeply involved with each other? Does live-in come in handy in this kind of situation? :idea:
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    June 2nd, 2003 07:58 PM #12
    iba ung level of commitmnent pag live-in lang, so basically iba din ang magiging samahan, mas loose n carefree, so it doesnt follow na kung click kau as live-in partners magiging ganon din aku pag nagpakasal. iba ung level of commitmnent pag live-in lang, so basically iba din ang magiging samahan, mas loose n carefree, so it doesnt follow na kung click kau as live-in partners magiging ganon din aku pag nagpakasal.
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    June 2nd, 2003 08:35 PM #13
    Level of commitments? Eh yung mag syota pa nga lang jump to wedding na kaagad...

    Dipende rin siguro sa mga taong involved sa pagiging live-in partners. Meron akong kilala they lived in for 10 years, bore children during their 5th year commitment then got married. So far wala akong nababalitaang hiwalayan. And they've been together for almost 18 years na.
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    June 3rd, 2003 04:09 AM #14
    yung si tita annabelle rama ina-advise nga ke ate ruffa dati wag muna pakasal... siya kasi nag-live in muna sila ni tito eddie gutierez for --i dont know how many years-- bago nagpakasal... la lang showbiz :mrgreen:

    basta depende sa outlook nyo sa buhay....
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    June 3rd, 2003 04:21 AM #15
    OK lang kahit anong set-up basta parehong may consent..... dito sa US walang problema dyan..... open minded kasi mga tao dito at hindi sila ganon ka-tsismosa. Personal life is personal ika nga.

    Personally being a Filipino kung live-in lang ang kayang i-offer sa yo ng isang lalaki, hindi sya worth it. Ewan ko ba, parang agrabyado kasi ang babae sa "live-in" set up. Ganito pala ang outlook kapag may anak kang babae 8)
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    June 3rd, 2003 05:15 AM #16
    Quote Originally Posted by pnay_fickle_minded
    i prefer live-in first.... dami nagseseperate pag kinasal na eh... at least ud have a chance of getting to know more of each other... may chance pa kayo kumalas if things didnt work out... saka na cguro marriage pag financially, physically, and emotionally stable na... but the prob is, papayagan ba ako ng parents ko if ever??? :cry:
    ok tong comment na toh ah, reminds me some of my past live-in GF. Kung gusto ng Kasal, ok lang. Kung gusto ng live-in, ok pa din. basta whatever satisfies her, satisfies me. ganun lang naman ka simple yun eh. Saka sa experiences ko, hindi naman napagusapan na "hey, live-in muna tayo ha" bigla bigla na lang, andun na mga gamit ko sa apartment nya at magkatabi na kami matulog at ginagawa na ang buhay mag-asawa without that piece of signed paper.
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    June 3rd, 2003 06:07 AM #17
    sa panahon ngayon, people are more into the "quality" of life. kasal nga kayo, away naman araw gabi. yung iba tagal na nag live-in at ok na ok sila, pero ba't nung ikasal sila, parang aso't pusa na? so i guess eh, kung saan ka masaya e suportahan ta ka :mrgreen:
    personally, para sa akin, walang quality of life kung hindi kayo kasal. because quality means going to a really comprehensive process, and able to pass a certain standard. and for me, that process is marriage, and standard is not the standard of men, but by God. And you know what? God's standard is so low that almost everyone can pass it, no brainer. You just have to believe in God and always live your life in prayer.
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    June 3rd, 2003 06:15 AM #18
    Amen ako jan preytoryan. 8)
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    June 3rd, 2003 06:25 AM #19
    heheh pakner... mahilig ka siguro magsubo ng ostya.... :mrgreen:
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    June 3rd, 2003 06:26 AM #20
    Quote Originally Posted by preytoryan
    heheh pakner... mahilig ka siguro magsubo ng ostya.... :mrgreen:
    nah, mahilig lang ako magpaluhod :lol:
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